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Or START could be jealous that her friend is getting the boy and not her. But I’m being an optimist here; I’m hoping that’s not the case.
Jeesh! Now I’m really curious if START is a boy or girl. :smack:
Because if he’s a boy in love (or gay girl) well, damn it just sucks in general to have your heart broken.
But on the other hand, If she’s either trying to be controlling or jealous well shame on her…
And yes to me if this is indeed a boy; being a boy once myself; I would read between the lines of the OP START’s get’n his heart broke.
I’m really not trying to hijack this thread but I’m just at a loss as to why START’s gender would affect how you would view this situation. He could be a jealous and controlling boy or a heartbroken girl just as easily as a jealous and controlling girl or a heartbroken boy.
To Shakes, why not just tell your friend what your worried about? If this is a normal teenage girl “watching movies” with a normal teenage boy, she can take care of herself. But if this guy has a reputation for hurting girls, or if this girl is a little too [innocent, slow, naive, trusting–insert correct word here] tell her what’s on your mind.
Bolding mine.
This is starting to become a theme in this thread. START and SHAKES are two differnt people here folks. Lets pay attention shall we? 
Aesiron, to put it in very pragmatic terms: If he or she is heartbroken then I feel for him/her.
If it’s a jealousy or controling issue then shame on him or her.
Is your friend incapable of saying ‘no’ or something?
Oh, and a lot of 16/17 year old guys are capable of watching a film with a girl and not pouncing on her. You don’t seem to think much of this guy.
I think some of you are giving boys way more credit then you should, just because they don’t think they can get it, or can’t, doesn’t mean they don’t want it.
Start, you’re being a bit of a Gladys Kravitz. Butt out already.
She should have a couple of condoms on her just in case on dates, but there’s no reason to assume something’s going to happen. Yes, teenage boys are horny. As are teenage girls. But I once had a sixteen-year-old boyfriend, and guess what happened when we got together to watch movies?
We watched movies. No religious convictions involved, just him not being quite ready (interested, but not ready). I guess it would have been technically illegal since I was 18 anyway, but nobody’s parents would have had shitfits if we’d Done It anyway.
[Holden Caulfield]
Ask her if she still keeps her Kings in the back row.
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Yeah, but it doesn’t mean they’ll rape.
I know a girl who lost her virginity to the son of a minister.
Of course that “son of a minister” just happened to be me …
There goes a mouthful of perfectly good coffee, dammit.
Sure, he may very well want it, but like bienville said, that doesn’t mean he’ll rape her to get it.
Seriously, START, is your friend too stupid just to say NO if he tries anything?
Unless you know something you’re not telling us (like, you know this guy has date-raped other girls or something), you’re being paranoid. 16 and 17 year-old guys and girls watch movies all the time, and they don’t all have sex, especially if the girl in question has alread decided she wants to remain a virgin until marriage.
Basically, the only way I see these two having sex is if he rapes her, which, from the information given to us, I find hard to beleive will actually happen.
START, I am only 18, and I was asked over by a lot of guys to watch movies. We would cuddle, or just sit together, and if they tried to do more than I wanted, I would say no. I ended up in a very tempting situation with the guy I absolutely adored in high school and I said no. I think he was a little disappointed, but he accepted it. And not all guys are like that. If this girl is in serious danger, like he is the violent, will-force-her type, then you should tell someone or talk to her. But if she goes and something happens, she will either be okay with it or learn from her mistakes.
That’s how life goes
Just going to stop by and mention a few things. As a pre-disclaimer, I do not follow the bible and I do not know what constitutes sex in said book. The dicitionary also says what I am about to say is qualified as sex but I feel that there are changing times and its usage is becoming archaic in this sense. With that being said: how about mutual masturbation and/or oral sex? Since you know they will be having sex, without a shadow of a doubt, why not teach them safer forms of sexual intercourse? Not saying there is anything bad about actual sex but some people consider (and myself being included) that the only way to actually lose your virginity would be through sexual intercourse in the “Hello Mr. Wanky! This is my home, the humble vuvla!” sense. That way she keeps her virginity and that dirty pious man orgasmicaly happy.
Also, I am a 16 year old male and I would never think to try anything on a girl that I was just friend with. I would definitely want them to pick out what movies to watch as well because I know my tastes would not keep many entertained for long. I think he could possibly be just a gentleman and you are bing over paranoid, person with a name that starts with and S and is all capitols.
Let’s see where will I START…
I don’t think it would be relevant at all that this guy is related to a preacher except that is one of the main reasons she thinks nothing will happen…I don’t think that he will rape her but probably be pissed off if she doesn’t give in, she might end up walking home calling me for a ride. As far as rape I don’t think that will happen and it won’t have to, he is a smooth talker.
This girl has been my friend since 4th grade and she asked me if I thought she should go or what I thought of her going… something like that. I said “you really think he just wants to watch movies…?”
I’m just putting myself in* his * position and I know what would be going through my mind, that’s why I try not to get in a position like that…she can do what she wants but I hope that she does it safely.
Yes and I plan on spoiling the mood by harassing them, repeatedly. I know where the house is so I’m going to ding dong ditch it a few times and then ride around honking my horn. I of course will call them alot because I have got to stop her from having a good time.
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JUST KIDDING**
He may well have hopes of getting some, but think – you were a horny 16-year-old. But if you’d been told, “No,” wouldn’t you have gone along with it? Why think any less of this kid?
I just hope that both of them have access to BC if they do end up needing it.
So, you know she will walk away from the situation if he gets too grabby, then? And call you for a ride? She sounds pretty mature to me, able to handle his advances if he tries anything.
And you don’t think he will be overly forcefull?
Then what, exactly, are you worried about? He won’t rape her, she’ll leave if he gets too frisky…she is NOT going to lose her virginity to this guy, from what I understand.
I’m not worried…I was just saying what I believe is going to happen tonight.
I’m just saying that’s a hell of a position for a girl to put her self in that wants to keep her virginity…all alone with a smooth talking guy…also girls can’t be to different from guys because I could say how much I want to remain a virgin or whatever and if a girl that I liked was smooth talking me and we were alone, well then you know what would happen .
Yo, START: Saddle up and meet me in the Pit.