I must say I’m rather surprised at the number of presumably female posters saying their male SOs just aren’t computer savvy at all! I was expecting quite the opposite.
Anyway, ms. Tabbycat used to lurk a bit, but I don’t think she likes message boards very much. Face to face, or blogs, are much preferred.
My wife enjoys the occasional link I send her, and is sometimes tempted. But she works at home on the PC all day, so anything which has the potential to be a giant time-consumer is real dangerous to her productivity.
Said another way, she sees how much of my free time goes down this rat-hole (just kidding) and realizes that once she starts, she won’t be able to stop either.
minor digression / hijack …
My wife & I share everything & get along great. Here on the SDMB I only expose the more bland parts of my personality. But somehow I’m just a little uncomfortable with the idea of her being a regular here. Sure, she could search & read everything I’ve ever written here, as could anyone else on Earth, whether she’s a poster or not. I can’t quite figure out why it bothers me, and that bothers me too.
**Cluri **- that sounds a bit frustrating…indifference is one thing; scorn is another.
My wife knows about it - I reference it often enough in conversations. Not even remotely her thing; she has other interests that engage her and that’s cool - but she’s certainly fine with the fact that I really enjoy it. She lurks on other message boards but is not interested in actively posting.
I will say that there is a bit of an “understanding” that I won’t let my online life intrude with family life - but that’s true about work, being in a band, etc. So something like a Dopefest on a weekend is just very unlikely - just like I avoid working over the weekend, etc.
Mrs. Chef used to complain about all the time I spent online in general and on the Dope in particular. I decided to squelch her in the most underhanded way possible.
So I got her her own computer.
Now she spends more time online than I do.
Not the Dope, though. She prefers Fark.com. I’ve never given her any sign that I don’t want her on here, and I don’t THINK she’s made any conscious decision to give me my own space, she just prefers Farking around to doing Dope.
Well, it used to be more than it is now. She still shakes her head when I waste time that could be used to be giving backrubs to go upstairs and talk to “internet nerds” but she knows how important the Dope is to me, so we’ve got a deal. She chills out about the Dope, I agree not to shoot the television any time she watches VH1.
Relationships are all about comprimise man. 
She doesn’t have a ton of time, and participating in the SDMB would seem too much like work to her. She prefers decompressing by watching TV or playing Civ III, or killing some monsters in Diablo II or WoW.
Joe
I’ve been surprised at sort of the same thing - that people who are very active online are paired up with people who aren’t. My husband is very tech savvy (moreso than I am!) and he posts to messageboards and has a blog and all that, so he gets why I come here, this just isn’t his place.
I tried to sneak and post here, because I knew my husband would say just what he said…“You just lost every cool point you ever scored with me.”
Every time I go to NYC, I wanna call 5-4-Fighting and ask him to let me treat him to some soul food…but then I remember that my best friend Xina would want to know how I know him, and I am not wanting to admit to this whole message board deal.
I was the SO that didn’t participate for a while there – all the paid subscription years. But now that I can post for free again, I’m back. 
My wife, featherlou, has kept me in the loop during my absence and we have met quite a few Dopers over the years in a few different cities (all very cool!), so it almost feels like I never left.
While I was away, I participated in another message board which is far less intellectually rigourous, but it turns out that board is mostly populated by morons. So it is rather refreshing to be back seeing what smart people have to say.
My wife lurks but does not want to post. She has answered* some GQ and Café questions concerning AT&T and Northern Exposure as she is a good knowledge base or expert on the subjects.
She always enjoys the American Idol thread as I don’t watch the show. She likes the Doper takes on it.
She has been extremely good about sharing hosting duties of the Jersey Dopefests and she drove out to Gettysburg with me this year and one other event.
She reads MBs but does not post on any. That’s a shame as she is a better writer than I am and probably smarter to boot. She is also a nicer person.