Just curious. 
Thin and unattractive? Probably not. Thin and attractive? I’d probably date them long enough to discover this aspect of their character and end it.
Would I date myself?
Actually, I wouldn’t.
Nope, don’t like slim women. I need me a whole lotta curves and substance!
ETA: the “judgemental piece of crap” part is also a no-go as far as long-term relationships go.
I used to be obese … got sick, lost weight, now am at lower end of healthy BMI … have been on dates where the men have expressed disgust at overweight women, made comments about how they could never date someone who was overweight … and I’ve told them that they have just gone on a date with a “fat” woman: me.
I can’t promise I’m going to remain this weight forever, I have been fat before … high chance I’ll get fat again … if they are so biased … then I’m not sticking around to find out at which point I don’t meet their criteria. If I hear racist comments, then they are gone; if I hear “fatist” comments; they are gone. I have friends who are overweight, I have family who are overweight … if someone on a first-ish date is willing to make comments to a near stranger about how much they don’t like overweight women, I’m not letting them near my loved ones who don’t deserve to be judged like that.
I married one. It wasn’t pleasant.
I dated an obese woman who was highly judgemental. It wasn’t so bad, because our opinions largely overlapped. We agreed most of the time.
But she wouldn’t pull her punches in those cases where we disagreed. She was judgemental…and had no diplomacy. No etiquette.
Bummer…
Tangential relevance here. I dated an overweight woman who was very smart and also rather neurotic. Things didn’t work out, I dated someone else for years.
Then I ran into her again. She had got way into physical training and was in great shape. I was glad to see her, but I still thought she was rather neurotic. In a charming way, and I’d always admired her smarts- you see how this isn’t exactly to the OP, while pointing out that the body can change while the person remains basically the same.
I happen to be turned on by guys who are very thin; call me an “anorectophile.” I don’t care whether someone’s a “judgmental piece of crap” for a brief affair, but it wouldn’t become an actual relationship.
Heh.
“Date”? No, probably not date.
Judgmental about what? If we shared common values, eh, it might even be kinda fun to bash on our common enemies. Judgmental about me: that’d get tiring pretty quick. About random things: still get annoying pretty quick, but probably worth at least a chance.
I wouldn’t mind the slim or the judgmental, but the piece of crap part would probably not work out.
Regards,
Shodan
The “judgemental piece of crap ina size 2”? Nope. Reps don’t make you interesting, a flat stomach doesn’t make you fun and being an A-hole just makes you… an A-hole.
Some people say that people who aren’t 6% body fat do a lot to compensate for it, which may be true. But, if thats true, wouldn’t it work the other way too?
Imagine a thin-but-ignorant hard-headed A-hole who does nothing but draw attention to themselves drama-whore style while trying to put down others in a vain attempt to make themselves look better (See “Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)” )
What part of that is fun at a restaurant? At a movie or a play (they’d probably try to heckle the actors mid-show)? Who wants to deal with the food brought out after your date nose-tweaks the waiter?
Who wants to permanently write off good restaurants because A-hole makes loud comments about, and keeps trying un-funny practical jokes on, the people at the next table?
Now the same person who’d insist that people who aren’t slim can go change, ends up being in total denial about being a judgemental piece of crap. They just internalize their frustrations into “5 more reps” or “5 more StairMaster minutes”,
reinforcing the walls of ignorance that they have built around themselves.
To me, thats not Beautiful.
That’s Ugly with Bondo.
Should this be in the Pit, maybe? I presume it’s a response to the ‘‘would you have sex with a fat person?’’ thread.
People can be as judgmental as they want inside their own head, I don’t care. As long as they only mention their opinions infrequently and only when the situation would call it up. If they can’t shut up about it, it’s a dealbreaker.
I’m judgmental and my husband is too - thing is, we agree on 95% of it, and we keep our traps shut most of the time and especially on the parts we disagree about.
It’s funny because my friends think that I am one of the most non-judgmental people they’ve ever met, while I’m sitting over here thinking things such as, “My god, it’s not a point of pride to eat messily and demand other people accept it as part of your character. It’s no wonder you don’t have a girlfriend.”
Is she hot?
And does she do it? No good her being hot otherwise.
I marked yes, because I did. She wasn’t judgmental about looks or weight, per se, but she sure was about a lot of other stuff. Actually, come to think of it, I dated two like that.
Yes, I’m that desperate.
