-i was 15, he was 14
-on a towel on a sandy beach on a small island in a lake in northern ontario. it was summer vacation, & our families stayed near each other.
-no. we were friends for a few summers, and just bored & adventurous. or so i thought (see below)
-nope
-nope. after two weeks later we never saw each other again (we were from different parts of the province)
-he was way too “i want to be your boyfriend” after. i was totally not ready for that.
-i was 19, she was 18
-in my bed, in my parents basement
-at the time, yes very much so.
-no, but we had been close friends for a year, and started dating a few weeks before
-no, we lost touch completely after we split up
-we should have got together earlier, but it was other unrelated stuff that broke us up several months later
How old were you/your partner? I was 17, she was about a month away from turning 16. Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)? The back of my rather roomy SUV at the parking lot of a school near her house (she went to my school, but lived a ways away). Did/do you love that person? No, but I think we felt/feel something for each other that was/is significant. I haven’t seen her in a while (was off in college), and will be seeing her soon…we had a falling out and then a coming back together, and haven’t seen each other since, so it should be interesting to see what happens. Were you married, engaged, etc.? No, no, and no. We weren’t going out, either. Funny story, actually. I was at work (well, volunteering at the local middle school’s summer school math program) and bored out of my skull, and signed on to AIM on my cellphone. (Boy am I glad I did!) I had been turned down at prom and then had my make-out-buddy (with whom I had been rounding third), due to a miscommunication, think I had dumped her before I went to Arizona for a week for orientation, so she then started going out with my best friend (female, interestingly enough) while I was in aforementioned state. So at that time I was somewhat longing the female touch. Sos I get on AIM on my phone, and for some reason this girl’s name was the first on my buddy list on the phone. I hadn’t talked to her in months (we had had a class together, and had talked on AIM a lot for a while, but sort of drifted away from each other), and so I IM her and say “Hey, what’s happening?” to which she responds (not one to mince words) “[Mutual friend’s name] can’t get it up”, to which I respond “I can”, which starts an interesting conversation which ends with a sex date for the next day. Are you still with that person? Yes and no. As I said above, we had a falling out and then resolved our differences, but haven’t seen each other since the falling out. I don’t think she wants to resume our previous physical relationship, but we’ll be hanging out soon. Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long :eek: etc.)? I wish I could’ve sexed her more than I did (we hooked up a few more times). She was a lot of fun, especially since I was her first as well. It was tons of fun to learn together. She looks stunning naked, too. And she’s Jewish! ;j (Finally, a good reason to use that smiley!) And I (sort of) let her go! Oy!
I was 19, he was 20.
The cold cement basement floor while his parents and bro were upstairs.
I thought I was in love. Looking back, I wasn’t, but I wanted to be, so I pretended I was.
We were engaged and later married.
Our divorce has been final for one month.
We ended up doing it because I thought, well, I’m already being bad, might as well go all the way. Felt so guilty and really didn’t like him for “persuading” me to go there.
What makes you think you’re the first religious guy in this thread?
Anyway…
How old were you/your partner? We were both 21.
**Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)? **My off-campus apartment.
**Did/do you love that person? **At the time, yes. Now, no.
Were you married, engaged, etc.? No. We’d been dating about 6 months.
Are you still with that person? No.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)? I regret having let earlier opportunities with other wonderful people pass me by.
How old were you/your partner? Me 22, her 19
Where did you do it? My dorm room
Did/do you love that person? Nope, but we really liked each other. Still do.
Were you married, engaged, etc.? Nope
Are you still with that person? No, but we’re still good friends.
Do you have any regrets? Yep, waiting so long and being clueless enough to miss a number of earlier opportunities.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
His bedroom when his parents went on holiday.
Did/do you love that person?
I did then, I don’t now.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
“Informally” engaged (no ring).
Are you still with that person?
No.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long :eek: etc.)?
I should have broke it off much sooner, before he got really abusive, right after I discovered he was cheating on me - however, I can’t regret the relationship, since it was a stepping stone to meeting the *next * abusive cheating ass, who in turn ended up being the very stepping stone I needed to find my wonderful, loving, non abusive with a *nice ass * husband today.
OK, if you must be nitpicky, the first respondent to the thread who adhered to a no-sex-outside-of-marriage rule, which is commonly associated with religious practice.
ow old were you/your partner? I was 17, she was 18,
Where did you do it? On the floor of her Dad’s house. I was totally seduced; it was our third time together.
Did/do you love that person?
Not at the time, soon fell very hard for her and go really hurt when she left. In retrospect, it was more a case of me creating a drama stimulated by an excessive imagination. But she was still very special.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
She was engaged, a month shy of her wedding. We did it one night after she got married (her husband was in the Navy)
Are you still with that person? No, but she’s still with the same husband, 22 years later.
Do you have any regrets? Yes. I jogged to her house that night, which was over four miles away, not aware how that might have a negative impact on arousal. It took forever and I had to fantasize about the hot Mexican lady at 7-11 to get off. I felt terribly guilty about that.
How old were you/your partner? I was 14, she was 16. It was Valentine’s Day, 1986.
**Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)? ** On my waterbed in my bedroom of my parent’s house. We had a half-day that day, and two friends of ours did it simultaneously on my parent’s bed.
**Did/do you love that person? **No, and no.
Were you married, engaged, etc.? No, we’d been dating about 2 weeks.
Are you still with that person? HAHHAAAA ha ahaha ha… heh
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)? I regret being too petrified to enjoy something I had wished upon myself for soooo long. Furthermore I couldn’t even get it up until the “second round” when I calmed down a bit. And then, she’d had a chance to second guess herself and asked me to stop before I came, which I did.
How old were you/your partner?
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
Did/do you love that person?
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
Are you still with that person?
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long :eek: etc.)?
I was 14, he was 16.
His house.
No. But I was very in lust with him.
Not at all.
See above.
No. I think it was the best way to start.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)? I was living at home at the time and going to college. We did it when my parents were out on vacation in my room.
Did/do you love that person? Yes we were both very much in love. We still are, even more so now.
**Were you married, engaged, etc.?**We had been going steady about 2 years. We got engaged 2 years laters.
Are you still with that person? Yes, we are very happily married for 11 years this June.
**Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?**I have no regrets whatsoever. I’m glad it was with somone I truely was in love with. For me it made it much more meaningful. I’m also glad that we both lost our virginity to each other because we both got to learn what we both like. Learning what turns her on was half the fun! She, on the other hand, has a very small regret about not waiting until we were married, but she is of two minds on it. She treasures our first time with each other and truely believes that it was a spiritual thing for her, yet at the same time feels bad that we had premarital sex.
How old were you/your partner?
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
Did/do you love that person?
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
Are you still with that person?
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?
I was 16, she was 17
On a sofa bed, in the living room of a house some friends were looking after. It had a huge hole in the middle of it too, creating a massive depression beneath the mattress thing.
No.
Wasn’t even going out with her. We’d kissed a few times.
No. Haven’t seen her in about 8 years.
No. It was all good. I fell out with that circle of friends a bit later, so never paticularly saw her after that, but we weren’t like enemies or anything.
How old were you/your partner?
I was 15. He was 18.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
In a van.
Did/do you love that person?
Not in the least.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
No.
Are you still with that person?
No.
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?
Sometimes I wish I had waited. But back then I was on a mission to lose my virginity before hitting the ripe old age of 16. It’s not a huge regret, though.
How old were you/your partner?
Both of us were 17.
Where did you do it (i.e. your house/apartment, parent’s house, dorm room, car, etc.)?
On her bed, in her house, March 3rd 2003 (3/3/03).
Did/do you love that person?
Absolutely not.
Were you married, engaged, etc.?
Ha!
Are you still with that person?
I would’ve never, ever considered being with that person (I only found out recently from my current girlfriend that she had sex with another guy during spring break, only a couple of weeks after we first did it. When she got back into town though, we had sex for the last time). I have since found someone who actually loves me (in both the physical and emotional way).
Do you have any regrets (i.e. about the person, the timing, not waiting longer, waiting too long etc.)?
I was in denial for a really long time, and kept telling myself that I didn’t regret what I had done. I was in such an incredible rush to get laid that I lost sight of all the standards I had held for myself. In retrospect, things could’ve turned out so much worse for me (she had/has a horrible reputation for sleeping around and I didn’t even wear a condom the few times that I was with her). In a funny way though, she turned out to be part of the reason I’m with the wonderful girl I’m with now (a story which I never get tired of telling, and one which I will probably share with you all in due time). Interestingly enough, I had sex with my current girlfriend almost a year to the date that I lost my virginity.
How old?
Me-just shy of 20 Him-24/25 Where?
His house Did you love that person?
Not at the time
I worked with his sister. We met briefly one day and both expressed interest in the other to the sister. She told me, he’s trouble, stay away. Told him, she’s a nice girl, stay away. It was inevitable Married/engaged?
Nope Still with that person?
Nope
On and off relationship for several years, ending in close friendship before losing touch a year or so later. Any regrets?
Nope
