I also see it blatantly with some friends of mine who are in a band. Holy crap do those guys get girls hitting on them, and they talk about their wives and kids all the time.
That’s sounds like… a pretty good job.
I also wear a bow tie, y’know!
But not terribly often; I can’t tie it. 
So my wife needs to be home at the right time, and given our schedules it’s not that common.
–Cliffy
I’m sure this happens to most people at one time or another. Women hitting on married men is probably less common then men hitting on married women, but I don’t have a cite on that.
It happened to me on a business trip years ago with a female co-worker that had had a few too many drinks at the bar… but I chose not to act on it, even though I probably could have gotten away with it.
BTW, I think most NSA sex is a misnomer… there are always strings attached… its just sometimes you can’t see them!
I’ve had gay guys also ignore the wedding ring and wife’s picture on the desk and come on to me.
Sometimes it’s posed as a social invitation to a dinner party with people we know in common. When I say something like, “i’ll check and see if my wife is free that night” the invitation becomes more tenuous and disappears.
Just like tying your shoelace. Only upside down and backward. 
mmm…NSA sex
“If I do you, I have to kill you.”
Yep, I know what you mean. Once, while on an extended business trip that included many cow-orkers from all over the country, I went to dinner with some of my home town cow-orkers whom I knew well. The conversation turned to the woman who had been shameless flirting with me for weeks. My reponse was “Huh? Who? When? Nuh-uh”. I figured they were yanking my chain. Turns out they were right. Once they dissected her behaviour for me, those frequent stops in my office for information and dinner invites seemed not quite so innocent after all. It left me wondering how I could have missed it for so long. My cluelessness during that episode earned me the sarcastic nickname “The Babe Magnet”.
In my experience, single women hit on married men more often than single guys hit on married women. I don’t have a cite on that either, though.
Both my husband and I have been hit on in each other’s presence. My husband, though, is like some others have mentioned here - clueless. I have to tell him he’s being flirted with.
Originally posted by Bricker *A few weeks ago, I struck up a conversation with a woman while we were both waiting at the deli counter. I wasn’t being flirtatious – but I’m not shy about talking to people out of the blue. I wear a wedding ring and my hands were certainly visible. So we chatted for a few moments, and then she invited me for a cup of coffee.
I said, light and friendly, “No, thanks; I’ve got to get home – my wife is making dinner and she needs the ham I’m buying.”
And she said, kind of teasingly, “Your wife doesn’t have to know everywhere you go, does she?”
Um…
OK.
I told her that, yes, pretty much, she does, and then found something intensely interesting to look at at the far end of the counter. *
Mr. Bricker! Paging Mr. Bricker! Your balls can be picked up in the “Grow A Pair” Department!!
Sorry. I couldn’t resist.
Seriously, some women prefer married men. I think it solves their own “inability to commit” issues. You did the right thing.
It’s never happened to me since I’ve been married. It did a few times, to each of us, before Mr. Wanna & I got married, when we were living together.
I get this from time to time, yeah.
Most of the time I think it’s just practice flirting. A few times, though, it’s been a hard sell that carried past the point where I deliberately mentioned that I’m married.
I find that sort of creepy. If you want to practice flirt, fine. But if I deliberately mention that I’m married, I’m clearly saying “Okay, that’s enough. I’m not interested.” Carrying it past that is slimy.
No.
The only people interested in talking to me anymore are the Highway Patrol.
I just watched a documentary called SLUT this morning. Women who do this are definitely in the slut category.
I cannot think of anyone that could look more obviously settled* than I do, yet it has happened to me a handful of times. Once it was my parents lawyer while I was trying to settle my parents estate after they had died and twice it was close friends of my wife’s. All three of those completely floored me. Strangers are one thing, but people you know?
In the first we (the attorney and I) were catalogueing my parents possessions and were alone in their home and we got to the bedroom and she started to “get comfortable”. I went to the kitchen to count frying pans. She literally pursued me. I was lucky to get out of there intact.
One of my wife’s friends (perhaps her best friend) came by the my office saying she had a bad day at her office and needed to talk to someone. Her concept of talking was apparently much different than mine.
The other friend of my wife’s was in a community theater production with me and suggested we rehearse a part that she was having trouble with. The things she wanted to rehearse were not in the script, I can assure you.
I have told my wife about other times women have come on to me but not those three. The friendship of both of the last two women was important to her and since nothing happened and further since I made it clear to them nothing would happen they could remain friends with her.
Somehow they managed to still treat her the same. I admit it. I do not understand women.
We no longer live in that community but we do exchange Christmas cards but that is all.
To me, no. Immediately upon marriage I apparently began to give off this extreme married vibe. Even creepy guys haven’t hit on me. I am, however, OK with that. I am a one-man woman, and am relieved not to have to deal with random flirtation.
Husband had a pretty blatant incident when he traveled alone to his H.S. reunion. There’s kind of a funny angle to it. About a year later, we traveled together back to his hometown for a funeral. A woman comes up to us and starts chatting about the reunion the year before, very friendly. I was **this ** close to saying “Yeah, I hear there was some lady totally throwing herself at my husband.” Well, sure enough, it was her, so good thing I kept my mouth shut.
Nope. Incidentally, I don’t know any women, other than my wife, beyond “hello” in the hallway. I don’t know 98% of the women who work in my building by name (first or last). The majority of them are at least half my age, in which case flirting is extremely unlikely to happen. The two women on the staff who wouldn’t offend me if they did flirt with me, happen to be gay and half my age. The rest are married with kids, and not interested in extramarital games, or they’re older than me. With them, flirting is right out of the question. I’ve never met anyone from my wife’s job. According to her, they are mostly quite a bit older (than my wife), in their late 40s and 50s. So it looks like I’m in the unique position where opportunities to be flirted with are all but nonexistent.
A couple of years ago, DH wnet out of town for a couple of days. I was home with the kiddos.
My neighbor’s husband called me about 2 in the morning, waking me up, and said “I’m coming over.”
I told him “No. Your not.”
He said “Yes, I am. I’m coming over right now.”
I said “Then you will be cold and lonely on the other side of that locked door.” I hung up on him and went down to be sure the door was locked.
A couple of days later he called and apologised, saying he had been drunk and asked me to not tell my husband. I told him I already had (not really! ha).
I thought about telling his wife, but figured she probably already knew he was a jerk (and he was).
Only a handful of times in 20 years. I’ve mostly been a housewife throughout my marriage, but I did work for a year or so (as a bookseller in a bookstore), and I also took college courses. And I’ve been known to have a drink in a bar now and then, or go to a movie or play alone, or something. So I’ve occasionally been approached. When a guy tries to chat me up, I’m always friendly, but try to casually bring up the fact that I’m married fairly early in the conversation. In almost 100% of the cases, the guy backs right down, often saying “Your husband is a lucky man,” which is sweet, and nice to hear.
Once in a blue moon, I might get a guy who, upon finding out I’m married, will try some variation of your-husband-doesn’t-have-to-know-everything-you-do-does-he? But I’ve never had anyone persist in the face of my response that, while my husband doesn’t have to know everything I do, I don’t make it a policy to do stuff I wouldn’t want him doing.
The most persistant guy who’s ever approached me was at my high school reunion, which I attended alone (my husband being out to sea at the time). He knew I was married, obviously, but gave me a bigger rush than I’m used to getting anyway. He was actually pretty hard to turn down – gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous; super-nice; and I’d had a crush on him back in the day – but I did, of course.