I was off two weeks without pay from work and have realized that I’m going to be short on cash the next two weeks until I get a paycheck on the 10th. When I was off work my dad had asked me if I needed any money and at the time I said no because I didn’t think I would need it. He told me to let him know if I needed some money and he’d loan it to me. I thought, “Cool. If I need some cash I’ll just ask dad, no problem.” Well, it’s been harder than I thought. I’ve only borrowed money from my dad one time in the 7 1/2 years I’ve lived on my own and I hated asking for it then even thought I know that he’s more than happy to help me with anything I need.
Well, I went over last night to pick up some stuff he had for me and I was going to ask him then but just couldn’t bring myself to do it. It must be my pride or something. I just feel like I’m failing as an adult if I have to ask my “Daddy” for money. I’m gonna have to suck it up and ask him today because I’m gonna need the money this week to pay some bills. I just don’t know why I’m such a big wuss when it comes to this! It drives me nuts. I’m sure he knows that I need to borrow some money because I mentioned something to my mom about it and I’m sure that she told him. Why am I like this!!
Would it be in bad taste to call him at home today (knowing that he’s working and won’t be there to answer the phone) and leave a message asking for the money. I think it would be a lot easier doing it that way than me having to do it face to face! I’ve tried twice now and haven’t been able to do it! I’m such a wuss!!!
You don’t sound like your spoiled at all. Everyone from time to time needs a little help. Don’t be ashamed, call him (when he’s home, facing it will help you grow as a person) and ask him. He will completely understand.
I’ve completely hated having to ask my parents for money. But you really should do the face to face thing, or at least actually talk to him. I know that it’d be easier to leave a message, but much better to call when he’d be home.
The way I see it is that there is a big difference asking your father for a short term loan, knowing that he will get it back to borrowing it indefinately.
I have the same problem with my father. He doesn’t make it difficult to borrow money from, it’s my own stupid pride. I’ve learnt that life isn’t always running the way you’d like it too,and shit happens. It’s only a loan - be brave, either phone him when you know that he’s in, or go see him. Keep it casual - let him know that because you’ve been off from work you need a small loan to pay bills. I’m sure he’ll be happy to lend it to you. It’s not like you’re gonna blow the lot of wild parties (if you do, can I come?).
I totally, 100% percent understand. It is like you feel that although he loves you and wants to help you, you feel like you are letting him down? That is how I feel. I wasn’t working for the first few months of summer and it was hard. We had to scrimp to buy food. I ended up not asking, and I regret it. I kinda hurt my Dad because he wanted to help me.
I would let your Dad know how hard it is for you. Then think if it was sister/brother/cousin/friend. Would you want to give them money to help them out?
Good Luck. It won’t be easy.
(and I don’t think you are a wuss at ALL!! If anything I think you are really proud and strong to not go running to Daddy unless you REALLY need to.)
I hate spoiled people who abuse their friends by continually asking for favors and I have no problem rejecting their requests.
I also hate it when a good friend for whom I would do anything, in fact for whom I would love to do anything, does not ask for a favor because he prefers to resolve it the harder way. I am always honored when a good friend asks a favor from me and there is nothing wrong with asking for a favor if you do not abuse that.
If the person you are asking knows that you would do the same thing if the situation were reversed then I see nothing wrong with asking. Furthermore, it is a good moment to tell that person that you care, that you appreciate and that you are asking him because you consider him your good friend and know you would both help each other out.
The person you are asking will feel proud of your friendship and glad to help you out. Of course, if you do this every Thursday and every other Tuesday, then it begins to wear a bit thin.