Why do obese women all dress the same?

The BBQ Pit
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[QUOTE=DellieM]
So to you stupids out there, my husband and I and a lot of other posters too I’m guessing may be overweight, but as one poster said, we’re too busy raising our family, paying the mortgage, laughing with friends etc, to find 3 hours a day to ‘work our sinful arses off’. I add also, I’ve never been happier in my life, and additionally, I have paid my taxes all my life and we have private health insurance, life insurance, mortgage insurance and death and disability insurance, so don’t worry, any health expenses associated with our choice to eat fried foods, or that second bowl of icecream will never impact on your wallets. So take your pious beliefs and eat them.
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Congratulations to you, your husband, and the skinny chick your husband will be banging while you bury your porcine cheeks in a bucket of fudge ripple.

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[QUOTE=Really Not All That Bright]
I don’t have a problem with fat people; it’s your life, your stomach, and your body, and you can treat it however you wish.

I don’t think it’s worth trying to lose weight because of what other people think. I do think it’s worth attempting to lose weight WRT your future health.
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My opinion too.

I don’t know for certain if being fat is bad for other people, though I strongly suspect it is - that is their concern. I do know it was bad for me. Since I lost weight, I’m a lot healthier.

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[QUOTE=DellieM]
And for all you wonderful posters, fat, thin, man, woman, chicken, tall, short etc - rousing applause for stating the obvious - fatties are not necessarily going without love night after night, nor affection, nor do they have a shortage of admirers, and not always is being fat a matter of discipline.
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The OP said nothing of the sort. In fact, he seemed to be an admirer of women of larger stature.

WRT the underlined portion, the bottom line is that unless you have a medical condition of some sort (which is much rarer than many would have you believe), it really is just a matter of discipline. Those of us with endomorphic body types can’t eat like mesomorphs or ectomorphs. No, it’s not fair. It is what it is. You (general you) can either choose to educate yourself and make a few lifestyle changes, or you can bitch about how you “eat like a bird” but can’t lose any weight.

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There’s a middle ground between obesity and starvation. The way some people are talking in this thread, you’d have thought it impossible for somebody to just be a “normal” weight without the need for women to resort to breast implants to make up for their skinny “non-bodies”.

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[QUOTE=Vinyl Turnip]
Congratulations to you, your husband, and the skinny chick your husband will be banging while you bury your porcine cheeks in a bucket of fudge ripple.
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Whatever man, you have no idea. I’m a fatty and I am fucking an awfully hot 19 year old. I’m sure you won’t believe me, but I know and he knows. He doesn’t date me…doesn’t want the world to see he likes girls llike me, which is fine with me for a multitude of reasons. But when we are alone…mmmmm

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[QUOTE=faire_jour]
He doesn’t date me…doesn’t want the world to see he likes girls llike me, which is fine with me for a multitude of reasons.
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I put up with that treatment for a quite a few years and looking back, it’s hard to believe. Of course, I was 19 too and didn’t know any better.

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[QUOTE=gigi]
I put up with that treatment for a quite a few years and looking back, it’s hard to believe. Of course, I was 19 too and didn’t know any better.
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Yeah, I’m 28 and still legally married…I’m a big girl, I can handle it.

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[QUOTE=gigi]
I put up with that treatment for a quite a few years and looking back, it’s hard to believe. Of course, I was 19 too and didn’t know any better.
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Yeah, I’m 28 and still legally married…I’m a big girl, I can handle it.

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Sorry, I misread it as you being a fucking hot 19-year-old getting used by some guy.

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[QUOTE=gigi]
Sorry, I misread it as you being a fucking hot 19-year-old getting used by some guy.
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Nope, I’m a 28 year old fatty being fucked by a hot 19 year old…

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This letter to Savage Love may be of interest to a few posters above (excerpt below)

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[QUOTE=faire_jour]
Nope, I’m a 28 year old fatty being fucked by a hot 19 year old…
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Yup. When you’re 19 and male, an available vagina means a lot. Since he’s keeping you hidden away otherwise, smart money says that’s what you are to him.

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[QUOTE=Malacandra]
Yup. When you’re 19 and male, an available vagina means a lot. Since he’s keeping you hidden away otherwise, smart money says that’s what you are to him.
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Never said I was more than that. I was pointing out to the jerk who said that a man would always cheat on his overweight wife with a skinny chick, that things don’t always end up that way.

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[QUOTE=faire_jour]
Never said I was more than that. I was pointing out to the jerk who said that a man would always cheat on his overweight wife with a skinny chick, that things don’t always end up that way.
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Didn’t disprove his assertion in the slightest, though, for reasons that should be obvious.

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[QUOTE=faire_jour]
Never said I was more than that. I was pointing out to the jerk who said that a man would always cheat on his overweight wife with a skinny chick, that things don’t always end up that way.
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True. He might have a chubby mistress cloistered away somewhere to whom he pays occasional stealthy, shame-ridden booty calls.

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[QUOTE=Vinyl Turnip]
True. He might have a chubby mistress cloistered away somewhere to whom he pays occasional stealthy, shame-ridden booty calls.
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That’s right. It is always possible. I don’t think that it should be assumed that because a man is involved with a heavy woman that he is secretly looking for a skinny girl to have sexy with on the side. It happens that way sometimes, but the poster implied it was a rule.

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[QUOTE=DellieM]
Right - having sat here and read all the posts in response to the obese women all dressing the same, there was a constant undercurrent of ‘fat is unattractive’, ‘obese and unhealthy are not desirable traits’ etc. And for all you wonderful posters, fat, thin, man, woman, chicken, tall, short etc - rousing applause for stating the obvious - fatties are not necessarily going without love night after night, nor affection, nor do they have a shortage of admirers, and not always is being fat a matter of discipline.

I am short and I come under the banner of obese. I’m a standard size 14, and how I dress doesn’t matter. I met my husband in a carpark and couldn’t take my eyes off him. He’s 6’3" and weights 110 kgs (don’t know in imperial) and at the time we met I was severely thin to the point of bony. It was love at first sight. Since that moment 4 years ago, he has maintained his weight, and I have put more on - and I am loving my life and the vitality and joy that every day brings - and one reason for this is that I never worry about my weight.

I have a beautiful friend who was a size 8 for many years, and seemingly overnight following her marriage, she ballooned to a size 18. I’m talking fat face, fat ankles etc and the comments of people around her were awful. Except that she was fighting thyroid cancer and the treatment she’s on has ballooned her weight. But instead of telling people why, she let them talk and I had to ask her why and with dignity she said "apparently, being fat is more important than the fact that I’m still alive".

So to you stupids out there, my husband and I and a lot of other posters too I’m guessing may be overweight, but as one poster said, we’re too busy raising our family, paying the mortgage, laughing with friends etc, to find 3 hours a day to ‘work our sinful arses off’. I add also, I’ve never been happier in my life, and additionally, I have paid my taxes all my life and we have private health insurance, life insurance, mortgage insurance and death and disability insurance, so don’t worry, any health expenses associated with our choice to eat fried foods, or that second bowl of icecream will never impact on your wallets. So take your pious beliefs and eat them. With King Island Double Cream.
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I certainly don’t think anyone should degrade you or attempt to make you feel inferior. I also don’t understand or agree with the attitude some people have about feeling superior or that overweight people are somehow not worthy of love.

I do take exception to a couple of things. First, it doesn’t take 3 hours to workout and be fit. You may be exaggerating for comic effect, but let’s not perpetuate that silly idea.

Also, in your reply you seem to insinuate that because you are so busy having a life, you don’t have time to work out. I have a life, a mortgage, a job, etc… and I work out every day. I don’t think less of you for not working out, but it seems as if you’re judging those of us who do just like you feel you’re being judged for your choices. I’m not being pious (as you suggest some people are), I’m simply stating my experience. You choose to do other things with your time, I choose to workout. Please step down from your high horse and realize that we all have lives of our own.

Just as you’ve experienced people’s prejudices regarding you size, a quick look around the board shows (just as in life) there is a fair amount of judging for people who do choose to stay fit. The words fat/obese/overweight seem to be a hot button topic on these boards. The slightest amount of discussion seems as if it escalates to unreasonable levels with an us/them mentality.

What other people choose to do with their bodies & health is none of my business. We all make choices. Just as our trollish OP likes to use words to designed to inflame, it isn’t a rare thing to see Dopers (not you specifically) throw around words like anorexic, stick figure, built like a boy, real woman, and the like when describing women of “normal” weights. Yes, there are anorexic women in the world, but sometimes these words are used to describe women who are not anorexic, just not overweight.

Believe me, the judgment flows in both directions.

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[QUOTE=Sleeps With Butterflies]

I do take exception to a couple of things. First, it doesn’t take 3 hours to workout and be fit. You may be exaggerating for comic effect, but let’s not perpetuate that silly idea.

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I think they chose 3 hours because a previous poster said that she worked out 3 hours everyday to keep from being fat.

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[QUOTE=faire_jour]
I think they chose 3 hours because a previous poster said that she worked out 3 hours everyday to keep from being fat.
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Ah. Fair enough.

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[QUOTE=Vinyl Turnip]
Congratulations to you, your husband, and the skinny chick your husband will be banging while you bury your porcine cheeks in a bucket of fudge ripple.
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Nevermind all the idiocy and appeasement being tossed about this thread, as I read this post then re-read it, I imagined Stewie from Family Guy saying it and about spit out my coffee.

Brilliant.
As a fat bastard myself, I’ve experienced a ride on the same tubby roller coaster for the majority of my life. Finally, after all this time, I’ve taken control of my future, put my shoulder to the grindstone and am slowly losing all of my excess weight (35# down, about 70# more to go).

My take on it is this:

  1. Fat is no different than thin. Some people like it, some people don’t. If you’re comfortable and able to operate in your own skin, no matter how much or little of it there is, then Bob’s your uncle, problem solved.

  2. If you don’t like your body, 8 of 10 times you have the tools at your disposal to fix it. If you don’t use those tools, then that’s on you.

  3. It’s none of my business what you weigh. It’s also none of my business to tell you you’ve got to ‘accept’ fat people. If you find fat disgusting, well, that’s your deal. Ditto on uber thin. Say whatever you want, just don’t expect your opinion to go untested if you choose to voice it.

  4. Sometimes, fat can’t be helped. Those scenarios are fewer and farther between than the fatties would like to think they are. Insulin resistance, PCOS in women, diabetes, hypothyroidism and a host of other hard-to-overcome maladies do exist, but not everyone’s got them, some people just eat too damn much of the wrong (or in some cases right) stuff. The facts are that eating healthy has as much to do with what you’re putting in your maw as it does with how much of it you shovel in. 2000 calories devoted to french fries and cupcakes ain’t gonna get or keep you healthy.

  5. Changing your life is a bitch. It’s hard because it’s worth it. No, it doesn’t matter if Ashton Kutcher thinks you’re fuckable, but if you’re 30, toting around an oxygen cylinder and can’t climb a flight of stairs because you can’t pass a McDonalds, being fuckable is the least of your worries.

  6. Now, as far as the moped theory is concerned* if you’re comfortable with it, that’s your deal. It’s a horrible way to be treated by another human being, IMO of course, but if you’re down, you’re down, none of my business.
    The key here, I think, is to remember that no matter the someTHING we’re talking about, there’s a someONE who is that thing. You can act any way you choose, but know that it doesn’t go without consequences that you may never see or feel.
    *The moped theory is that fat girls are like mopeds, they’re both fun to ride, but you don’t want your friends to see you on one. I don’t subscribe to it, mind you, but it is what it is.