I do not understand this mentality that it is whistleblowers that are to blame for the harm other people’s actions cause. I find it ridiculous. Bottom line is that it was those men’s actions that caused divorces, alienation of children, hurt feeling, domestic violence and other fallout. Yes, it IS very easy to say that if they had not done such and such there wouldn’t have been a problem because it is the absolute truth. Talk about blaming the messenger.
It was none of their damned business. I agree with Chefguy.
Who appointed these messengers to that job?
If the sisters were truly trying to be helpful, they’d have notified the guy privately and let him handle it from there. Putting it out on social media, so he could be publicly humiliated again (in a completely different way than he was publicly humiliated by his wife), belies their claims of trying to helpful. In addition to harming an innocent person, they might have destroyed any hope for a reconciliation.
I also feel sorry for any innocent parties who happened to be named Mark Allen!
When I do things discreetly, the whole internet doesn’t know about it.
I’m not buying it, the whole thing sounds too good to be true.
Bullshit.
This woman wasn’t sitting on her boyfriend’s lap. She was typing him messages on her cell phone. She had every reason to expect privacy. She was wrong to be cheating on her husband but the women who were reading her text messages over her shoulder were also wrong.
These women had no reason to expect they were going to catch somebody doing something wrong. So they must just snoop on people all the time.
And then when they caught the woman, they didn’t just tell the husband. They posted the whole thing online. So while apparently you’re right that they felt no shame over what they were doing. But they should have.
My take as well. Seems like a typical “morality porn” Internet hoax.
Themselves when they saw a wrong being done to a fellow human being, and i applaud them for it.
No one knows what the relationship is. Maybe they are a couple who swings? Maybe he gets off on being cuckolded. Maybe they have an open relationship. Nobody’s business but theirs.
Fuck the bitch. You have your phone out in a public place, you have zero expectation of privacy. Period. If I’d seen her texting like that I’d have done the same thing. Just like I would burn someone loudly talking about a crime or blatant misbehavior on the phone within earshot.
Yeah, I guess I’m not sure where the expectation of privacy in public comes from. The wife was doing something noteworthy at a public baseball stadium in front of, what are the Braves drawing these day? 24K? 30K? people.
We have websites devoted entirely to people doing dumb things in public or wearing dumb things in Walmart. There is no expectation of privacy there. We (the general societal “we” based on the sites’ relative popularity) point and laugh. She got busted. End of story.
If I was dropping a deuce behind an Applebee’s downtown after an Octoberfest bender and someone posted a pic or vid on the internets, there is not a goddamn thing I could do about it. Nor should I have the expectation that my sudden need to take the Browns to the Super Bowl in public space will be a private affair.
Agreed, but then, if it was swinging or cuckolding the dude doesn’t message back for pics of the conversation. The wife shows him the entire conversation and then go home and get it on, Also, the word “love” doesn’t show up in the text conversation.
How do we know that all three of them weren’t okay with it?
Whistle blowers report crime and fraud. Assholes interfere with others’ lives without knowing the details of those lives, and then usually claim to be doing the “Christian” thing. Take care of your own life and your own faults first, then worry about others if you have any time left. Pretty sure it falls under the “cast the first stone” story/teaching.
I wonder what people’s response would be if it had been a man who had been doing it while sitting next to his wife.
I suspect there would not have been possibilities proffered about cuckolding/open marriage. Or being a private matter…which it is not; the sexting in a pubic place that is.
Just read Chefguy’s earlier post. Thats also a very good point, but again the issue is about the pubic nature of the act. Not the relationship between the couple.
I’m very surprised that this attitude is apparently widely held. I’m in the "mind your own business " camp. I had a wife who cheated on me, and yes, it sucks. But if someone had done this to her, I’m sure the whole ugly time period would have been ten times worse. Cheating in relationships usually run one of two courses: it ends and the couple tries to work things out, or it blows up and the relationship ends. Most of us don’t need the intervention of random strangers to move things along.
Wow. Even if he didn’t recognize the “guy code,” he must have known that there are so many ways to kill a shipmate and make it look like an accident.
What were they doing reading her text messages in the first place?
I don’t get you people who say, “Oh, she was in public, she shouldn’t expect privacy.” One has to go to some trouble and effort to read another’s text messages. Good manners requires that one not go to that trouble and effort.
These two nosey parkers had no idea what the texts were about until they read them. That tells me they do this all the time. I don’t know why–being nosey, looking for trouble, whatever. That’s action and behavior we should emulate and commend? Bullshit.
I, at least, am literate enough that if something is in view and has letters on it, I have read it. Seeing “Fuck me now!” or equivalent would certainly catch my attention. In the given situation, it’s far more likely that she’s screwing around with one guy or the other, so the witnesses were in the right to pass the word. Going public is over the top, though. A better approach might be something like “Excuse me, sir, but I have a couple of pictures you should probably see.”