Just something vaguely related that I don’t have enough information on to start a separate thread: I’ve lived in the US, UK and Scandinavia, and I’ve been both single and in relationships in all three. A personal observation I’ve made is that the fraction of women enjoying casual sex and one-night stands seem mostly determined by the attitudes of other women to it. There is a much larger space for casual encounters in areas where it is at least accepted that it is something women try out a few times between relationships. And that itself creates more space for the ones who get into it.
Whereas in places where there is more pressure against it, that can escalate too, as women compete to seem more… “pure” or whatever.
But that doesn’t refer only to women and casual sex; it refers to a ton of things. It’s the egg-and-chicken of social pressure/acceptance: if you live in a place where something is accepted, you’re more likely to do it; if a lot of people want to do something, it’s more likely to become socially accepted. Whether the something is have one-night stands, wear your trouser’s waist below your ass or eat curry.
Yes, it does apply to a lot of things. But unlike many of those things we have two opposing forces here: Social pressure and female impersonal lust (Which according to the OP is non-existent).
To me, it seems that this leads to a tendency to fall into self-reinforcing patterns that either expand or contract the socially allowable behaviours.
I briefly hung out with a girl who thought I had the sexiest, most masculine fucking legs she’d ever seen. They made her wet. Caressing them, kissing them, wrapping herself around them, that’s how she got aroused and got ready to be fucked. She was also a devotee who was only attracted to (extremely) atrophied legs, as usually seen in people with spinal cord injuries or some degenerative diseases. This type of attraction has always repulsed me and I have done a lot of research on what I consider a fascinating subject. But this girl was hot. Her hotness temporarily overrode my rational mind and I went for it.
Even nude skyping, where we were both nude, all she wanted was for me to point my camera at my legs. Now not to brag but I have an upper body many people find impressive, if not attractive. She was utterly uninterested in anything but my toothpick legs. We met and almost had sex but I was so squicked out that I couldnt “do” it. I couldn’t get out of that dreaded headspace all guys have been stuck in before, with the added ickiness of having images of her riding my bone thin legs. Uhhhhh, shudder. And to head off any predictable remarks, being attracted to a disability is absolutely not comparable to being attracted to redheads or women who wear glasses. You can change the red hair to blonde, you can change the glasses to contacts or Lasik. The disability that the devotee is attracted to is something the disabled person has either lost permanently from their lives or had never possessed in the first place. Either way, it was never a choice for them. Anyway, I don’t want to hijack this thread any further. I didn’t mean to go so far off track.
My overall point is sexual attraction is a complex thing and it’s intertwined with so many other non-sexual elements that there can never be one blanket truth about any random group of people. If I still had a picture of this girl, you WOULD NOT believe that this was a girl who wasn’t the stereotypical tanned, blonde haired party girl who liked the hottest guys with the most defined six packs and nothing else mattered. Well, that was basically true, just substitute legs that appear emaciated to the point of death (when seen without visibility of any of my upper body from the waist up) for the six pack. Trippy shit man.
People are posting personal opinions and declaring them to be fact, then again, you get a lot of that on message boards. Every instance and every person is unique as you can tell from replies. In MY opinion and experience, many women not only notice male bodies but are indeed attracted to those that fit their personal preferences and will react accordingly. Both genders are hard-wired to find a mate of some sort whether for a few hours or a lifetime.
