One thing that kills the mood immediately for me is when the guy starts boasting about how good a job he’s doing.
Pfffft. If he’s got enough breath to brag about what a good job he’s doing, he doesn’t have anything to be bragging about.
Thanks for all the responses to my question, ladies. I proposed that to get a reaction like I got from SanguineSpider. I was trying to amuse more than anything. I have actually pulled that move off to finish her off, but it’s not the first thing out of my bag of tricks.
I have found that escalation is one of the keys to female pleasure. Don’t start out at the finish line, but do something until she gets used to it and then step up the frequency/pressure/rate, etc. gradually. By the time you are finally sucking on her clit, she will be reacting the way you both want her to be.
So I take it that screaming “Woo-hoo! I am masturbating like a mother-f**k!” is *not * a good idea?
Monica is silly. Nyah-nyah-nyah-Nyah!
:: pulls her braids ::
You ready yet?
Be sure you have a really goog idea of what her reaction will be to a pet name before you use it. Your bits are exposed & if I don’t like what you call me I may remove some or all of said bits.
Most, not all. Of course, if you pull this trick right off the bat it may get you booted, but as a finishing move for me, it’s quite effective. I like teeth too, on parts that others may not (ie feel free to nibble gently, or not-so-gently, on my outer labia) so YMM(of course)V.
Preach on, sistah.
As for my own advice, if you are working down south on me, and I make a minor adjustment with my hips so that your tongue is now working, say, just to the left of, or just below my clitoris, please… for the love of all that is pure and holy, assume that I meant it, and stay right there. My extra-exhuberant happy-noises will confirm this for you. Do not compensate by moving your head just a bit so that your tongue is now right back on my most sensitive bit which is now starting to hurt just a little. Thanks.
Um, I should also add that I have had a large needle and subsequent piece of metal shoved through my clitoris, so I’m probably waaayyy off on the scale of appropriate clitoral roughness during sex for most women.
I forgot about that, but absolutely, yes, big mistake. My ex used to do that and it drove me nuts…and not in the way he intended.
The thing that gets me is when guys try too hard to make me orgasm. Yeah, it’s great that guys are finally paying attention to what women want but sometimes it’s not gonna happen. With me, there’s probably less than a 50 percent chance you can make it happen. But some guys take it as a personal challenge and just try forever. It gets old. Sex is still fun, don’t take it as a personal failure if it just doesn’t happen for me…
Yeah to the “gotta make her cum or die” Olympian efforts of some guys. Let go and just have fun. I don’t want a day of marathon (and somewhat numbing) sex just so you feel like you did your job. There are times I don’t cum at all and it’s just fine. Sex is still wonderful without it. It’s my brain, sorry. It needs to relax or the big O just ain’t happening.
I’m very lucky that my SO has stamina but sometimes I just want a quickie. I will say though that this fella has made me a multi-O girl 
and I can’t thank him enough. He’s a keeper!
Hey, don’t knock it 'til you’ve tried it!
Well it started off ok and then you got to the nipple stuff, which is, IMO, a waste of time. But then, I have very little sensitivity there. I’d just as soon we all forget I even have breasts and not waste valuable time and appendages on them. Also, if you do too many things at once, chances are you aren’t doing any of them as well as you would be if you were concentrating on that one thing alone.
Something to know about anal play, also, is that even if a woman loves it, she may not always want to do it. If she isn’t having a “bunghole confidence day” she won’t want you to touch it, and just because she loved it yesterday doesn’t mean you should keep trying today if she has indicated she isn’t up for it. It does serve another biological function, you know. Don’t make her explain why she doesn’t want to. Nothing kills a woman’s sexy feeling faster than having to confess that she feels she may have poo particles.
Don’t feel offended if she has to help herself to have an orgasm. Some women have a harder time coming than others and it isn’t anything against you, so don’t freak. For me, chances are I’m not gonna come at all while we’re having sex so please just deal with that. I enjoy the journey as much as the destination, ok?
Inserting a finger(s) and wiggling it, or moving it in and out very slowly is 500 times more pleasant than playing Mister Speedy von Jackhammer with said finger(s).
LISTEN TO THE SOUNDS! We’re often doing them quite intentionally to clue you in on what feels good. Move your tongue over half an inch and hear an excited squeal? THEN STAY THERE! Don’t wander the tongue back over to the other non-squealing location.
I know you’re proud of your stamina but really, I can only take so much. If it takes you more than 20 minutes to come you may find yourself finishing off solo. Also, my jaw can only do that for so long before it REALLY FUCKING HURTS, so please don’t make me perform a 30 minute blow job, m’kay?
Give a girl some feedback by way of sound or whatever. We’re often quite lost when it comes to knowing what y’all like and so many guys seem to feel so shy about making noise in bed. Go on and make some noise!
If you tell me I’m the sexiest thing you have ever seen/prettiest girl you’ve ever been with/best lay ever I will know you are lying and never trust you again. We’re not stupid.
SHOWER SHOWER SHOWER! Smelly guys will make it nowhere with me. Ew, ew, ew, ew.
Word. I don’t know how this “super stamina is a something to strive for” stuff got started. Yeah, you want it to last longer than a minute but just pounding away for extended lengths of time is boring. I start thinking about things like the book I’m currently reading, when the Stargate premiere is gonna be, what I want for lunch tomorrow. Probably the opposite of what you intend.
I dunno, this works for me. I know it’s not true but I like to hear it. Just more proof that you need to figure out what works the the particular woman you’re with.
Yeah, everyone is different. But no guy will ever score points by lying to me. Sorry, but honesty is the most important thing in a relationship to me.
This technique is known as the “One Man Band”.
Carry on.
I love hearing my SO say how sexy/naughty/wonderful I am. It gets me into a good mood. He does NOT however make it sound like a pick-up line or something that isn’t true (i.e., “you’re the most beautiful woman in the world”). He says things like, “God, you’re so sexy” or “you make me feel so good, can you do that again?”, or even “you’re so beautiful”. It’s real, it’s from his heart. He doesn’t have to lie, he means every word. I’m not the most beautiful woman in the whole world… NO woman is.
Don’t make statements that are completely outrageous; say what you feel, what’s true. Even if the woman’s not utterly “hot”, there is something about her that makes you want to be with her. Maybe she’s got pretty eyes, expand on that. Maybe she’s very naughty in bed , expand on that.
My SO is with me because I am attractive, intelligent, I can talk about a variety of things, I play D&D, I read a lot, I make him smile, laugh, he loves the way I massage his weary muscles (thinks I should “go pro”), I am a deep person with a loving heart, and I enjoy being intimate (ok, ok, ok… I love to get it on).
You get the point. Be real with your woman.
"I’m counting out time, hoping it goes like I planned it,
'cos I understand it. Look! I’ve found the hotspots, Figures I-9.
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still counting out time, I’ve got my finger on the button,
‘Don’t say nuthin’ - just lie there still now
And I’ll get you turned on just fine.’" -
Peter Gabriel
Now, if you were cooking dinner with your feet whiel all this was going on…