One. I’m not seeking attention, i’ve stated several times that i’m happily taken. I get all the approval I need at home.
two. This thread has gotten hijacked in so many ways i just let it run. The OP wasn’t about nice guys finish last, nor was it looking to define the rational behind behind the “loser, or emotional leech nice guys” WHat I was asking for was A few stories about other men who manage to conduct themselves in a civil manner. Secondly i was looking perhaps for some rational behind the abusive foul attitude that a large percentage of men seem to be exhibiting today.
Three. This is the pit. When i made the orginal post, i was upset, and prone to blurring my intent. Just to clarify, however, I really do only know TWO other decent men.
Fourth. TO those of you who have posted about your friends or So’s, thank you!
Kayeboy is a nice guy. Really. If I could bottle him up and sell him like perfume I’d make a fortune.
He gives me tummy rubs, presents, and loads of compliments. He’s a great tipper, nice to animals, handy with computers, gorgeous, intelligent, and also has a great job (well as great as a 20 year old can realistically have). He answers my hypothetical questions, even the really stupid ones like “would you rather have sex with a monkey or a dead person?”
He knows when to put up with my occasional bitchy moods, when to draw the line, and when to make me laugh and forget why I was angry in the first place. He’s most definitely a Nice Guy. When he smiles, even his ears smile (but then again, when he chews his ears move as well, so he might just have funny ears).
Satisfying Andy Licious, do realize that a couple of posts about a topic aren’t necessarily going to be good fodder for a psychoanalysis… this is especially true if the post was written while someone was in a bad mood or a different mindset than their regular behaviour. (Just out of curiosity, are you a budding amateur psychoanalyst, or are you making a career of quick assumptions?)
Sure, some men do feel the group guilt thing, but there are societal reasons for them to feel it. A great many people in society are insistent on making anyone who themselves or their ancestors could’ve ever oppressed their ancestors, themselves, or people in their subgrouping feel guilt for it.
Lastly, the average human being does seek at least a minimal amount of approval from their peer group. This being a message board, the peer group happens to be whatever posters decide to interact with said poster. People don’t normally go out of their way to get verbally shat on if they’ve got everything together in the right order mentally.
Okay, let’s see. A couple weeks ago I was downtown at night and saw a guy following a woman and arguing with her, so I stepped in to calm things down a bit and asked her if she needed someone to walk her home. Then later I gave up my seat to an elderly lady on the subway. Just this last weekend I flew across the country on short notice to surprise a friend of mine by attending her wedding[sup]*[/sup]. Is that the sort of thing you’re looking for?
[sub]* I showed up at the right time and place and nobody there knew anything about a wedding. They had to move it to a different location and I was the only one who didn’t get the word, but that’s really beside the point.[/sub]