There’s no shortage of women (men too) whose entire existence is nothing more than either attempting to mate or talking about mating. We call that your 20s. The idea that they can just have a non-sexual conversation with someone of the opposite gender is not something they can grasp. What can you do? Evolution wants them to reproduce. Some people cant see anything past that.
I can’t really think of anything better to talk about with a 20 something year old girl.
I’m 49, my daughter is 23. Her friends and I get along like there’s no age difference at all, because treat each other that way.
A few months back, I ran into one of her friends at a bar, he with some other people his own age that I didn’t know. A couple of them were girls, I got introduced, we all sat and talked a while. Except this one girl who was visibly skeeved by the fact that I was sitting there, talking to them. She kept turning to her girlfriend, mumbling and glancing my way like I was a steamy poo-pile. She went to use the ladies room and I took a minute to politely inquire what’s her issue?
The girlfriend said (with appropriate sarcasm to indicate she thought her friend was insane and childish) that I was very obviously some creepy old man and that I kept looking at her boobs.
Whatever. She came back, nothing else was said, but I put the experience in the file I keep of Bizarre Over-Reactions.
Like you suddenly loose your inhibition to look at boobs at 49?
The girl was trying to flirt with cute boys and get laid, and she doesn’t need grandpa over there stepping on her scene.
So- did she have nice boobs?
Ha! I love boobs as much as the next guy. Poor thing was equipped like a fat 14 year old boy, and didn’t have an awful lot to look at though.
MeanOldLady, you’re probably not far off.
Uh, 'cept for that ‘grandpa’ crack.
Well, the important thing is that you noticed.
Thats why its illegal to run around with your high beams on.
Huh. I’ve heard it called a pink taco, but never have I heard someone say it looks like spaghetti.
Maybe you’re just not up on college slang. “39” is like 69 but where one of you is only half as old.
The fact that I just made that up does not mean it can’t be true.
You should have told her, it might have put her more at ease.
You’ve never seen Drawn Together have you?
You’re 23?!! I’m old enough to be your…older brother!
Looking back over my life, it definitely does seem to me that when I was nineteen or twenty, a span of that many years seemed huge to me, whether it was a period of recent history, or a difference in ages between two people. Twenty years is the amount of time that passed between V-E day in 1945 and the first flowering of the psychedelic art and music scene in London, L.A., and other major cities. It still seems enormous to me because of the cultural changes that occurred. Now at the age of fifty-one, the last twenty years from 1989 to 2009 seem like nothing. Of course, I’ve gone through some changes in my own life such as a career, getting married, moving a few times, and helping raise a beautiful, intelligent stepdaughter who is now twenty six. And I am probably less aware of age differences, unless someone is very young or very old.