Yes, yes it seems they almost are, and going fast.
This board needs a thumbs up smilie. Or a dancing chicken.
It’s much better to be exposed to STDs, possibly raise the offspring of another man as your own, etc.
IMHO, it’s better to have information you need to make an, uh, informed decision. If you live in ignorance and choose to stay married to someone who is NOT committed to the marriage, I don’t see how that is a happy life at all. Maybe for people with very low self-esteem.
Women initiate most divorces, and in many cases it’s after she’s been cheating and very likely leaving her husband (and kids in many cases) for the affair partner(s). A man in the situation, IMHO, is MUCH better off learning about the affair before the wife walks out and moves in with the other man and gets blindsided. Yes, some marriages might have an arrangement like Bill Cosby and his wife or the Clintons and the Kennedys and Royals, etc- but many people expect their spouses to be faithful and would want to know.
As far as “humiliation” goes, the man (or woman) who does not know about the affair is already being humiliated. You can bet other people already know, and are probably talking about him behind his back. In many cases of infidelity, the cheater re-writes history, lies about the spouse to friends and family, etc. Some dude is already “lying naked” with his wife, and people KNOW. Her friends, sisters, maybe even HIS siblings and parents. perhaps they are on here right now saying “No, no don’t tell him about it. Cheating is only shameful for the person being cheated on. Everyone supports the cheater, and I’m sure the guy she’s cheating with is saving her from her abusive marriage, etc.”
FWIW, “Exposure” is frequently the only way to save a marriage with infidelity, if the cheated spouse chooses to attempt such a thing. If he/she doesn’t, it’s also a good way to move on.
Also, this forum’s posts and opinions on this subject in previous are overwhelmingly supportive of dishonesty in marriage, supportive of cheaters, and “shame” the victims. I find this completely bizarre.
And anyone who would rather not know about being cheated on and stay in such a marriage is not only a cuckold but a willing on. You might as well place personal ads inviting dudes to bang your wife.
ETA: That said, I am personally in a Mind your own business camp. I don’t even really believe in calling the police for anything at all. So, yeah. I would feel obligated if it’s a friend or family member though.
Nm.
If you’re a relative or close friend of the cheatee, I can see where you’re coming from. If you’re a stranger looking over someone’s shoulder at a ballgame, then MYOFB. And I hit submit after you edited your post, so we’re in agreement with each other.
I’m glad you feel that way. Now, about your wife’s Wednesday night “Bible Study” meetings…
A lot of the Dope’s inhabitants serve as a cautionary tale on how not to behave if you want to be seen as a functioning, decent member of society. I appreciate the constant reminders they provide for everyone. Don’t you?
Yeah. I can see how the wife (if she really was that) could’ve overheard their rude asses, texted her friend to say, “Let’s fuck with them.” and then proceeded to enjoy the nonsense between them all and her husband (or whatever). Maybe nosy girls were real life trolled. Wouldn’t that be a hoot?
This is no different than the creeps who follow women around, taking upskirt pics and posting them online.
Maybe it wasn’t “their business”. But it’s the husband’s business and he seemed happy with the two women injecting themselves into it so I can’t fault them if he isn’t going to.
aceplace doesn’t mind if people read over his shoulder, but that doesn’t mean that I have to think reading over someone’s shoulder is okay. Just because some people are okay with things doesn’t mean that I think those things are necessarily polite.
Well if people are going to be wearing skirts outdoors they should realize that they are exposing themselves to anyone with an arm and a camera. It’s been that way for as long as there’s been arms and cameras. I should know, I have both.
One time I was on the subway and a guy came up and asked to take a photo of my skirt, b/c he thought it was so pretty. I said yes, and we struck up a friendly conversation. Thus, no one else can possibly have a bad experience with men photographing their skirts on the subway. Nope.
There is always something about these stories that makes me wonder.
In this case, what I wonder is: If people in a row behind this couple could read the texts, why could the man beside her not read the damn texts as well? Now maybe I missed something. Maybe he was blind. Maybe he was really into the game. But…
They intentionally recorded a private conversation between two people. We need to update our wiretapping laws to make this illegal.
What the absolute …WHAT does this have to do with invading someone’s space and splashing their business all over the internet?
Room numbers, restraining orders. Tomato, tomahto.
I too am quite shocked at the posts here that are supportive of the woman’s dishonesty and deceit. That photo of her arm around her husband moments before tweeting really bothered me.
I’ve seen the word moralist thrown around. This isn’t about a religious view of marriage or supporting society’s view of morality. imho This is a clear cut betrayal of trust. A spouse is your best friend, confidant, the person that stands by your side when things get tough. What that lady did goes beyond carrying on an affair. Its like she’s mocking him by cuddling in his arms and carrying on right under his nose. It’s disturbing and cruel. I’d say exactly the same thing if its the guy doing that to his wife.
The husband might get violent has been raised. Really? reverse sexism on the SDMB? He’s a guy and naturally he’ll beat her up. People played that card in this thread and it went unchallenged.
Fixate on the relatively minor violation of personal space and the ill-advised internet posting all you want. I find it quite sad that people here, and other places I checked feel that’s the most important issue.
This is one time I don’t mind being on the unpopular side of an issue.
Not one single person here has supported the woman cheating on her husband. Not. One.
Yes, why should this time be any different? :rolleyes: