Okay, I’ve read some of ryan’s other threads, and it looks like the whole family’s dysfunctional. Also, he didn’t just get laid off; he got sacked.
That said, I believe finding his own place is not as simple in England as it is here in the US. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think there are a lot of hoops to jump through, as opposed to here where you just have to put down a deposit and first/last, and provide a reference that may or may not be checked. So he may not have the option of moving out, like, tomorrow.
That’s a pretty damn shitty thing to say to someone.
There are a whole lot of unemployed people in the world right now who really, really wish they were working. But hey, at least they have you to shit on them.
Stop being coy. You know good and damn well that was a slam at the OP’s unemployed status.
Quit acting like you tried to offer anything resembling constructive criticism. Nobody here is buying that load of crap, when it’s obvious all you did was show up and call the OP a name.
The funny thing is, you’re (rightly) complaining in one thread about unfair characterizations, then engaging in the same behavior here. Did that not trigger your irony meter just a little bit as you were toggling back and forth between the two?
The OP has been unemployed for 4 months, living off his brother and has the gall to criticize his bro for ‘working long hours’ in his OP. If your irony meter didn’t ping at that fine, but mine is going off full tilt.
My comments were directed at the OP, and they may not have been 100% supportive of his position. If you choose to extrapolate that to every unemployed person in the world…well, that’s on you. It’s not an accurate reflection of my opinion, but if you choose to believe it, so be it.
I didn’t read that as a criticism, just as a reason why he might be cranky. I also caught the part where is brother was unemployed in the past. Calling the OP a dead beat was a shitty thing to say, and offered nothing to the discussion.
You don’t get to throw a jab at a group of people, then cry “no offense” to all the people who find it offensive as hell.
Yeah. “I’m better than the OP, because I am employed and can support myself. No offense to all you people who are unemployed and can’t support yourselves.”
Whatever was I thinking in my “choice” to interpret it as a shitty remark?
He’s like that with my other two brothers. I mentioned the Marijuana use because I thought that might contribute to all this, I dunno, maybe he’s going through withdrawal, he has constant mood swings.
Working out how to make a bag of spuds last a week? (Yes, thats right)
Look I apologise, I’m quite introverted in real life, so I don’t usually talk about family stuff unless its’ to another person in my family, so I’m coming off angry here because I’ve had to repress it.
My point is that your statement above is totally full of shit. There are a ton of people who are busting their asses trying to get a job right now. 213,000 in my state alone have been trying for over 6 months. Almost a half a million total.
You seem to think that getting a job at McDonalds is something that is easy to do. You ever tried getting hired by McDonalds? They just loooove hiring college educated people who are going to bolt as soon as possible, let me tell you.
I read your OP and like any business agreement when one side is not keeping up the bargain you can be asked to leave. Right now you should spend all day pounding the pavement with a bag lunch and I bet you would have a job in a week. It takes effort to get a job and effort to keep one.
You can’t change your brother, only yourself, so get going. Get out there every day and put in apps and go business to business. When you get a job look at Craigslist for a roommate situation and get out of your brothers. You will both be happier for it.
My son was unemployed when Russell Stover went out of business and I kept on him because I cared. He went to unemployment and got listings and within a week he got his current job he has had for years now. Left to his own devices he would have sat and played Mortal Combat all day long. Sometimes we need a push.
Maybe, and being a ‘deadbeat’ as you eloquently put it, aint one of them.
Why are you grating on me? Ever since you’ve contributed to this thread you’ve blindly assumed I’m not doing anything to alleviate my current position, hell, you didn’t even bother to read the OP thoroughly, you just acted like a bull in a china shop and stomped around to make your point. I get it, I’m unemployed, I also understand I’m an ungrateful SOB who doesn’t appreciate what his brother is doing for him. I understand all that, what I don’t understand is why you seem to think I haven’t thought about that myself during the time I’ve lived off my generous government allowance. You know I can empathise, I have been in my brothers position, however as I stated in the OP, there’s alot more going on than that.
One side of this has yet to be brought up and it exists in the background…
Are your parents pressuring him? Are they doing that parent thing of ‘he’s your little brother, you HAVE to help him’ stuff?
If they are, they are bringing up lots of early teen resentment that he’s already been through. You know he hated you then - all older siblings go through that time.
Perhaps, a little confab with your folks is in order. Because if they are doing this, then you need to first, be aware of it taking place and second, tell them what it’s producing in your brother’s behavior.
Then tell your folks that you two are grown ups and don’t need or want mom and dad saying ‘play nice or else’. That doesn’t work with people who’ve moved away from home. Ever.
