Women, oral sex, and vaginal odor: am I the only one that cares? (Possible TMI)

I’ll bet. Never met one.

Anyway…I had a long term gf who was always daisy fresh. Never the slightest hint of any seafood. I felt honored to be able to kiss (etc.) that heavenly orchid.

Then, there was the ex-…hoo baby. Not only couldn’t I get my face near it, I actually left the bedroom on occasion. No amount of washing seemed to help. I wondered how someone can live with themself like that?

As for your problem…all I can say is that I get the biggest thrill from being able to pleasure her. Her ‘feedback’, as it were, just makes it so much more fun for me. In sum, if you want to give her as much as she gives you, it makes any distate seem insignificant. YMMV.

I have never particularly enjoyed oral, whether giving or receiving. I will let my partner enjoy it if it’s important to him, but if he does he will NOT be allowed to get his face anywhere near mine for the rest of the session. I, too, find the odor to be quite objectionable. But maybe that’s normal for a straight woman. Hope that wasn’t too much TMI.

Well, you’re obviously not alone, but I’d say you’re part of a small minority. Personally, as long as their are no health or hygiene issues, I love both the scent and taste. As someone already said, perhaps you ran into a woman who had an unrecognized health issue. A healthy woman may smell sweet, or musky, or even spicy. But, a persistent fishy smell is a sign of excessive bacterial growth. I learned that way back in high school health class. I’ve never heard of it hurting a cunnilinguist, but it should be addressed. For that matter, even going down on a woman who has a yeast infection won’t hurt you, although it may be unpleasant, if it’s a severe infection. Of course, if it is, she probably won’t be in the mood, anyway. :slight_smile:

As for getting over it, it’s certainly possible, but why worry about it? As Irishgirl pointed out, there are women who won’t let you go down on them. And, if you fall in love, as opposed to lust, with a woman, chances are you’ll think she smells wonderful. If not, I guess you’ll just have to, umm, suck it up.

It’s also possible that the woman who turned you off to the act smelled “too familiar”. Recent studies have shown that families have distinctive scents that are passed on through the generations. They also showed that people are programmed to find this familial scent repulsive when combined with sexual feelings. Nature’s way of saying “don’t mess with your sister”. So, it’s possible the woman you mentioned smelled too much like a member of your family.

And, honesty is definitely the best policy, on this. Perhaps, if a woman offers to go down on you, that would be a good time to make clear that you’re not willing to reciprocate. Perhaps not. Timing of such things can be delicate. But, all you really need to say is, “I don’t enjoy it”. Most women would probably accept that, at least until the relationship is well established, assuming you’re meeting their needs in other ways.

Well, I never actually said pussy or the smell of it was actually revolting. The smell is just a turn-off. I used the word “revolting” to describe the squirter. And even she didn’t necessarily small strongly, it was having fluid unexpectedly shot in my face that grossed me out.

I don’t necessarily want to find a woman who doesn’t like receiving. I’d rather get over this problem, because I actually enjoyed doing it at one time.

The problem is that, like most people, I ocassionally have sex with people I’m not in love with. Actually, since I’ve never been in love at all, I can safely say this describes all my encounters to date. Maybe everything would change if I truly fell in love with someone. But who knows when or if that can or will ever happen?

I’m also a little surprised at some posters whose attitude seems to imply that I will “have” to get used to it. Oral sex is a privilege, not a right. In my lifetime, I have never even asked a woman to go down on me, nor did I expect/consider them obligated to do so. Personally, I don’t appreciate obligations being placed on ME without my consent. A woman who did so would get the boot, right quickly.

This is why God made whipped cream…Lay down a towel, squirt some on her, lick it off, repeat as needed…simple.

Sorry Lizard, I didn’t mean that to come off as harsh as it did.

I think I get what you’re saying, but have an issue fitting it into the way I feel about things personally.

I can’t be a little bit turned off, I’m either up for stuff or I’m not. This obviously doesn’t hold true for you, in that you can be a little turned off by something, but still want to carry on.

Which is admirable…but hard for me to relate to.

Quick Q…
What about smelling her on yourself? Your fingers, thighs and, umm…bits?
Is that as bad? Better? Worse?

Don’t sweat it.

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If you were raised in the American Midwest, it would make perfect sense, believe me!
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Oddly enough, this is better. The women I referenced in the OP had a fondness for ahem fisting. After our first night together I got up and noticed a faint odor of her still on my hand. It didn’t bother me in the least. In fact, it brought back pleasant thoughts of the evening before. And I’ve had similar experiences with plenty of other women.

Rather strange, I think.

I should add that I meant vaginal fisting, in case it wasn’t obvious.

This helped.

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Interesting question. As a girl, the thought of going down there disgusts me. I could never do it, not in 1,000 years. However, all the guys I have ever been with LOVED to do it. Some loved to do it more than I even loved to get it. This was always extremely flattering to me, although I have always had some anxiety about how I smelled down there, but obviously not too bad, since I haven’t ever had complaints…

But the fact that the smell turns you off seems unusual to me, because I have always known guys to have a particular fondness for the smell. I think this is because smells are very good at reminiding people of something, and therefore when a guy smells this, he is reminded of the “happy place,” which reminds him of sex, thereby turning him on.

TMI alert:
One example of this was my last boyfriend. Sometimes, like hours after we’ve fooled around/had sex, he would still be able to smell me on him (on his hands and other places.) And he loved it. It would put him right back into the mood again.

And also, I have been with guys who proclaimed to love giving oral sex more than getting it, so go figure!

So theres my 2 cents.

I guess I agree that it’s a privilege not a right in theory, however, please keep in mind that many or most women cannot have an orgasm through intercourse alone. Many women rely on oral sex to get an orgasm. So if you’re not doing this for your woman, then you may be depriving her of her well-deserved orgasm. That would kind of be like asking you to have intercourse, but on the condition that you could not climax. What fun would that be? Not much. I dare say that both women and men have the right to achieve orgasm if they are participating in sex…

Perhaps, if you were unwilling or unable to help your woman achieve orgasm, YOU might get the boot, right quickly. It would be a lot to ask of someone to go without orgasms just because you don’t like the smell.

It’s been my experience with things that made me get sick that I can’t stand the thought of them for a while (I’m thinking, particular brands of booze et al.). If you were already iffy on the smell, and a particular lady almost made you hurl, that smell is going to trigger a strong reaction for quite a while. It will probably get better over time.

I, on the other hand, have no sense of smell, so this is a quasi-moot point for me.

My girlfriend said that she didn’t like receiving.

Then I gave.

Now she’s an addict… which is all right with me. I loves the pink meat. :smiley:

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They do. An ex-girlfriend of mine fits that description. Would NOT let me come near her in the oral sense of things. Quite honestly, I couldn’t make heads or tails of it all (how’s that for puns?). The relationship lasted about 3 months, and broke apart when I became too inquisitive about her… somewhat closed attitude towards things sexual. I seriously suspect that this girl was abused in her childhood, and that she could not admit it to me. I still think about her sometime, and I hope she’s OK.

This is not to suggest that all women who dislike receiving oral sex have been abused in their youths, of course. But in my scenario, it may have been the case.

I see your point, but this has never actually been an issue. I am considered quite skilled with my hands, and at foreplay. (More than one woman has volunteered that info.) Oral sex is pretty much the only thing I don’t do during a typical encounter.
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Honest to God, I once dated a woman who made just that condition. She would not allow any man to ejaculate inside her because, she claimed, she was afraid of getting pregnant. Even though she was on the Pill and the guy used a condom! “Birth control can fail,” she said.

We didn’t date that long.
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Again, in theory you are correct, but there apparently is no correlation between my not wanting to do it and lack of orgasms in my partners. Some, like the woman referenced in the OP, have expressed a desire for it simply because they like it. But since they were obviously getting off without it, it wasn’t something they were prepared to insist upon, anyway. As for me “getting the boot,” that rarely happens.

I hate people going down on me. I will let them if they insist, but it’s just not a sensation I enjoy. It would never make me orgasm.

On the other hand, I have yet to encounter a woman I didn’t like the smell and taste of.
You can put me in the pile of “give don’t receive” any day… especially “squirters”. mmmmm.

I don’t particularly like the smell of musk - male OR female. If I get my face right down in the source, it makes me feel like I’m suffocating. If I go down on a guy he has to be clean. To me, women’s scent is so much stronger, it’s difficult for me to go down on a woman at all.

AND…I don’t particularly enjoy receiving oral sex. I’ve gotten off from it twice in my life. And no, the people who did it weren’t bad at it, and I wasn’t closed to the experience.

So, sorry, folks. Looks like I’m a multiple anomoly…which is fine, because I’ve also never had multiple orgasms.

You’re all welcome for the TMI.

My best advice is, if you really want to get back to where you enjoy it, take it in stages with someone who’s very very understanding. Take a shower with her first. Help her soap her bitz…why not? The one time I actually enjoyed going down on a woman, I started off the entertainment with a couple of maraschino cherries halves (NOT inside - yeast infections = BAD) and the flavor was sweet enough and strong enough that I could concentrate on what I was doing without feeling like I was about to asphyxiate.

Hello all…

I am a girl who loves to give but absolutely hates to recieve.

Like, seriously boys, did you really think you could compete with my 5 speed vibrator?