As long as she has some tread left, good luck to you.
I don’t think it’s wrong, but I’m not sure I get the appeal of the relationship as described, for the OP. Part of the draw of dalliance with an older woman, for young men (so I thought) was their more extensive sexual experience and skills, and that they’re more likely to know what they want and not be afraid to say so.
Budget Player Cadet’s old lady, by contrast, is apparently timid and not particularly adventurous, to the point of frustration. Basically a shy teenager in the body of a middle-aged woman. So what’s the point?
Bitches love frisbees.
I do interact with teens some. Which makes it even more baffling that a real relationship could be had with one by anyone over the age of about 25. Now sure, fucking an 18 year old is fun, but I honestly don’t get why someone my age, let alone someone over a decade my senior, would want a relationship with one unless they had some major issues.
I wouldn’t freak out by any means, but Bieber aims his music and his image at a very particular demographic: tween girls (and maybe a couple years above and below). A fan presumably either enjoys his music or thinks he’s cute or both, which in any case definitely seems unusual for a 40-ish woman. Of course I’m not the final arbiter of appropriate fandom.
Well, I mean, the difference is clear — our expectations of appropriate behavior change for different ages. If David Letterman went to a Hannah Montana concert (or whoever young female artist is popular among her demographic now) as a fan then I daresay people would find it weird. Right or wrong.
I’d almost agree with that comment except for the claim of “major issues” for the elder party, which I feel is likely but not necessary. Presumably a man of 18 could share enough interests with a woman of 48 to sustain a romantic relationship. But agreed that it’s kind of bizarre. Particularly when considering that an 18 year old is still in flux while at 48 someone has had time to solidify — to accumulate experiences and to make judgments about which the former individual is likely still grasping.
Part of the negative reaction is due, I suspect, to that built-in squeamishness about incest. The age difference at play is exactly that between me and my mother, and those of her age have seemed at least vaguely somewhat maternal to me. (Ladies of ages 60+, please don’t hit me for saying that …)
The OP has posted less information about his ladyfriend than you have about Bieber. And he’s actually boinking her.
Well, one difference is that in the Justin Bieber thread you started talking about how you wished you could buy his hair. I don’t see any freaking out in the thread in question until you started going on about wanting to buy his hair and tried to defend this as a normal thing for a grown woman to want to do. Things went downhill from there – your revelation that you’d memorized Justin Bieber’s blood type certainly didn’t help – but there were only a couple of snarky remarks when you were just talking about going to a concert. Early in the thread people were more bothered about you linking to the story on Facebook than anything else.
Hey, don’t paint me with that brush. I’m all for it (per my earlier post). Whatever makes you happy and all that shit.
I get laid. Oh, and she’s a genuinely interesting person.
Not all 18-year-olds are the same. If I may say a few words about myself (trying not to brag, although I’m going to fail miserably…)
– I look a lot older than I am; most people think I’m closer to 25 or 30 than 18.
– I’m really well-educated, to the point where I can hold a conversation about most subjects (well, save for politics on the internet, because fuck being nice when you’re anonymous), even with someone well older than me
– I had a weird-ass childhood: I lived with a band, remember being whisked away in the middle of the night as a child by my parents to get on the tour bus and drive down to New York (a good 9 hours), remember touring in the same bus across the country and then to mexico for an entire year (instead of third grade), and have lived in 4 different countries with 4 different languages.
– My parents are old-school hippies, my closest friends are all age 35+, and most of them are almost absurdly interesting people, for example the lesbian park ranger/photographer who has lived all over the states, or the guy who is honored like a celebrity in The Gambia for his skills on the drums, or the other guy who is honored like a celebrity in the The Gambia for his knowledge of the culture, or the sea captain who uses a pseudonym as his last name and “Captain” as his first name… You get the picture
I’m really fucking weird. This puts off younger girls, but catches the eye of more interesting, adventurous older women.
Your cloaking device has failed and you’ve gone from stealth brag to overt brag.
Maybe she has good hair and a wonderful personality ?
Well, you certainly sound like a mature adult with an accurate view of himself and how cool he is. I can’t imagine why anyone would disagree.
Are you sure? Because I didn’t.
You’re a creepy dingbat?
::koff koff koff:: Unhealthy for a 40 year old to be entranced by a barely legal teen, I believe you said?
But he is now, BWAHAHAHA! ::diabolical laughter::
He even tweeted like “come and get me cougars” come on. If he doesn’t care why do you?
Thank god I didn’t post my recap of going to see One Direction/Big Time Rush.
Oooooh. That would look sweet on my business card.
Look, people in that thread were not “freaking out” because you said you went to a Justin Bieber concert, but because the specific things you wrote about Justin Bieber were weird and creepy. They would be weird and creepy even if you were talking about a celebrity your own age, although it certainly doesn’t help that your celebrity crush was a minor at the time.
You generally seem like a nice enough person and if you have a crush on Justin Bieber then I figure that’s your own business, but if you come into the Pit trying to play the victim about the way that other thread turned against you then you’ve got to expect to be called on it.
I’m not playing the victim. I’m trying to stick up for thread starter (whoever that was three pages ago) because yeah I interact a lot with teens online. Some of them because we enjoy the same music (Pet Shop Boys/Morrisey - OLD PEOPLE MUSIC!) or (OLD PEOPLE MOVIES) and whatnot. Quite a few of these kids are gay teens and most are unhappy with themselves or their current status. Believe it or not I’m trying to make a difference, but if it’s comical to you to paint me as a date-rapist, whatever.
You’re grooming them now?