Nota bene: the subject was keeping her maiden name versus taking her new husband’s name. I addressed that subject.
You need to get rid of the brown shirt, and have a nice bran muffin.
It is noteworthy how consistently people defend helpless feminists, who constantly clamor that they are SO “equal” and SO
“strong” but the instant one takes a position contrary to the feminst dogma, all heck breaks loose to protect these forlorn
and presumably weak damsels.
This bullshit ain’t gonna fly, Orville.
Banned.
twickster, Moderator
[Moderator Note]
In case anyone should think that OrvilleWright was banned for a single post, I note that I also just warned him for trolling in GQ here. He also has two other warnings and a mod note or two since he joined ten days ago, all for similar stuff. So we have shown him the door.
I hyphenated and have had no problem (except that on boarding passes the hyphen disappears and it becomes impossible to pronounce). I just stay consistent and spell it out c-a-p-y-b-a-r-a-“hyphen”-l-e-m-u-r and explain “I’m Capybara-Lemur and he’s just Lemur” and all is well.
I just don’t get it – if people who are concerned about unity and their kids having the same name as them end up hyphenating their names, why don’t the husbands always hyphenate as well?
My wife was an only kid, so she kept her funny family name to keep it from dying out. So my kid has a hyphenated last name. No big deal.
But don’t lay the pressure of “the best man in the world” on him. Nobody can live up to that.
I don’t get this. If a woman keeps her name because it’s part of her identity and she doesn’t want to lose that identity upon marrying, that’s something that makes perfect sense and should be respected. If a woman doesn’t feel particularly attached to her last name as part of her identity then it’s obviously not an issue. But those husbands who ask their wives to change their last name, and get upset when they don’t, they have issues.
I decided to change my last name when I got married because I want my family to have the same family name. That is something that remains very important to me. However, I was not particularly happy about giving up my last name. My last name is connected to my heritage (I am a second generation American, so I have strong connections to my country), and the name is also a connection to my father who passed away about five years ago. I don’t regret my decision to change my last name because like I said, it’s very important to me to be a family with a single name, but sometimes I wish I had talked to my husband more about it, so that we could talk about other options.
I can see the OP’s point of view. I take some pride in the heritage of my last name, and I wouldn’t want to give it up. If I were female, and in the OP’s shoes, I’d just go on using my own name, or consider hyphenating. But, I would hyphenate only if I felt that bearing the husband’s name was something that I needed to do.