Well, I wonder if this is true. No, I can’t orgasm through vaginal sex, but I still don’t want oral sex. My men have always done quite well getting me off with their hands, and the added bonus is that they’re often kissing me or talking to me at the same time, instead of me staring up at the ceiling.
Not to be nosy, but how old are you?
Wow! really? I can’t imagine not getting it at least once a month or so. What turned you off of it?
…sort of a hijack, but sort of on-topic too no?
It doesn’t turn me off, it just simply does not turn me on. I don’t avoid it, I just don’t encourage it. It may be becuase I’ve never been brought to orgasm that way. I guess I have a “tough” clit that can only be stimulated manually - a tongue is way too “soft” to even arouse me. It may be that I love face-to-face sex play, and not only is cunnilingus not face-to-face, but since I find the odor it leaves on my partner’s face objectionable it kills any further face-to-face play. That plus the fact that the only “feeling” I get out of it is that I’m being slobbered on.
I had an ex boyfriend who wouldn’t go anywhere near it with his mouth. He had a bad experience with a girl who didn’t inform him she was having her period… and let me tell you, the story he proceeded to tell me was so icky it almost turned me off the idea of oral!
I’ve never had a man or woman tell me they disliked my smell. I’ve had some very special friends that would stay down there for hours . I don’t do anything special, just shower every day and try to avoid wearing nylon panties. My odour has never been particulary strong. The only time it is is when I have a yeast infection.
FWIW, I read somewhere that vaginal cleaning products like Summer’s Eve and soap may cause vaginal infections, because they mess with the natural balance of bateria in the vagina. I don’t have a cite for this, but if I find one I will post it.
I think that your disgust (not meant to sound harsh:) ) for vaginal odour will fade with time. Perhaps if you gave it a shot again you would find that it’s not nearly as bad as you have made it out in your head. A bad experience tends to stick in the mind, but remember not to let one bad egg ruin the whole basket.
Of course, if you ever need to practice, just email me.
Aha, that explains it, I’m the exact opposite. There are times when I’m saying “Ooo easy, careful, softer!!!” and my poor bf is saying “I’m barely touching you as it is”.
Sometimes I’m so sensitive that his tongue is just too much for me as well.
On the other hand, he doesn’t have to work very hard. LOL
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Well, thanx for your input. I am considered pretty damn good at “other forms of sex and foreplay.” I am not exaggerating, bragging, or making this up. More than one woman has volunteered that opinion, unasked.
To answer your question, I’m 2 months shy of 27. How old are you? And why did you want to know?
At the risk of sounding arrogant, I’d have to say they’re doing it wrong. Unless your clit is so “tough” that it has to be pounded on in order to respond, it is almost certainly possible for a man (or woman) to stimulate it sufficiently with their mouth, given the right techiniques.
First, of course, it should already be aroused, by manual means, before even heading down there. Once it is, it should be more responsive than if they just start in orally. And, there are lots of things one can do with a clit besides gently lapping it like an ice cream cone, and some of them provide a much more intense sensation. It can be sucked, which many women respond very well to. It can be gently, or maybe not so gently, in your case, nibbled, or scraped with the teeth. It can be ground against the pubic bone, using the lips. And, if sucked into the mouth, a whole lot of pressure can be brought to bear, using the tongue. And, there’s no reason why your lover can’t alternate between oral and manual stimulation. Or, even combine the two.
Of course, none of this overcomes your other objections. But, if you’re curious about why other women rave about oral sex, you could suggest your lover try some, or all, of these techniques, and see if they work for you.
Some people truly aren’t turned on by oral stimulation, in any form. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them, or that anybody is doing anything the wrong way. As analogy, consider that left-handed people make up only 10% of the population, but that doesn’t make them freaks.
If she doesn’t like oral, then she doesn’t like oral. There is no reason to make oneself like something that truly doesn’t bring them pleasure, as long as their partners are satisfied. Otherwise, sex is about as much fun as going to work.
FWIW
If it smells ‘fishy’ at all there is something wrong down there. You/she most likely has bacterial vaginosis… or even possibly trichomoniasis (pretty sure that’s spelled wrong). One’s due to an overgrowth of bacteria that normally reside in the vagina, the other is caused by a tiny organism. Both are easily treatable with a certain form of antibiotic.
Again, if it’s ‘fishy’ there is something wrong with it. If it’s just good 'ol stanky stuff she probably just needs a shower and it’s good to go.
As a woman who loves to receive oral sex I am always HIGHLY awre of what I smell and taste like, but some women are horrified by the ‘ick’ factor and don’t check those things out regularly.
Ohh and Lizard you’ll get over it much faster if you stop calling it ‘eating her out.’ That is just crude.
I’ve posted to this thread at least 10 times, and I’ve used that expression once. So, :dubious:
I’d say you are missing out on a great bit of fun.
If you hit the clit *just[/] right, its like riding a roller-coaster.
Whee as she screams and bucks… Now that is cool.
And the look she gives you when you are done…
You just know you are going to get laid for like weeks afterwards.
If she smells/tastes bad, gently wash her with a clean, warm water wash cloth. And tell her, “Its not your normal taste/smell, because you have been working too much/stressed out too much/blah blah… But I can help you fix that.”
And you don’t have to stick your tongue up the vaginal canal (where the Little Captain goes). Licking the clit and labia minora/majora (the pouty lips) will do a great deal of good. In fact, I hardly ever tongue in the vaginal canal.
It also helps that I don’t mind a little blood or irony smell/taste. Women find it incredibly super sexy that I go down during mestruation (when her evil friends Pam Mary and Sally come over).
I always say that orgasms help cramps and PMS… Seems to work.
And… dude… If oral sex isn’t the bomb-diggitity-iggity-iggity-izzibilitityizzzity-bomB!!!
You ain’t getting it right.
But, I feel your pain. Only two lovers ever made me orgasm orally. One only once. The other realized that I had some brain block that kept me from enjoying it (Thanks Parental/Religious Guilt). After she broke that from me…
WOW!!!
The orgasm is like ten to twenty times more intense than an intercourse orgasm.
Plus (Don’t mind me, Its too late and I’m getting slap happy),
sex doesn’t have to always be about love and intimacy and a very special “Dawson’s Creek” stuff. Good sex can be nasty and fun and goofy and funny and evilly good. Have fun with sex. It’s adult play time. Cuddling is great. But so is a quickie against the fridge.
Have fun and explore. Lighten up. Enjoy yourself and your love interest. Relax… I say again… Relax.
Thanks BytopianDream, for one of the most incomprehensible, but funny, posts in a long time. 
This is intriguing but disturbing. Any ideas where you got this info? I’d be interested in reading it.
I’d appreciate it if you wouldn’t quote me out of context, leaving out the relevant parts. I also said;
She didn’t say she didn’t like it. She basically said she was neutral towards it. And, I was suggesting that she might be able to enjoy it, under the right circumstances. What’s wrong with that? Just because you don’t like it, doesn’t mean she should have to miss out.
Well, it was relatively recent. Within, say, the last six months to a year. I think it was referenced in an article in Smithsonian. But, I can never find anything in their search engine, and I don’t keep back issues. But, why do you find it disturbing?
I’m REaaaaaLLY old. (just turned 44). I was just curious. I thought you were probably at least mid-twenties, but based on some of your discomfort, was wondering if you might have been a bit younger. Some younger guys can be a bit squeamish about giving oral sex. And I’m not saying that in a bad way. Women who are less experienced can be the same way.
Except I’m not that young. So what does that tell you?
You’re not THAT old. I lost my virginity with a woman a few years older than you.
It tells me that you’re about a year older than my boyfriend was when I begin dating him. I was 37 at the time. I have nothing against younger men at all (obviously hehe).
I just know from talking to friends and acquaintances that occasionally young people go through that sort of “phase”. As I said, I had guessed you for older, but asked because if you HAD been younger, and perhaps feeling that squeamishness, hopefully I could have helped a little by telling you it would pass.
As you said in one of your other posts though, you sound pretty darn good at pleasing a woman in other ways. I have to admit, my bf is pretty creative and doesn’t really need to go down on me to be really really good in bed.
I do know a few women who don’t like it. So, if you do find out that you just aren’t getting over the distaste for it, I don’t think you’ll have much trouble. Plus, you sound really nice, and willing to communicate. That’s worth a LOT!