Alright, Just A Girl has Just a Boy “situation” of sorts. I’ve been very good friends with this guy for a little under a year now. During that entire period, he’s had a girlfriend - I think their total dating time was around a year and a few months. Now, during this time I’ve had boyfriends and dated and everything, and we’ve had a completely plutonic relationship, one that I value a great deal.
Here’s the situation:
He and his girlfriend broke up about a month ago. He is the one who broke it off, as she was bad about lying to him and just treated him poorly in general. We started hanging out more, and I began to see him as more than a friend. Being the shy girl I am when it comes to guys, I would never have said anything, especially since he’s just out of a relationship. A few nights ago he informed me that he does, in fact, like me in the same way I’ve started liking him.
I have been in his situation before - I know what it’s like to be just out of a serious relationship and still have an undeniable attachment to your ex. He’s very open with the fact that he is still attached, which I understand is normal. He wants to take the approach of “whatever happens, happens.” I’m afraid that I may be a rebound chick. Since I’m his closest female friend, I may be the easiest jump. I really want this to work and I’ve had bad guy luck lately - but our friendship means a lot to me. Should I just go ahead and date him and take it slow (please take note of that…should we start dating within the next few weeks, I would take it VERY slow, as I don’t want anything to really progress until I’m sure he’s ready to completely move on), or wait (grrr…and I can be IMPATIENT :p)?
I really need some good advice on this one…I really like this boy a lot…but I want to support him without being used as some sort of “comfort date” if you will. Help!