Yet Another Relationship Advice Post

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Wow, lots of good responses, thanks everyone :slight_smile:

Lissa, I definitely don’t want to give off the “desperately searching for a girlfriend” vibe, as I’m sure that’s very counter-productive when you are just trying to meet new people. I guess that’s why I gave online dating a shot at first, was because that kind of pragmatic approach appealed to me. Maybe just trying to shortcut the whole social process by going straight to that isn’t really wise.

I’m definitely going to give some activity clubs a shot, my only issue I can foresee with those is that I don’t seem to have any long-term passions for a particular sport, my interest seems to wander every couple months. I mean, in the past year or two I’ve done tennis, rock climbing, running, and skiing at alternating times. The only really consistent activity I have lately is World of Warcraft, and that’s not very conducive to creating “real” friends :stuck_out_tongue: I’ve been trying to cut back on how much I play though, as it’s really obvious to me that it’s diametrically opposed to forging a healthy social life.

As for the church group option, although I come from a pretty conservative Christian background I find myself leaning at lot more towards atheism currently. I feel like joining a church group just to meet people, without any investment in the belief, seems a bit disingenuous. But maybe that’s just me…

In regards to lack of success on the online dating front, I did this a couple months ago and specifically picked people with very recent activity on their account, and the only other basic criteria was someone who was similar to me in age, had a photo, was at least a 50% match with me or something in common with me in terms of interests, and was within about 50 miles of me. So I don’t think I was overly discerning or didn’t give them enough time to reply, but I could be wrong.

In reply to Ravenman, I had a couple neighbors in college who played the usual game, and they seemed pretty happy with it, but I just can’t put myself in that role and see it working. I have a tendency to overthink the consequences of my actions, which might put a damper on my enjoyment :stuck_out_tongue:

And finally Eyebrows of Doom, I think that requires an obligatory “How you doin’?” in reply :wink:

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You may be right. I sure felt that way for a while. But after some thought, that’s exactly what I’m doing. And I’m trying to be very up-front about it. I told the guy who puts together the groups that I’m not a believer and if that would make anyone feel uncomfortable, then I wouldn’t do it. But he told me that he was the head of putting together groups and if anyone gave me a hard time about it, then I should let him know because that’s not the way that the church functions. So I’m going forward with it.

There are also atheist groups, but in the area that I live, I think I might have a hard time finding some of those. Perhaps I’ll try more later, but I’m checking out this church thing for now. I kinda like the church scene. It’s interesting.