I kissed a girl today. We met in person on friday, but talked a lot online over the weeklong break 2 weeks ago. I’m not sure if I like her like that, and I think I let hormones take over. Should I feel guilty?
Okay…classic attorney answer: It depends.
First, if you have a personal moral qualm about kissing people when YOU do not like them - then that guilt is up to you.
Second, let’s say she felt the same way you did - not sure she likes you but what the hell…she’ll kiss you. Then I wouldn’t lose any sleep over it.
Third, let’s say she’s nuts about you - then you should feel guilty if you KNEW that was how she felt and you KNEW it would greatly hurt her feelings. Basically - why fuck with someone’s head/heart?
If you kissing her is going to mislead her and you KNOW that, then yeah, maybe a little guilt wouldn’t be bad.
If she knows you are a litte kissing bandit and it doesn’t really mean much to you then she accepted that when you started to smoochie.
So basically…need more info. Is she gonna think you like her now? Did you KNOW that’s how she’d feel? Fill us in - more details, please! 
Tibs.
Is this the one whose pants you were supposed to be getting into?
Wow… that doesn’t sound good at all.
DIDJA GET IN HER PANTS?!?!
that’s better.
anyways, no… you shouldn’t. Unless she didn’t want to be kissed, in which case, maybe, maybe not.
Nope, oldie, it was another (less hot) girl. Well, she said she liked me, but that was only after knowing me for about 2 days, soo yeah. I’m not sure.
Oh, and the first girl, the hot one, was the one that didn’t want to be kissed.
please what is it with you guys kissing girls when you either arent sure you like them like that or you know you dont like them like that but you do it anyway just cause. I dont understand you…do you like to lead girls on and then change your mind if you do decide ummmm maybe I didnt like you like that sorry. Just my opinion and it doesnt really count but you should stop and think for a second how its going to affect the other person before you do it when you are sure or you do it because the setting was right even though you dont feel for her like that. Guys are soo confusing at times!
If something’s holding you back, it’s probably for a good reason. I had that feeling, but I did end up going out with the girl, and she just kinda… made me feel icky. We broke up in a week though, so it was all good.
Okay, I’m going to put it out there for all y’all to understand:
What’s the big deal? It’s not like they’re making plans to move in together. They spoke/chatted with each other, decided to meet, met, decided they liked each other at least somewhat, and they kissed. They didn’t go to a hotel, they didn’t even grope each other (I’m guessing), they kissed.
Kissing can be the most intimate act between two people in love, but it is also usually the first bit of intimacy shared between people that may want to move further than friends.
If both of you had hormones going and you decided to act on them, so what? What is the big deal here?
[sub]Tibs, I’m surprised you didn’t ask about her boobage.[/sub]
Kermit, the reason guys are so confusing is that we’re horny. It’s a general rule of thumb.
It’s not like men have the market cornered on ambiguous kisses. Relationship weirdness knows no gender.
Speaker, I’d say it’s only an issue if she has expectations you’re not prepared to live up to. I suggest talking to her about it.
Speaker for the Dead, I would heed Lux Fiat’s advice.
Just a thought…
Have you pondered why she might have kissed you ?
Uhhh, not really…
If she ‘likes’ me (aka a crush), I at least know it couldn’t be anything big–we haven’t known each other long enough.
Kissing a girl is an inherently good thing. The question isn’t why did you kiss this girl. The question is when are you going to get around to all the other girls that need kissing?
Which body part did you kiss?
So many girls,
Such limited lip acreage…
Really, I can’t recall any trouble I ever got into from kissing… it’s when the lips are engaged in other activities (like speaking) that the trouble starts…
Man, if you’re second-guessing yourself so much over a kiss, just wait until you start having sex!
Talk about mind games wrapped in a puzzle tied up in an enigma…
Hey thinksnow, go easy on him. Don’t you remember when kissing someone was a huge, HUGE big deal?
Speaker, do I correctly recall that you’re in high school? I hope I’m not insulting you, but I seem to remember that you’re about 14?
You’ve already gotten the good advice - talk to her. She’ll appreciate it. I know I would have.
(And no, you shouldn’t feel guilty, but I appreciate the fact that you’d even consider it. On behalf of girls your age, I thank you!)
Yeah, I’m 14
Yeah, it is a big deal. One of the reasons I kissed her was that finding a girl to kiss isn’t exactly easy for me.
Hiya,
I wouldn’t sweat it too much. If it’s going to give you heartburn, though - just ask her and see how she feels about it.
And Thinksnow, I can’t ask about the boobage of someone under 18!! First, it’s just wrong…second, it isn’t fair to the girl when she might just have small boobage due to not having fully developed.
Whoops, getting off topic.
Tibs.