My best friend and I have had many problems lately. She seems to be rude to me and doesn’t have many other friends. The last weekend was the worst, the last straw and just a bunch of stuff that finally fired me off.
I had made plans to go to a party with some other people and mentioned the party to her. She automatically assumed we were going together and why wouldn’t she were best friends. Well i had a Designated Driver and a place to stay so i didn’t want to lose this but i felt bad. She lied to me telling me she planned to go to the party with some girl and then my best guy friend derrick ( I talked to him later she simply made it up to make me feel jealous, but it didn’t work.) The night of the party she informs me she has no one to go with and wants to follow me and my friends out there. Ok i feel really bad this is my best friend. I tell her i’ll ride out there with her if she wants but inform her that i plan to get drunk, have fun, and this was the last football party of my highschool career. She says thats ok she didn’t plan on drinking. Later that night she gets upset with me and is rude telling me to stop drinking. She takes my vodka and gives it away along with my only cup and my lemonade. This angers me and she yells at me that she doesn’t want me to puke in her car.
When we leave she not only give me a ride but 3 other ppl whoms alcohol intake she didn’t monitor like mine. On the ride home she tells them my most embarassing secret, that i’d pissed my pants while throwing up when i was drunk. That is cold. I tell her that its wrong to use your best friend for 5 minutes of fame in front of people she doesn’t even talk to.
To cut things short this leads to a big fight in which i get sick of her lies and the way she treats me and tear her apart for all the shit shes done to me. She tells me shes going to beat me up and the next day (she works for my mom) calls my mom and tells her she can’t work with me b/c i said i was going to beat her up.
Anyways things haven’t changed, we haven’t talked since and the only thing that bothers me is that she doesn’t know why i’m upset. I can’t believe she would tell my most embarrassing secret to people she doesn’t talk to when she is sober!
I understand i shouldn’t of tore her apart like that but who is in the wrong in all of this?
She sounds insecure to me, but eh hem also more responsible. You kind of sound like two different people.
I’m confused about the beginning - was she invited to the party or not? It sounds like you are/were more concerned with drinking than you are your ‘friend’ – sorry, and since she doesn’t have other friends, makes her feel worse. . . ? But then again the whole think was a bit confusing to me so I could be wrong.
I’m also a bit confused. You had a designated driver, but she drove you home? She assumed you had invited her, but told you (initally) that she was going with someone else? Count me in for a big “WHAAA?”
Despite all the confusion, I have to say, if this isn’t an isolated incident, and you feel this is a friendship worth keeping, sit her down and have a long hearty talk of your situation. Tell her why she annoys you, and she’ll most likely tell you why you annoy her. It might result in a screaming, chair throwing event, but if you’re both sober and willing to make the friendship last, then it’ll pass. If not, it’s high school, chances are, after you’re over and done with it, you won’t see her again.
I didn’t invite her b/c i had plans with other people but i did tell her about it. She wasn’t upset about it at the time coming back with well i’m going with so and so. My DD was one of the other 4 girls i was going with in the beginning and i planned on staying at the DD’s house. Anyways i think i’m pretty responsible or i would of drove home.
I just want you to know that your post made me get down on my knees and thank God I’m not in high school anymore.
And if she wasn’t sober enough to keep your darkest secret, she wasn’t sober enough to drive you home. You’re not going to give a crap what she tells to whom if you end up wrapped around a telephone pole.
My earnest prayer for the OP was that their horrid English, or should I say the mangled vestige thereof, was the result of excesses from the hops & barley food groups, and not the misbegotten product of 12 wasted years, cruelly disguised as an education. :rolleyes:
[Missy goes uncharacteristically ballistic because she’s had enough of the moronic element infecting this board lately]
Ok, I’m going to try this one last time (hamsters eating posts and all).
First of all, Sanguine Spider, good call. Ya nailed it.
danceswithcats, I wonder if there’s even hope for our school systems, considering this is the drivel (and I don’t use that term lightly) we’re putting out. I fear for the future generations, if 4whogivesadamn is any indication of intelligence.
4gotnwhogivesafuck, you are too young to be drinking, first of all. Second, you’re a moron - take your fucking vodka, get the fuck off my streets, stay away from my family, and be a drunk on your OWN time. Who the fuck do you think you are? Your attitude SUCKS. GROW UP. Guess what, sweetcheeks - it ain’t all ABOUT you!
One last thing, “would of” is not correct - nor is whose. It’s Who Is = that makes Who’s. Would of should be would have - which makes who’ve- grow up, idiot. And learn how to spell. You’re irritating the living daylights out of me.
Good God - Spring Break isn’t for awhile yet, is it? Yet I have need to deal with idiocy like this? Can’t we put in an “if you post and act like a moronic teeanager with your head up your ass you’re outta here” clause? Mods? Please? I’m begging - and ready to pay.
[/Missy goes uncharacteristically ballistic because she’s had enough of the moronic element infecting this board lately]
4got
I must agree with everyone that your grammar needs serious improvement:
When we leave she not only give me a ride but 3 other ppl whoms alcohol intake she didn’t monitor like mine.
I tell her that its wrong
She hadn’t drank anything
Okay, that being said, I feel that she was the one that was out of line. Also, as others have said, if you really like this girl and if you think the relationship can still be repaired, then it is time for a long serious talk with her.
Also, you have about 6 months of high school left. I hope in that time that your teachers have learned ya to speaks English really good.
Moderator’s Notes:
Yikes! Missy, that was rather out of line for this forum (and out of character for you), as has been noted. Please confine your invective to the Pit. I’d also make the observation that there are other posts that are more harsh than need be; many of those criticizing the OP’s grammar. Yeah, it could stand some improvement, but berating the guy ain’t gonna help.
The kid’s got troubles that are important to him. If you don’t have constructive topical advice, keep your thoughts to yourself. Or at least couch them in a more polite form.
4gottnname She did you a favor by telling your secret. Secrets like the one she told, are powerless once told. It embarrassed you for a minute. Everyone got a laugh at your expense, but now that it’s told, who cares? It isn’t earth shattering. Now you don’t have to be concerned about it. There will always be little tidbits of information that makes us blush. Keeping it quiet seems the smart thing to do, but telling all one’s dirty little secrets, disarms them. Have the self confidence to say anything You’ll actually gain respect.
One other thing, I’m assuming you’re around 17 years old. Your brain is still developing, do you really want to kill off all those brain cells before you even have a chance to use them? Stop drinking.
Talk to your friend. You were both wrong. Start fresh.
