"Women would rather have no sex than boring sex, and men would rather have boring sex than no sex"?

[tdn]

“It’s the same old thing over and over again. I meet a girl, we have a few drinks, and then we go back to my place for sex. Boring! I want something more in my life. On the other hand, I don’t want to give up the boring part.”

Dr. Jerry Robinson

[Asimovian]

@Polerius

That was just an example. Did you miss where I said “There are many other situations in which it might be boring, the above is just an example. The basic thing is that you expect the sex to be boring for you”.

I saw it, too, and yet I can’t think of a single occasion where sex was imminent, and I had this reaction to it.

[Cat_Fight]

@Polerius

What I had in mind when I said “boring sex” in the OP was something like the following: You and your significant other have been together for years, and you’ve done it in a variety of ways, but have converged on a small repertoire of things you do each time. In addition, you know each other’s body like the back of your hand, ie the novelty of a new body is gone. Assuming the above is true (and you don’t spice up your love life with things like dress-up, experiments in S&M, threesomes, etc), I would consider sex under these circumstances to be boring.

There are many other situations in which it might be boring, the above is just an example. The basic thing is that you expect the sex to be boring for you

I hadn’t considered the orgasm aspect of it. Maybe for the puposes of this poll assume that both the man and the woman are expected to orgasm from this “boring” sex (as long as the woman can ever experience an orgasm. If a woman never orgasms, even in the most exciting and wild sex, then she should not be expected to orgasm with boring sex)

IME, it is precisely knowing someone’s body like the back of your hand and building up a repertoire that leads to consistent orgasms (not an endless string of novelties and costumes). If that’s boring, so be it!

[Inigo_Montoya]

@filling_pages

I didn’t vote, but consider:
boring sex for a man = still get an orgasm
boring sex for a woman = not nearly as likely to get the job done

I don’t have sex for the (mine anyway) orgasm. If I’m having boring sex then I’m basically wanking using a body instead of my hands. At least my hands don’t complain. 'course, I ain’t had boring sex for several years now.

[Freudian_Slit]

@The_Bith_Shuffle

This is one of those statements that I consider to be so obvious that I’m surprised even one twentieth of people disagree with it. Yet tons of people do. Are these the same people who think that gender is a social construction?

Well, the part about men preferring boring sex to no sex I agree with. But I think women would feel the same way, too. I know I would. Something is better than nothing!

@Cat_Fight

IME, it is precisely knowing someone’s body like the back of your hand and building up a repertoire that leads to consistent orgasms (not an endless string of novelties and costumes). If that’s boring, so be it!

And I agree with this.

[Polerius]

Results so far are quite consistent across gender lines

True vs False all votes: 58% vs 42%
True vs False women votes: 59% vs 41%
True vs False men votes: 57% vs 43%

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@Polerius

Results so far are quite consistent across gender lines

True vs False all votes: 58% vs 42%
True vs False women votes: 59% vs 41%
True vs False men votes: 57% vs 43%

But the poll is set up so strangely that it’s hard to know what to make of that. You’ve tied two statements together, so you have to agree or disagree with both. Lots of people have agreed with one or the other, but not both. Chessic Sense decided that meant it was true; I’d guess (but I don’t know) that a female would tend to say that was false.

[G0sp3l]

@HazelNutCoffee

I don’t mind boring sex, unless boring means sex so uninteresting you’re watching TV while you’re doing it.

That’s not necessarily bad or boring. If the Super Bowl is on and sex is in the offing I’m definitely going for two.

As my old science teacher liked to say “There ain’t no such thing as bad sex”

I’m a guy and voted - women prefer boring to none

[Beware_of_Doug]

Male, voted yes.

I’m convinced that women of intelligence and character have such high socially-inculcated standards that must be met to allow sexual arousal that only an out-and-out sociopathic douchebag could ever get them to forget those standards and just get it on.

[dukette71]

Sex has a lot to do with affection, so boring sex is still worthwhile.

[The_Understander]

Boring sex is for married people. They can afford it… they’ve got a lifetime ahead of them and many years to have exciting times.

Me, I’m young and single. I don’t have time for boring sex. Any woman that just lies there is not getting a call later… and breakfast will only include eggs and toast with only house-blend coffee. Fie! I say, on those who disdain the pleasures of variety!

[JR_Brown]

@Polerius

What I had in mind when I said “boring sex” in the OP was something like the following: You and your significant other have been together for years, and you’ve done it in a variety of ways, but have converged on a small repertoire of things you do each time. In addition, you know each other’s body like the back of your hand, ie the novelty of a new body is gone. Assuming the above is true (and you don’t spice up your love life with things like dress-up, experiments in S&M, threesomes, etc), I would consider sex under these circumstances to be boring.

Err, what? Familiarity =/= boring. Novelty isn’t a requirement for good sex.

[JR_Brown]

@Beware_of_Doug

Male, voted yes.

I’m convinced that women of intelligence and character have such high socially-inculcated standards that must be met to allow sexual arousal that only an out-and-out sociopathic douchebag could ever get them to forget those standards and just get it on.

No prize for you. As a woman of intelligence and character, my standards (which are high) are predicated upon enjoying the resulting event, rather than hoping the guy will finish soon so I can get the hell out and never see him again. A lot of men fail to get this, but the “all sex is good sex” thing doesn’t actually apply to most women. Genital stimulation (particularly penile-vaginal intercourse) doesn’t lead as automatically to an orgasm for (most) women as it does for (almost all) men, so “spontaneous sex with a randomly selected stranger” isn’t necessarily going to ring the bell for us. Why should we waste our time laying guys we don’t want if were’re not going to get anything out of it?

[KarlGrenze]

I’m a bit conflicted… I want to say “boring sex is better than no sex”… But then I think of one particular person, and how bad he was as a lover… I’d rather play my cards elsewhere (even if it means waiting) than waste another night (well, more like 5 minutes) with him. That experience, though, didn’t make me change my habits (until I partnered).

[brujaja]

Nawp. Good sex is awesome; even bad or mediocre or uninspired sex is still good for your health. I believe that very strongly.

I’m a girl. And “no sex” is hell on earth for me.

… but don’t start me!

[catflea12]

The worst sex I ever had was still pretty good (female)

[Haunted]

Pfft. Sex with Haunted is never boring. Just sayin’.