I am most nearly agnostic in terms of religion.
Point being, if I was to choose to wait until marriage, it would not be on the basis of religion or even culture, but various other personal reasons.
But I am worried this choice, if I make it, will severely limit my dating pool, especially due to the fact that I am not Christian, and many people who practice this are Christians and THEY would likely disqualify me because I am not Christian (I’d be fine dating one and wouldn’t try to influence her views).
The other side of this is that this is something I have been worried about in general. This was something I posted in another question on another forum:
I am 17, so of course, I still considerably struggle with insecurities at times.
I see all these people with all these dating “dealbreakers” around here.
I sometimes wonder if something about me will always be a dealbreaker for a girl.
I am short (I don’t really ruminate on this anymore because I know it’s something I can’t control, but just to illustrate the point).
If it’s not my height, then it will be because I don’t drink.
If it’s not that, then it will be because I am not into any sports.
If it’s not that, then it will be because I like to listen to Indian film music which is too weird for her.
If it’s not that, then it will be because I like to sleep with a teddy bear (of course, if I was to sleep with a girl, I wouldn’t, but for some women, that mere practice at all is a dealbreaker). Though, I have heard of even tough athletes that do. Still…
Now, the height, of course I can’t control so it’s a waste of time to worry about that, but most of the following things are things I can control and could stop doing if I wanted to, but the problem is that it’s just a part of who I am.
To alter this would violate my integrity with myself and identity.
I am not against change necessarily, and I am all for self-improvement - for example, being more outgoing, working on my social skills, strengthening emotionally, working out, being more productive, etc (these are all things I am working on).
However, I don’t want to change the things I listed above simply because it’s a part of who I am and altering those would cause me to lose my identity. They’re not things I really want to change…
… however, at the same time I fear something about me will always be a dealbreaker for every girl, especially seeing everyone here and on the internet in general, listing their dealbreakers.