A girl asked me to go with her and her friends to take the dogs for a walk. I’m not quite sure what to make of it, or if I should make anything of it at all. I probably shouldn’t be analysing this, but I was just wondering what you guys thought.
Thanks.
If she asks you to scoop the poop, you’ll know why you were asked to come along.
That’s really funny.
I’ll remember that. I guess I shouldn’t even consider this a date.
Maybe she wants you to observe the dogs, how they keep sniffing and humping each other.
And hope you get the hint.
Why are you guys picking on this poor kid?
Answer to Voetsack’s question – no, it’s not a date, it’s like pre-date. She wants to get to know you better and but isn’t ready to go one-on-one yet. Go and be pleasant and friendly. If it goes well, counter with another pre-date, like going to the laundromat together.
Why are you guys picking on this poor kid?
Answer to Voetsack’s question – no, it’s not a date, it’s like pre-date. She wants to get to know you better and but isn’t ready to go one-on-one yet. Go and be pleasant and friendly. If it goes well, counter with another pre-date, like going to the laundromat together.
I really liked the humping and sniffing scenario, but hey, I’m practical, and it does seem like a pre-date. I can live with that.
I agree with twickster. It does sound like a pre-date. I do the same thing if I think I want to get to know a guy better- invite him over to hang out, go for a walk, whatever. This allows me to see if I want to date the guy; if so, then great, if not, then no harm done. Just be yourself.
I’m a jackass, I decided not to go with her. Not sure why I did that, but I did. Oh well.
hmmm… maybe she sensed you weren’t ready for this – less embarrassing for her to be julted on a pre-date than on a date.
She asked me yesterday afternoon if I wanted to go with her today, and I didn’t want it to seem that I didn’t have any plans for today, which is kind of why I turned her down. I missed out, hopefully she’ll ask me again.
“I missed out, hopefully she’ll ask me again.”
I wouldn’t count on that, Dude. The ball is now in your court. If you’re interested, maybe try: “Hi there! Any chance you’ll be walking the dogs again any time soon? I’d really like to tag along.”
Or else just forget it.
Voetstack if a girl says “hey, could you help me walk the dogs?” it’s the equivalent of a highschool guy asking a girl if she’d like him to “carry her books.” It’s a pretext that gives one the opportunity to get a better vibe of the other individual and to determie single/non-single status. (That sneaky date-that-is’t-really-a-date kind of thing.)
Example: When my father passed away, a lovely person who was workig on an English MBA said, “oh, let me take a look at your father’s library, I can help you sort it out.” Turned into quite the whirlwind romance.
Fear not, you can take back the pretext – call her and say, “hey, I found a recipe for home made dog biscuits and I need some test subjects…”
Voetsack, quit screwing around and go already! Go! Now! Quit reading! Just, just, just, GO!!!
Oh, make sure to bring some rubber gloves just in case you were asked to just scoop some poop. 
Now you have to come up with some sort of pre-date you can ask her on.
It must be a group activity with a definate time table and people the both of you know.
Good luck
I just got an e-mail from her. Phew, I could not fall asleep this evening, thinking and pondering about my stupidity. Well, we will meet up for coffee. She wants me to let her know when I’m available. Thank GOD! I’m full of smiles right now.
Phew!
Remember – it’s okay to pretend you have plans for Saturday night if someone asks you Thursday or Friday for dinner and a movie (aka a “real date”). The standards are a lot lower on a pre-date – it’s okay to not be doing anything on a Sunday afternoon, even if she doesn’t ask till Sunday morning!
I’m guessing she really likes you if she’s giving you another chance – but DON’T blow her off again! – you can’t count on getting a third chance!
If you like a girl, and she asks you to do something, you say yes! Jesus. You don’t have to say “thank God you called – it’s not yet time to masturbate again and there’s nothing on TV”. You can just say you were going to hang out with friends but hanging with her sounds like more fun. If she likes you, she’ll be happy that you want to do things with her.
To recap, always say yes. Don’t make me come over there.
Giraffe = correct.
What the point in pretending that you’ve something else to do whan you don’t and actually would prefer to be with her rather than doing something else you have supposedly planned, exactly?
These are mindgames? I hate mindgames…Oh, well…That’s your life…Mindgame as much as you want. Meanwhile, I’m going to accept a date (or pre-date, or pre-pre-date) when I actually want to accept the date, say I’ve nothing planned when I’ve actually nothing planned and say that I’m pleased when I’m pleased…
Like life (and particulary relationships) isn’t complicated enough…