Tie it back in public to be tidy, but leave it loose in more private settings.
The gender ambiguity is exactly what turns me off about long hair on men. It’s a deal-breaker. I would not date/sleep with a guy with long hair. Gay male here, and I like my men masculine. Long hair is just far too precious.
This is not a value-judgment about long-haired guys as people. Hell, my brother is one of them. I’m just saying I don’t find it attractive, so take that for whatever it’s worth.
I’m apparently a minority of one here, but the OP did say she wanted to hear from those who don’t love long hair.
Ok. But actually, I wanted to hear from those who don’t love them or are indifferent, but about why would some of us love it… Where could it come from… Any idea is welcome… (but it’s no problem you answered!)
Listen to Harimad-sol. She is the voice of reason in the tangled wilderness! Tousled and loose is great for the bedroom and photo shoots, but not so good if we’re in the kitchen cooking or using power tools.
I hesitate to play armchair psychologist, but I’d say the fact that you’re bisexual is explanation enough. You’re attracted to both sexes, so you’re comfortable with the lines between masculinity and femininity being blurred. It’s all good to you! 
As for why people who are attracted to only one gender would like long hair on men…I got nothing. Not sure it needs to be explained; we all have our likes and dislikes when it comes to physical characteristics.
I like being the voice of reason.
I love long hair on men . And I am completely straight . 
Long hair will take a man I wouldn’t normally find attractive and make him … rowrrrrrr , baby !
Here’s an example :
Eh… nothing to write home about .
http://www.celebrity-exchange.com/celebs/photos33/orlando-bloom.jpg
Oooh… now you’re talkin’ !
http://www.asahi-net.or.jp/~rn6d-hnd/people/orlando_bloom.jpg
And even better !!!
(I have a thing for blondes… 
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There’s a story in the current issue of Out about a guy who has prosopagnosia (face-blindness). He likes long-hair because it helps him recognize people.
Thanx for all these pics, PapSett !
I loved Orlando Bloom too in Lord of the Rings (and Viggo Mortensen too!) but I find him not so good-looking since he cut his hair… Why the f… do they cut their hair ?? Makes no sense to me… (well, you cannot always play an elve either… )
I like John Robinson too (played in Elephant, now in Lord of Dogtown). His hair are very long in Lords of Dogtown, that’s pretty cute ! And all these skateboarders, wow… Just what I need ! 
Why don’t you all skate, guys ? (or play in a hard rock band, or … whatever !)
I’m a very heterosexual chick who loves long hair on guys. It’s definitely not about gender ambiguity for me, as the guys I’m attracted to tend to be very masculine.
I never thought much about the fact that I love long hair–except that it’s turned into a little bit of a running joke for me, because my husband is shaved bald. The grass is always greener, and all that. But I loved long hair before I ever met him, so that’s not the reason. Upon reflection, I think I like it for two reasons:
First, it’s a showy feature. Guys tend to be so plain sometimes–short hair, khakis, button-down shirts…yawn. I like guys who show a little more flair in their appearance, I guess. And long hair can be so pretty.
Second, it suggests some level of non-conformity. If a guy is willing to have long hair, I guess I unconsciously assume that he is willing to question and defy other societal norms. That’s not to say that a long-haired guy must be a nonconformist, but the implications of long hair are part of the attraction.
How about a short poll on what your hair preference on men is versus what type of hair your father had.
For all the girls out there who love the long hair, did daddy have long hair?
Or for those who hate the buzzed look, did dad never have buzzed hair?
How about bald men? Are girls who like or don’t mind bald guys have fathers who are bald?
My father is an elderly conservative Japanese man. He does go a fair time between haircuts, but that’s because he’s lazy. Short hair for him. My husband had gorgeous mid-back length hair that he usually wore down. Sob. And he cut it! ::hysterical weeping::
So is Severiane a common French name? My sister grew up friends with a French girl named Severine (or so I always assumed it was spelled), who lived here in NC for a brief while; I’d never heard the name anywhere else.
Daniel
longhair type
Like Green Bean, I’m also a totally hetero chick who loves loves loves long hair on guys. I’ve never actually dated a long-haired guy; for relationships I go for the clean-cut look. But I totally drool over slightly scruffy-looking guys with lots of long hair.
Sorry, no explanation though.
I’ve always liked long hair on guys. It’s just so rock and roll. Lately it seems like all the longhairs are getting it cut. I look forward to it coming back in style.
Oh, and I don’t think it’s because I like gender ambiguity. I like guys who look like guys. To me, long hair does not necessarily equal feminine. I’ve never gone for a feminine guy.
Well, no, Severiane isn’t a French name at all (but Severine is, indeed).
My nickname comes from an american book of science fiction I loved, by Gene Wolfe (4 or 5 books, don’t remember, but i’ve seen a thread about it in the Cafe society some weeks ago). I think in english the serie is called Book of the New sun series. And the hero name -male- was Severian. As feminine in French is often adding an -e, I added it and it became Severiane. Not my real name.
My dad never had long hair (not his style… he’s quite conservative).
I don’t like the buzzed look… er, I’m not sure of the word, buzzed means short like in the army right ? My dad never had this look either…
I don’t like bald men, and my father is not bald, nor becoming so.
Totally hetero female checking in, and I love the look of androgynous guys, as well as really masculine guys with long, clean hair. Unfortunately, hubby, who has a headful of curls, cannot grow his hair long. When he goes too long between hair cuts, his hair just gets. . .really, really big.
Well, my mom and dad married in the early 70s, so his hair was collar-length and mom’s was pixie cut. As I got older dad went to short hair, then eventually little hair at all. So my dad’s hair has run the gamut.
As far as preferences, I’ve found all manner of hair attractive on guys. It’s not as simple for me as being attracted to long hair, because I’ve seen some guys who look absolutely hideous with it. The total look has to work before any attraction comes in to play.
I’m very happy with hubby’s current look, which is shoulder blade length, wavy hair and a mustache/goatee combo. He looks sexy. But, of course, he looked sexy five years ago with short hair, too. The long hair just gives him the extra oomph from sexy to “the hotness”
A good friend of mine says that she prefers it because she can get a better grip on it.
Depending on the situation, that can be good and bad for the guy involved, I guess.
(long-banged, but only necklength generally - when it grows longer, it gets in the way of cleanroom gear)