I mean, why would a man in a committed relationship prefer to watch porn to satisfy his needs than initiate sex with his hot girlfriend?
There are dozens of relationship dysfunctions that can lead to such behaviors.
I have dated several women who despite being smoking hot by any standards did not make them ideal partners for me. Different people need different things and those things tend to change over time.
Variety is the spice of life perhaps? Forebidden fruit is sweeter? Wanting more than you have but not willing to be unfaithful to achieve it? Or perhaps he i8s feeling imtimadated by the GF; ie too much work to please the high maintanacne biatch.
Before we can determine WHY porn is an epidemic, shouldn’t we first establish that porn is, in fact, an epidemic?
Some hot girlfriends - or even not so hot; don’t, I urge you, believe that crap about how fat chicks try harder - may be unwilling to put out. The guy may figure the relationship’s not yet beyond saving, but meanwhile would rather get a little action than not, even if the action involves a DVD or internet connection.
That’s not “action”! That’s like paying your hand for services rendered. Whatever did we do before widely available porn, I’m wondering?
For me, it’s sometimes just a matter of convenience. She’s sleeping and disinterested. I’m awake and horny.
Sometimes it’s to satisfy an fantasy urge that I couldn’t do (and probably wouldn’t want to do) in real life. Some of the kinks I sometimes feel an urge for are a big turnoff for my wife; and would also be a big turnoff for me if they involved my wife.
For example, I find the idea of a threesome titillating. But mix my wife into it, and I start to feel conflicting emotions of jealousy and inadequacy. And knowing it’s personally impractical / unobtainable makes it more exciting. I’ll imagine it. I’ll fantasize about it. I’ll watch a screen where people are doing it. But I won’t ever actually do it.
The reason men like to look at pictures the evoke sex:
Evolution.
It’s as simple as that.
I like looking at girls/women that are younger and prettier than my wife. I also like to watch people do things to each other (cunninlingus, fellatio) that my wife will not do to me nor let me do to her. I know…it sucks.
Or not…as the case may be.
ok do I need more coffee to read this or is malacandra in need of more coffee before posting.
I doubt most men would prefer to masturbate to porn rather than having sex with their hot girlfriend, but that’s not always an option.
Is this question about a specific situation that you’re wondering about? In that case it might be more effective to describe it in more detail over in MPSIMS or something rather than asking this particular question here.
If not … well, again, sometimes the “sex with the girlfriend/wife” thing just isn’t an option. Maybe there is no girlfriend/wife, or maybe she’s not in the mood for sex when he is.
Because she’s asleep and gets grouchy if she is woken up. Because there are some things she does not enjoy doing that he wants to fantasize about. becaue his girlfriend is not as “hot” as she seems to think. Because physical sex is not as strongly linked in men to emotional intimacy as it is for women. Because he is a jerk.
Take your pick.
I think Malacandra is arguing that the OP is basing their argument on an invalid assumption.
drachillix- Thank you, I like your answer. chorpler- What is MPSIMS? I’m new to SD, pardon me.
It’s an unintended consequence of the sexual revolution. For a man, all sex must be paid for, either as a commodity (as prostitution or porn) or by trading himself as a commodity (being conventionally manly enough to “score,” or high-status enough to allow a close and loving relationship).
Hasn’t this question been asked here twelve times in the past month?
Because no matter how hot a woman is there comes a time when you’re tired of putting up with her shit.
Because she’s not always around and my hand stays at the end of my arm.
Hi, I’m a woman who looks at porn. I also have a lot of sex with my husband. The two things are not mutually exclusive.
I had no idea I was part of an “epidemic.” I feel all special now.