lol. I wish. I’m actually a chick, and have never purchased the services of any of the women listed above. But we’ve shared plenty of girly talk over bottles of wine!
Or it’s not going to happen in the first date and forget about “no strings attached”. If I ever hired a guy it would be simply so I could kick him out in the morning and be sure he’d stay out.
I’d be interested on why and how, but it’s not necessarily a deal breaker.
A long, long time ago (22 years to be exact), the subject of “being a virgin at 18” came up in a room in the YMCA, in New York. It turned out that out of some 16 people in the room, all 18 or over, only two weren’t virgins: the African-American schoolteacher from Miami who had several years on everybody else, and one of the Aussies, who had been taken to a brothel by his big brother (big brother had joked about it, the guy hadn’t taken it seriously, much less expected an actual “here, this is the place”). After some thought, there was general agreement that his case didn’t exactly “count” girlfriend-wise but that since he hadn’t, he should hie himself to a doctor as some STDs can be asymptomatic. In his case I would view the visit to the brothel more as “sexual abuse by someone (the brother) who views the abuse as a favor” than as this guy going to a brothel.
I remember listening to an Intelligence Squared debate in which anthropologist Lionel Tiger framed it in a new and compelling way for me: that it’s wrong to pay for (or engage in any capacity) wrong sex: that which is coercive, to the criminal trafficking of sex slaves, anything which victimizes human beings. But it’s just incorrect to assume that this horrible state of affairs is the norm for all sexwork.
There’s a lot of stigma and ugliness attached to prostitution that comes from legitimate victimization of human beings, from puritanic religious views about sex, and it’s (mostly) illegal status puts those who engage in it on the fringe of society regardless of whether their participation in it did harm another human being.
So like a number of other posters have mentioned, depending on the circumstances, motivation and level of safety practiced, I’d be okay with it.
Oh, bullshit. Did the brother force him to fuck the prostitute? Because unless he did, that is not abuse of the younger brother in any sense of the term, and calling it abuse cheapens the term and insults people who have actually been abused.
It would depend on the age of the brother and the person when the incident happened, the relationship between the two and the effects afterwards.
I think you’re being a wee bit hasty, and the whole ‘cheapen’ argument isnt something I tend to agree with anyhow. No matter what we do, abuse covers a huge range of acts and outcomes.
What are the “tricks” ? The johns ? If so, I really don’t think they give a shit about her performance piece and “empowerment, sistah !” tripe. All they want is to bust their nut.
Reminds me of a pr0n actress from here, Ovidie, who is/was fully into the Annie Sprinkle thing and thought herself of a sex-positive feminist when sucking cock on the screen (and she is also vegan and antifascist - yeah, the works). As if the men who beat it off watching her films cared :D.
Gad, what a pile of deluded crap. “Morganna Wolfsbane” is a “sacred prostitute serving her Goddess using Tantric energy to heal the Earth.” Nutjob. Definitely some kind of abuse survivor.
" Samantha, who had a “you go, girl!” moment of sexual empowerment when the was 16 and never turned back"
What the fuck does that mean?
“Heather, whose hero is Annie Sprinkle and she’s turning tricks to produce her next performance piece.”
Why doesn’t she get a fucking job to pay for her shitty “performance art?” She turns tricks for money, just like any other prostitute. Also someone who was definitely molested. In fact, all three of your examples are, without question, abuse survivors now lying to themselves. They need intensive therapy, not to be humored in these high risk and self-destructive behaviors.
The one with the kid needs to have CPS called, by the way.
Because I was a teenage street kid, I have known many prostitutes as friends, and in every case, these were abused girls who we exploited when younger. Every last one had come from an abusive family and most were first been pimped out as a teenager, some as young as 11 when they first were sold. Despite having met perhaps 200 sex workers, including gay males, teenage girls, and adult women - not one does not have abuse in their history. Not one has a healthy view of sex, not one has the ability to understand a loving sexual bond between two people. I can tell you stories about the strange desperation, such as female friends wanting to thank me (also female) sexually for giving them a hand, or trying to make every relationship sexual and not understanding a non-sexual friendship.
Although they may no longer be exploited when they continue to work as adults, the reasons they work are rooted in the abuse & exploitation in their youth. Prostitution becomes normal to them, and those who are not part of their “circle” will not not their history.
Most people do not want others to know that they are weak - and that history will be a secret to those who are not part of their world because it makes them look weak.
I won’t discount that there is a possibility of a sex worker who has not come from a history of abuse and/or exploitation, but I have never met one.
No - because I also met others while in college and while I was working as a waitress in a hotel and as part of the arts scene. I think because of my personality and my past, people are far more likely to be honest with me about the kind of past they’ve had.
