Have you actually talked to him?He may not realize that he’s upset you. And you mention the fact that he’s done this several times.
Speaking from experience I know that the Asperger’s means I sometimes say things like that (FYI I can’t see anything wrong with his comment. Laugh 
or roll eyes :rolleyes: as appropriate. Move on)
I’d rather have someone mention it to me after the first incident than not say anything because they don’t want to create a scene or hurt my feelings. Because they haven’t said anything AFAIK then they aren’t upset. The first I know of it is a couple of weeks later where they complain to someone and there are then several incidents and the problem is bigger than if they’d said something at the beginning.
And when did it become PMS anyway?
Over here, it’s PMT. Leading to a lovely discovery that one of the local bus companies, P otteries M idland T ransport has a very apt red and creamy yellow colour scheme 
Disagreeing with you makes me sanctimonious? You must be a barrel of laughs to live with.
Yep, I agree about choosing battles. Going to HR or the boss’ boss are two of several textbook answers, but they’re also lose-lose propositions.
Instead of “contronting,” your boss, I’d have a friendly chat and tell him how you’re feeling. Honey vs. vinegar. The important thing, to me, is to create a happy, productive, respectful work environment. Marching to HR will likely backfire and earn you a reputation as a boatrocker/complainer. Sorry to say, organizations aren’t the most sensitive to these lesser complaints. Tell your boss that you feel uncomfortable, but while you’re at it, start documenting these events, should you someday file charges based on a hostile work environment.
I don’t find either of you to be a barrel of laughs. If you two want to throw cheap shots at each other, take it to The BBQ Pit.
Sorry; merely trying to defend myself against unprovoked name-calling.
LLM’s preachin’ it. I can’t tell you what fascinating tidbits I’ve gotten from mere acquaintances in HR, more than I legally ought to know at any rate.
In every company I’ve worked for, going directly to the boss’s boss would be seen as a runaround, a grave offense. I’ve even been told directly, don’t ever speak with the Department Director for any reason; she’s too busy to deal with your petty problems; deal only with a sub-manager instead, who will take your concerns to the Manager if warranted. Sucks; but there it is.
I’ve been the boss in this situation… I’ve made poor jokes that did not reflect well on our department, and a woman working for me called me on it. In private, in a non-confrontational style. I was glad she called my attention to it, thanked her, and avoided making similar jokes after that.
If your boss is at all professional, his reaction should be similar.
My point exactly. I’ve had employees go with petty complaints to someone who is my senior (not about me) because they feel some sort of bond with that person. Hearing about a subordinate problem in your department from your boss is annoying to say the least, and requires much more effort to resolve than it would have if the person had just told me in the first place.
Masonite also hit it on the nose: an ‘end run’ is not appreciated. I’m not sure why someone would want to create that sort of pressure for themselves, unless they really thought they would get no satisfaction by going to the offending supervisor. The tendency would be to consider the person a troublemaker, whether or not it was deserved.
Having said all that, however, the dynamics in every office is different, so you have to go with whatever works best.