For some reason, Young women like to keep track of how many guys they have kissed.
Well, she called yesterday, and sounded ‘heartbroken/disappointed’ when she found out that I wasn’t home.
Are you wondering if the ‘heartbreak/disappointment’ is related to the kiss? Maybe, but then again, there’s a world of difference between heartbreak and disappointment. Either way, I wouldn’t sweat it.
One small, insignificant piece of advice - if that was her first kiss, it may mean something “extra” to her. Which isn’t to say that it’s a sign of true love, but we’re all at least a little picky about our firsts, y’know?
No, I don’t think it was her first kiss… Actually, I’m pretty sure it wasn’t. The heartbreak/disappointed thing was what my mom said.
Her: “When she found out you weren’t here, she was heartbroken”
Me: “Huh?”
Her: “She sounded dissapointed”
Two points…
You only THINK that’s a classic attourney answer. Boy, that sounds like a Rabbi to me! At least, that’s what Rabbi Fischman always says… 
Speaker, I’d say don’t let it get to you. She’s almost certainly as confused as you are. Even if she’s been kissed before it probably hasn’t been often. So treat her with some respect and see what happens. Don’t get involved in any head games, it won’t help and it’s bad for your digestion. I speak the truth.
Speaker, I hope you didn’t take my last post as a slam, I didn’t intend it that way. More as an aside to those that have gone before you, us older folk 
vix is right, of course, that kissing is a big, huge deal, especially at that age. Kudos to you, Speaker, for taking that step. And now you say she’s calling you…good sign.
Any more thoughts on your inner hormones v. “do I realy like her” debate? Once again, I say just go with the flow, my man, you look like you’re doing good from here.
Speaker, don’t let it get you too wrapped around the axle. You’re 14. Your early teen years are going to be all about experimentation. If you’ve already kissed a girl at 14, well, you’re ahead of where I was at 14. BTW, finding a girl to kiss at 14 isn’t easy for anyone, regardless of what they might tell you.
At 14 it’s all about seeing what all the whispers and rumours were really about. Spin the bottle, 5 min. in the closet, truth or dare, ad infinitum…these are all about trying new exciting things, not about “likeing” someone or not. You shouldn’t feel guilty in the least, you’re just going through what everyone goes through.
As has been stated before, go with the flow. Have fun. Don’t get into the whole serious relationship thing yet. You’ll have plenty of time for that later.
Whatever you decide, good luck.
Hmm, I think I left another part out–I’m SURE I don’t like her, since I have my eyes on another girl. Problem is, that I have no chance with that other girl, and I can’t get over her.
Hmmm this changes things a bit huh?
I can understand your feelings of frustration over unrequited love and how painful that can be. I’m hoping that you kissed the other girl in an effort to maybe get your mind off girl #1 and to see if you can get that same feeling with another. This is a dangerous game to play so proceed with caution.
You must realize that the girl you kissed must have thought that the kiss meant something since she is calling you and sounding dissapointed that she missed you. It is very easy to fall into infatuation when the hormones are running rampant, especially when kissing is involved.
If you do not intend to pursue a relationship with this second girl please do not string her on. That would be cruel. For the love of God, don’t tell her that you didn’t have any feelings for her when you kissed her. Tell her you’re confused, you don’t know what you want yet and that you need to make up your mind or something similar. Don’t tell her about girl #1 and vice versa.
Just keep it honest with no game playing and it’ll work out. It always does.
Yeah, that’s what I was worrying about. But I’m not a good talker, how am I supposed to do this?
I can’t tell you what to say, honestly.
Perhaps you could start by telling the girl–let’s call her Judy, I just can’t keep saying girl #2–“Judy, I want to talk about the kiss.” and go from there. Say you enjoyed it and that you think that she is a sweet girl or whatever and that you value your friendship and would never want to do anything intentionaly to hurt her. Also that you have some things you need to work out before you can get into a serious relationship with her or anyone. I’m not sure of the words to say and “it’s not you it’s me” is one of the oldest cliches around. But I think that is the correct approach. I would find it easier to take that way.
I don’t know, I’m kinda out of touch on things like this myself. Does anyone else have a better way to say it?