That’s 'cause all those voluptuous young babes keep pointing guns at their head and forcing them to perform sexual favors, don’t ya know?
Hell, when I was a (semi) hot 20 year old, I found myself insanely attracted to wrinkled, half-bald old geezers with round potbellies and skinny little chicken legs.
If they could slip their false teeth in and out of their mouths while holding a conversation, I ripped off their shirts and did 'em then and there.
“Your SO may be cheating, what can you do?”
Well, I would simply WAKE UP. I would have to be dreaming to think that. I KNOW that Mr. S would never cheat, and he KNOWS the same thing about me. Not denial there, just simple fact.
“What if a person is naturally suspicious of someone being unfaithful before entering any relationship, what should they do then?”
Married men who have mistresses are knowingly being unfaithful to the wife & the mistress knows this, but they stay with them. shrug.
So that was you then!?
I’m assuming Rashak Mani’s logic is that old men tend to fall down more, thus increasing the probability that they will accidentally fall and land with their penis in the vagina of another woman. Sure, it seems unlikely, but it happens all the time…
Depends on what you want the end result to be. Some people cannot deal with ever having been cheated on, some people can work past that and work with a damaged relationship. Sometimes the repair work actually creates a stronger product.
I speak with experience of the latter. I was suspicious, I conducted a raid on the computer, found the evidence, composed my thoughts over several days and then we had a conversation. It didn’t end the relationship though.
What you can do is think about what kind of end result you want, how to get there, how to talk about it.
If my spouse was cheating I wouldn’t care as long as nothing changed on my end. I’d get to catch up on my reading and it would make it easier to weasel out of housework. I’d actually probably start pouring on the charm so the guilt would eat him alive.
Well, I eventually figured out a boyfriend was cheating on me after I went to the ER with pelvic pains and was told I had a parasitic infection. Took nearly three weeks for it to really sink in that since I wasn’t sleeping around, he must have been. Of course, in that time, I broke up with him anyways, because he was a complete jerk in many other directions.
Never got the chance to confront him, and I regret that.
I don’t know what to tell other people. It took the equivalent of dropping a grand piano on my head to figure it out. Hopefully, not everyone is as clueless as I was.
I’ve given Mr. Ujest a carte Blanc to take care of business elsewhere, no really.
The rules:
He cannot buy her gifts.
He cannot get her pregnant.
She has to do his laundry.
That last one, kiddies, is where the romance just dies.
And FTR, as he puts it, “Why would I want two women in my life to drive me nuts. You are all I need for that job.”
Feh.
I realize this situation may be unique, but when my ex cheated on me, my first clue was that she was jealous of the guy’s wife.
A friend of her’s from high school and her husband started spending a lot of time with us. Of the 4 of us, I was the only one with a job, and in fact had to work 2.
I started hearing things like, “She’s such a bitch,” “He deserves better than her,”. I could tell she had feelings for him, if not any actual contact. But…
The contact had been made.
Had to get a divorce and an AIDs test.
Good point sooners - if it sounds like a lie it probably is. So go with your gut feeling.
I found out 20 years later once when she forgot what it is she said to me back then. That’s the catch with a lie, they forget what they said.
I know there’s already one “what kambuckta said,” but this post needs to be read and understood by all people who think their SO is cheating, or worry that their SO MIGHT cheating on them.
Experience (in lying) is a good teacher, eh?
I agree with topless and and fiestyALgal. A lie is a lie is a lie.
Healthy relationships can only be built on trust.
If a person is unable or unwilling to trust, they probably should be working on their own personal issues before entering a relationship. Alternatively, they can build unhealthy relationships and not only continue to screw themselves up, but bring down others that they otherwise find to be attractive and worthy people.
just like i knew you were full of sh** in the other forum you were run out of. i always go with my gut instinct…
My goodness, Sooners…sounds like you’ve got a bit of baggage dragging behind you. What’s it all about? Have you lied about something? 
this guy, sooners, is a member of another forum on www.ktul.com. he fabricated many, many stories about his life such as; he got married, his new wife had triplets, the triplets were 3 months early, he won the lottery, his wife developed cancer, he’s been in TWO bad car accidents, he moved to TX, he moved back from TX, blah, blah, blah, so on and so forth. Turns out NONE of it was true. We’ve prayed for this jerk-o** and for his psuedo-wife and this guy just keeps on lying. He CAN’T stop. I’ve even seen new and improved lies he’s told within the last 24 hours. I wish him an eternity spent in hell.
this guy, sooners, is a member of another forum on www.ktul.com. he fabricated many, many stories about his life such as; he got married, his new wife had triplets, the triplets were 3 months early, he won the lottery, his wife developed cancer, he’s been in TWO bad car accidents, he moved to TX, he moved back from TX, blah, blah, blah, so on and so forth. Turns out NONE of it was true. He’s a real jerk-o**