Normally I’d mind my own business if I saw something. But this is just so brazen. Cuddling and affectionate with hubby and sexting your secret lover? This lady had it figured out. Alias for lover boy in her phone. delete texts right after sending. she appears quite slick and well practiced at making a travesty of her marriage.
kudos for these sisters fast thinking. Taking a couple over the shoulder photos to document what was going on inches from clueless hubby.
At least now hubby knows whats happening. He can decide what to do next.
This would be like seeing a friend’s wife sitting in another guys lap at the park. Its so in your face that it can’t be ignored.
Cuckold is the word. Poor guy. Married for 29 years and he had no clue.
I’ve been married 25 years. Trust is everything. The very foundation of our marriage. I’ve never looked at her phone or been the jealous type. Trust makes any insecurity and jealousy a waste of my time. Either I trust her implicitly or I don’t trust her at all. It’s understood between us that to break that trust and the marriage is over. I’ve had a few room numbers slipped (maybe six in 25 years) to me at conferences. Threw them straight into the trash after the woman was out of sight. I’m quite happy with the lady that I married. I’m not messing up the best thing that ever happened to me. She’s the only person that knows *everything *about me.
If you were at the game and took a restroom break. You see a guy stumble into somebody and its clear the clueless mark just got his wallet lifted.
None of your business? Say nothing? Or would you let the victim know?
The cuckold husband is a victim much like a pickpocket’s mark. A scam involving his wife and her lover was going on right under his nose. I would find a way to discreetly let him know. Much like the sisters did.
Bad analogy—Pickpocketing is a criminal offence.
And you can be absolutely sure that you know the victim’s attitude—he will thank you for your assistance.
Cheating is not a crime. And you can be absolutely sure that you know nothing about the vicitim’s attitude. He may not thank you at all–he may prefer to be cheated on and never know about it. Maybe your “assistance” will ruin his life–lead to public embarrassment, divorce, financial ruin, losing contact with his children, etc.
You have no business interfering with the intimate private life of a total stranger.
That’s not the equivalent of what happened. This was more like “I was peeking through the window into my neighbor’s bathroom when she slipped and fell in the shower. So I called an ambulance for her. And now I’m posting the pictures I took online.”
I’m not sure how I feel about it, but it’s not like that at all. How is a full grown woman sitting on a guy’s lap at a baseball game even remotely the same or as ‘in your face’ as a women typing on her phone?
They ONLY reason it can’t be ignored is because it’s getting tweeted and posted all over the internet and on message boards. If you didn’t post the link here (any why did you post the link here?), it certainly wouldn’t have been anywhere near my face, I wouldn’t have even known about it. It’s not on my facebook/twitter feed.
In my opinion, one of the very strangest things in life is this attitude or mindset of somehow being unable to tell the difference between “being in public” and “being in private.”
You’re not the only person who seems to think that people carry an inviolable bubble of privacy no matter where they are.
Tip #1–if an action is deliberately done in full view of surrounding people, then there is no shame, disgrace, or dishonor in taking note of that action.
Tip #2–Consequences cannot be controlled. We cannot choose to have only pleasant consequences of our actions, no matter how much we might wish to do so.
Far from doing something noble, these women may have caused irreparable damage to lives they know nothing about. I remember a guy in the Navy who, after returning from deployment, went to other men’s homes and told their wives about what the husbands were up to overseas. Divorces, alienation of children, hurt feelings, domestic violence and other fallout was the result. It’s easy to say “Well, if he hadn’t done such-and-such, there wouldn’t have been a problem”, but the bottom line is that it’s nobody else’s business. Self appointed moralists are just self righteous assholes.