My theory is pretty unpopular, but here goes:
There exists in the female mind, due to social conditioning beginning in childhood, a lingering little weed of a thought that sex is A Bad Thing. Many women get over it; many do not. As a result, some women cannot feel “good” in a relationship unless they are miserable with it, in a sense silently punishing themselves through a male for being happy.
Like I say, this is not a popular theory. I have noticed through lo these many years of experience that expressing interest in a woman in a way that is “more than friendly” is a delicate balance; there is, somewhere, about a 10-second window where a guy has a chance at being a romantic interest. You miss the window, you wind up in the Friend Zone, from which no man has returned.
My greater question is, what’s this thing women have against dating/getting serious with friends? Obviously, if two people are friends, they get along; why not give it a whirl? Aren’t the odds of success and happiness better? Or is the ‘friend’ thing just a way of giving a guy the brush-off?
Fer pete’s sake, it’s not like the friendship is worth a hill of beans anyway if one person’s expected to deny his feelings.