How old were you/your partner?
I was 13, it was just a couple of days before my 14th birthday. He was 16.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
The house I grew up in had a finished basement with 2 bedrooms. I had turned one of the bedrooms into a sort of second bedroom for myself.
Did/do you love that person?
I liked him a lot, sure. I don’t think I ever really loved him. I tried to convince myself I did for a short while, but it didn’t last.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
We were never married. We were engaged for a few years. We ended up having 2 children together.
Are you still with that person?
No. We were off and on for years. When I found out I was pregnant with our first son, he asked me to marry him, so I broke off our relationship. Since we stayed in close contact because of our son, 2 years or so later we gave our relationship another shot. We stayed together for about 3 years. Long enough for me to have another son. Right after our second son’s first birthday, he went to visit family in PA and disappeared for a couple of months. When he returned the locks were changed and I told him not to come back. He never did. We had a somewhat civil relationship for the kids, though his mind deteriorated over the years. He’s a heavy drug user now. I haven’t spoken to him in almost 2 years. I don’t think I ever will again. It’s a glorious feeling.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?
I don’t have any regrets. Everything that happened needed to happen. I have two great boys I wouldn’t trade the world for.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
Hotel we were both staying in.
Did/do you love that person?
No, no feelings at all: I’d only met him about 24 hours before.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
See above… I was involved with someone else at the time, though.
Are you still with that person?
No.
Do you have any regrets
No, none, even though I didn’t even know his name. I was tired of waiting for my boyfriend to sober up enough to deflower me. It was just any old person at the right time (might explain why I tend not to get emotional about sex, though).
Did/do you love that person? I thought I was in love, although I now think I was mostly in love with being in love.
Were you married, engaged, etc.? No, thank god. We did date for six years, for reasons which are unclear to me now.
Are you still with that person? No, thank god.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)? Sadly, yes. This girl was incredibly sexually repressed, and dating her had a real impact on both my attitudes toward sex and my general self-esteem. Sex with her was always pretty crappy and the first time was no exception.
How old were you/your partner?
14/28 Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
On the livingroom floor at my parents house. Did/do you love that person?
yep, still do. Were you married, engaged, etc.?
me no, but she was. Are you still with that person?
no. Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long :eek: etc.)?
I regret that we didn’t get to stay together longer.
How old were you/your partner?
I was 17, he had just turned 18. We were freshmen in college but had known each other in high school.
**Where did you do it? **
My dorm room
Did/do you love that person?
Yes, I did. We had been together for 3 months at that point and had been interested in each other for over a year.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
Nope. We stayed together for 3 years though, through most of college.
Are you still with that person?
Nope, we broke up. We are still friends, though, and I like his current GF a lot. I am much happier with my boyfriend now than I was in the relationship with this guy.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?
None whatsoever. It was the right time for both of us (first time) and we had a lot of fun doing all that together.
How old were you/your partner?
I was 17, she was 16
Where did you do it?
In the front seat of a 1962 Chrysler, in a deserted parking lot, in the middle of winter
Did/do you love that person?
I was crazy in love. Or maybe just crazy from hormones.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
Going steady. Does that even exist anymore?
Are you still with that person?
In fact, she broke up with me a week later
Do you have any regrets?
The only thing I don’t regret is that she was my first. It was the wrong time, the wrong place, the wrong circumstances. It wasn’t a coincidence she broke off the relationship a week later. I didn’t have sex again for almost four years (and yes, it was much better then.)
Age: me, 24, my wife, 19
Where: In a bed. In our bedroom. In our own new apartment.
In Love: Yes indeedy
Married: Obviously, as the above answers indicate. This was our wedding night.
Still with: Yes indeedy
Regrets: None
I was 3 weeks shy of 19. He was 26 but mentally he was about 2. It was not his first time.
In his bedroom
No for me. He told me later he was only dating me because it got him closer to my (married) sister.
No.
No.
I have some regrets about this. Not really about losing my virginity. That one event started the chain of events which led to me meeting my current fiancee and I don’t think things would have turned out the way they have if I hadn’t done it. But, he was a pot smoker* and only had about 3 brain cells still functioning. He didn’t even care about me and I knew it. He was bad. I mean really bad. He was tiny and completely clueless. He seemed to forget that I was in the room. He couldn’t get the condom to stay on. He had no concept of foreplay. I could go on an on but the OP didn’t want all the gory details. Suffice it to say, it was my worst sexual experience.
I don’t have problems with pot smokers. I don’t care if you smoke pot. I only mention this because his room smelled like pot and it made me sick. Also, I think he smoked his IQ away.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
Hotel room
Did/do you love that person?
No
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
No
Are you still with that person?
No
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long :eek: etc.)?
Hmm… in lieu of the laundry list, a short version of the regrets - I wish it had been with someone else, not because I have any regrets for being with her, just because, because of the geography, we couldn’t do more than meet once.
Me, 20. She, 17.
Parents’s house, my room, just before I moved out. (I was still in college at the time; I was more than ready to move out.)
At the time, probably not love. Now, most assuredly.
Not then, but now.
Yes, and glad of it.
No regrets.
I did love her and still regard her as a close friend
We were going steady in high school
No
My only regret is that I could have been less clumsy. I don’t really know how, since it was my, and her, first time, but I would like to think I could have done a better job of it. (I’ve gotten much better since! )
How old were you/your partner?
Me 18, her 17 Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
Back seat of my car Did/do you love that person?
We were always good buddies in high school, but not in love Were you married, engaged, etc.?
No Are you still with that person?
We lost track of each other for 20 years after that night. We met again at our 20 year HS reunion. We started talking and it was like we had just seen each other a couple of weeks ago. We have stayed best freinds since then. She went to Hawaii with my family for Christmas. (yes I am married, but not to her) Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?
I regret that I lost track of her after that night, and did not stay in touch for those 20 years. I am so glad that she is back in my life.
How old were you/your partner?
Like many an innocent young lad, I was seduced by an older woman. Ok, so we were both 12. “Goin’ on 13”, does that make it better? But she was three weeks older, so I still qualify as being used by an older female, right? Besides, it was HER idea. First time for both of us, BTW.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
Isolated rock pit. A place where neighborhood kids went to swim. We went there thinking that others would be there, to play water tag or somethin’. Nobody else showed up. Our gain, their loss!
Did/do you love that person?
We liked each other. On that particular day, we both imagined ourselves to be in love with other, “out of reach” persons.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
No. See above
Are you still with that person?
No. We stayed on good terms for several years, even got together (heh) on occasion, but we never went steady or considered each other to be boyfriend/girlfriend.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?
Absolutely not. It seemed to be a great accomplishment for both of us. Having “done it” puts a certain swagger in one’s walk…At least it does at that age. The last time I saw her was when we were both 18. We talked about that first time then, and agreed that it had been a very fine afternoon.
How old were you/your partner?
Me, 29. Him, don’t know. Several years older.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
His house.
Did/do you love that person?
Nope.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
Nope.
Are you still with that person?
Nope. Saw him one more time, about a year later.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long :eek: etc.)?
Surprisingly, not at all. Of course I could’ve gotten started a LOT sooner in life, but I figure that I needed to spend so many years going through that nonsense to be comfortable about it. And the experience itself was as good as I could’ve hoped for – nice, decent guy, knew what he was doing, knew how to keep it laid back and keep me from being all nervous.
How old were you/your partner? 21 for me, she was about the same
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)? in the basement of the main building of the hippie commune we were both staying at — One Life of Topanga Canyon CA
Did/do you love that person? No, I’d sort of given up on having opportunity coincide with that
Were you married, engaged, etc.? No
Are you still with that person? No
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)? Six months earlier, I’d had the opportunity to lose my virginity to a married woman in the seriously-deranged ward of the psychiatric hospital, where we were both confined. All things considered, including but not by any means limited to the delightful aspects of being able to tell folks I lost my virginity in an insane asylum, I wish I had. She was nice. Her name was Marilyn, she was about 30, and her husband put her in there.
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