I don’t like cats, and I smoke cigars.
Thats OK, I haven’t felt like dating in over 6 years.
SeldomSeen does have a point. Short, bald, geeky, but wearing a really nice suit could go a long way with a certain set of girls. If you want that sort of girl, in which case you deserve to find one. 
I wish that were true. Women say they want someone with money, but my experience has shown they’re much more attracted to bad boys (tattoos, rough look, etc.) and those with an inflated sense of self-confidence.
When I was young (16 through 23), I never dated because I couldn’t get a date. Seriously. And though I was an engineering student in college, all of my friends were blue collar. Some had minimum wage jobs, while some had no jobs. They had absolutely no problems getting girls. I was a geeky engineering student with good job prospects, and couldn’t get a girl to even say hi to me. I’m not bitter or anything; I’m just telling you how it was.
I finally met my wife as a senior in college; she was an exchange student from Hong Kong. She was the only one I ever dated.
Even today, many of my friends are blue collar. Though they work dead end jobs, they have no problem getting dates. The women they date couldn’t care less that they have no money or career. My friends freely admit that sporting a goatee, a tattoo, and riding a motorcycle has helped them tremendously in the dating arena.
While money certainly doesn’t hurt, it’s been my experience a woman is primarily looking for something else. And I must not have it, whatever it is. Some say it’s confidence, but anyone who knows me says I am a confident person.
Remember, for all the drapings of culture, fashion, religion, technology, etc we are not all that far removed from the rest of the primates when it comes to the mating game.
Self confidence, physical size, body structure, appearance, brainpower, ability to provide, are all part of the tool kit we use to draw a mate. The balance that appeals to any given woman will vary but the best mates will go to the ones with the most of everything a mate may want.
Confidence in going about your daily life and job is one thing, confidence you can leave any given woman who might follow you home a quivering helpless mass being wracked by the aftershocks of orgasms that were picked up by local seismic research centers is a different kind of confidence.
I’m 47 and I don’t even live on a continent! I’d really love to be able to answer this question, maybe I’m too cynical and don’t give people a chance. I’m not successful or materialistic.
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Because I’m dull, a little bit odd, have few social skills, and there’s always someone considerably more appealing coming along later so they don’t even pay any attention to me.
If there was a room with five desperate women, and I am one of four available men, I’d still go home alone.
I get an uncontrollable urge to run away screaming whenever someone wants to talk about ridiculous things like “how we feel about each other”.
I hate to cook. In the rare event that I do cook, it’s vegetarian food.
I hate men.
I “argue like a lawyer”. I would think that arguing rationally would be a good thing, but maybe I’m just being rational again.
I only want what I can’t have. That’s not really a reason people don’t WANT to date me, but rather, why it’s nearly impossible to do so.
I’m in a male body and my attraction is for female people but I’m a girl. (Not transsexual because I don’t reject my body as wrong; it’s just not the expected combo of gender and sex).
Too blunt, occasionally tactless. Not traditionally feminine. Overweight. Intelligent to an intimidating degree. (This last characteristic was more of an issue when I was younger. Older men don’t seem as intimidated by brainy women. Of course, some younger men now find me too old.)
Don’t understand the subtleties or code speech of attraction. Not aggressive enough. Usually, I don’t give any overt indication I’m attracted to a woman, hoping she will appreciate what a perfect gentleman I am, and hope that she will make a move on me. In 50 plus years, that’s actually happened maybe twice. In most cases nothing at all happens.
In a few cases, I just said flat out that I found them attractive and was interesting in dating them, and that worked even worse. I’m not sure why that is, mostly I got the “It’s not you, it’s me” line. I think maybe it’s because I never did any of the indirect things, like inviting them along to some kind of group function or suggesting coffee or something. So perhaps they were surprise by the abruptness of my invitation.
Anyway, I’ve gotten so tired of rejection I don’t bother any more. I don’t go out to social events where I’ll interact with new people.
This is why it’s never going to work between us 
I make the man do everything. The most I’ll do is answer his calls sometimes. It SERIOUSLY occurred to me like a year or two ago that not all men are outgoing. I honestly, without putting it in words in my mind, assumed that they were, because all the men I’ve been involved with were outgoing. Then I realized that that was because it never got anywhere if the man wasn’t outgoing, since someone had to initiate things. And it sure as hell wasn’t going to be me.
(And this is just one of many reasons why I’m not compatible with men I date.)
Either you share this trait with almost all other women, or I am extraordinarily unattractive.
Or both.
You think? Seems like men always expect me to call them and stuff too, so I figure other women must do that. I don’t logically think it’s the man’s job to do everything, of course, but I’m just kind of antisocial and don’t call anyone much.
That’s something I only recently learned. You never TELL a woman you like her, you SHOW her by touching her and flirting/teasing her in playful/sexual way.
I wasn’t talking about the back and forth of an ongoing relationship, I was talking about basically a first date, in the sense that both parties understand they are on a date, as opposed to two people who happen to be at the same event.
I forgot this isn’t really a dating advice thread. That I only just figured this out and I’m 32 is another reason people won’t date me.
i have horrible fashion sense, like hawaiian shirt horrible.
i Don’t pick up on social cues very well.
My ex-wife browbeat the social bug out of me. I honestly don’t remember how to flirt and can still hear her nagging me in the back of my damn head anytime i even LOOK at somebody.
I’m not afraid to talk about any bizarre interest i might have, or any absurd thing that might pop into my head.
I LOVE Hawaiian shirts!
Ooh, there’s another reason right there.
I have a learning disability.
I’m anxious.
I’m short (5"5’).
I’m depressed.
I’m eccentric.
I’m accident prone.
I’m an occasional pot user.
I’m dependent.
I’ve got little experience.
I Work part-time.
I Live in subsidized housing.
I’m a little overweight.
(At the time) I’m Broke.
No confidence.
I have trouble driving people places because I don’t feel confident at the wheel with people inside.
I’m in the beginning stages of losing my hair.
I DON’T drive on highways, or drive on city roads.
I don’t believe in God.
My standards in looks are high.