all there is now is Hurrican Katrina ads…
- she believes that women don’t really want sex for physical reasons.
What physical reasons? Being horny? I want sex for both emotional and physical reasons, and quite regularly, thank you.
2. women rarely, and with great difficulty, have orgasms (ie: she’s not unusual)
Well, I may be in the minority, but I almost never have difficulty orgasming, and almost always multiple times. Is that terribly unusual?
Kind of a sidetrack -
It’s funny that many, if not most women don’t achieve orgasm through intercourse. It seems to me this doesn’t quite make evolutionary sense, or does it? I reckon female orgasm isn’t necessary to reproduction like the male orgasm is, but if so, why would it even exist? Then again, humans aren’t like other animals, sexually speaking, for the most part, so maybe it’s par for the course. Damn, now I’m horny! :o
Personally, as a male, I’ve seen a wide variety in the women I’ve been with. My first never orgasmed but had a lot of fun in sex; the second orgasmed most times during intercourse; the third had mind-blowing orgasms from foreplay, and then we’d have intercourse which satisfied her rather hotly burning immediate physical need but didn’t ever make her orgasm. My current GF, I feel like I couldn’t give her an orgasm if I were Ron Jeremy, but she enjoys the sex.
I didn’t have my first orgasm until I was 24. I didn’t know my own body–wasn’t yet comfortable with it, actually–and my lack of sexual experience didn’t help. My husband wasn’t very adventurous in bed, and really was just after his own gratification, so our sexual experiences were very disappointing. Having to tell him what to do really took all the fun out of it for me. I can’t imagine it was much fun for him, either.
So, I think it’s two things: the level of experience of the partners and the chemistry between the two. If it’s lacking or out of balance, orgasm is going to be much harder to achieve.
I think the sexual position is a huge thing for a lot of women - I thought I had it good until I got on top and was able to control things myself. I didn’t know what I was missing before that.
However, being able to even deviate from the missionary position took a certain amount of confidence for me.
Confidence in yourself (that sex can and will be good) and trust in your partner (that they also want to make the investment in your pleasure) are two key elements also.
We are like other animals, sexually speaking, for the most part. We have sex primarily because it feels good.
In an issue of Science that I don’t think I have a copy of, researchers were examining the genitalia of a species of fly. They found that ‘the male genitalia open up like a Swiss army knife’ and that there were certain parts which seemed to have no purpose. By observing flies copulate, they found that these extra parts existed only to provide pleasure to the female. Called beaters, these two appendages would beat rythmically against the female’s body during sex. The females seemed to enjoy this as males with beaters mated more frequently and had repeat business. Observers also found that some males would rock the female during sex, others would ‘sing’ during sex. Again, females seemed to enjoy these things and these males mated with more females, and more than once with a female.