I’ve known brides who’ve been given a Chill Pill or two before the ceremony, and then people keep handing them drinks at the reception and then they HAVE to toast with champagne and then someone hands them another.
Slipping inhibitions? How about complete lack of? And probably no recollection of groping you. So cut her some slack, with the hope it won’t be a problem in the future.
Jesus. Who shops for toys drunk?
Who shops for toys sober? 
“She was drunk, maybe on drugs, so cut her some slack for groping you” is kind of a shitty thing to say, even if it wasn’t a super serious situation.
Seriously? You come into a thread about bad advice and give worse advice than the examples in the OP?
Ace309, I’m sorry this happened to you. It would be awkward for anyone, even those who think they’d deal deftly with it. It’s probably worse because it’s a woman behaving inappropriately with a man; most people would assume you’d like it. Crossing boundaries is out of line no matter who does it or to whom it’s done.
Alcoholics?
I work in retail. Most customers are sober, but not a day goes by we don’t get a few under the influence of something or other.
Don’t get me wrong. I’ve gone to Toys ‘r Us drunk many times. Not to buy toys…just to hit on the stock boys.
After reading this I thought about it and realized that my husband and I fit into this pattern. Never noticed it before but it sure does help.
OP, I hope once the bride is done with her DAY and being all wound up, that she will revert to her former self. If not, I think avoiding her (or at least avoiding being alone with her) is the best solution. I don’t blame you at all for being troubled by the situation as well as the silly responses to the situation (sneak bragging? what?).
You’re right, I apologize. I was remembering my niece’s wedding (which is more than she can say) where she had chemically lost all inhibitions by the time she tried to throw the bouquet. We cut her a bunch of slack, partly because she had no memory of how many people she’d draped herself over, and how many were trying to keep her vertical, but I do NOT mean for that to diminish how you felt in the situation. Hope you can deal with this…which I should’ve helped with but failed. Sorry.
Uh huh. That’s not how that works. The cops won’t just charge someone with assault because a crazy lady said they touched her.
Exactly this. The bathroom is a great excuse when you need to put some distance between yourself and another person, especially if the other person uses the other restroom.
I would not have made a fuss about the bride’s behavior on her wedding day. I’m pretty direct, but that;s beyond what even I would be comfortable with. But I would have squirmed away, and not let her feel me up. (same if the groom was doing that to me.)
OMG I love to feel hair like that. And, YIKES I can’t imagine running my hand through the hair of a total stranger. Hell, I rarely get up the gumption to ask a friend for permission to do it. I can’t believe people do that to you.
Oh, and yeah, you are totally normal to be freaked out by being inappropriately touched, and I’m sorry that happened to you.
But when she says it, the entire store breaks out in applause.
I’m with the, ‘sic your wife on her if it happens again’, camp.
Avoidance, if that isn’t possible.
You have a right to be upset by this.
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I was a stock boy.
But yeah, not often but over 2 1/2 years of working there I encountered obviously inebriated people maybe close to a dozen times. It was worse around Christmas. Then you’d get the desperate and drunk rather than happy and drunk people.
I never encountered anyone angry and drunk though. I’m happy about that.
You have every right to feel deeply uncomfortable. She violated boundaries didn’t take the hint that she went too far.
I’m not one to lecture you on not speaking up when I couldn’t even tell my creepy neighbor to leave me TF alone. I just want to state that should you decide to, you’d be totally in the right to tell her how uncomfortable she made you and/or that you have no wishes to see her again. That’s super hard to do though, whether you’re a woman OR a man, and I hope she leaves you alone going further.
What I used to do is smoke a cigarette with the bride. I don’t know if that is “rocking it”, but the nastiness of it was already kind of palpable, so there was no need of additional nastiness?
I can’t say I understand the mechanics of it, but if you are to encounter a questionable bride, have a smoke or a cigar with them and de-fuse it all right then and there.
This. Imagine the groom got drunk and went around grabbing tits and asses. Absolutely nobody would give him a pass.
The people who do the “well, I would simply have…” are full of bullshit. You don’t know how you will react to a situation until it happens to you. I don’t blame you for being confused and upset.
Both times I was pregnant my belly got huge so of course I got all the touching and rubbing in the world. Of course I had visions of slapping hands away and lecturing strangers about personal space. The best i could usually do was a weak little “Please don’t do that.”
The worst was some nutcase woman who tried to lift up my shirt in the middle of the grocery store! I was so shocked that all I could do was yank my shirt back down and run right out of the store leaving my cart!
I know it happens, but God, that is just so weird. Both touching a man’s hair/beard and a woman’s hair/stomach. While I feel fine remarking on how neat someone’s hair might look, the ONLY time I’d ever touch anyone’s hair is if they’re a close friend or family member, I’m only straightening something and I mention that I’m doing it first. Most anyone I’m on very good terms with is going to be, “Oh, okay! Thanks!” But doing that to a perfect stranger is just beyond bizarre. I don’t understand people who think they have a right to touch other people’s bodies.