Cock Blocker!!
Geez, if she wants to stay a virgin until she is married, then what the hell is the big deal about the boy’s intentions. It’s still her choice. If he tries to fuck her, then she will decline. If he persists, she will leave. Big freaking deal.
Or maybe she will decide that she wants to have sex with him. Well, that’s her call. Do you think this boy is dangerous?
You have a crush on her, don’t you?
I still don’t think you’re giving her enough credit. I mean, despite that it wasn’t my choice, it is a pretty strong choice to remain a virgin until marriage, and I’m sure it takes a lot of will power to maintain that decision. I doubt one night with this guy is going to suddenly change her mind.
He may be a smooth talker, but you could give her some credit for being able to recognize this. Give her some credit for being able to maybe see right through it, or at least just saying NO if he gets too physical.
What the hell? So, you assume that because you would want to smooth-talk her into undesired sex (or at least think about it)… That he does?
Uhh… Alright then. I’m definitely envisioning a simple apartment decorated with owl posters, yeah.
I ask again…
So…the question on everyone’s minds…
Did they do it???
(For all of you who’ve seen that Dana Carvey Critic’s Choice standup routine, you can imagine exactly the voice I’m using in my head.)
Well, START, I actually think it’s good that you’re concerned about this girl. There is so much NEGATIVE peer pressure nowadays, pushing kids towards the idea of having sex before they’re ready for it…it would actually be good if more kids were of the opposite mindset like you seem to be.
Also, I just now noticed: The title of this thread reads like the synopsis of a Skinemax movie.
Tonight has become last night, and allow me to join AwSnappity in asking for an update of what went down.
So, how’d it go?
That’s pretty common in dating life, to be alone with the other person.
Then that means that no, you didn’t really want to stay a virgin. Thought it was a good idea, maybe, or that it sounded good to reassure your parents with, or something like that. But contrary to the popular belief, people’s brains do have control over their sex drives - they just have to use them at the time instead of copping out behind excuses about how they just “couldn’t resist.” It’s a convenient but false excuse when you talk about the “heat of the moment” or “I had a few drinks, I wouldn’t have wanted to otherwise” or whatever.
I already have been pitted for starting this thread in the first place, what the heck here is the update. The conversation we had not to long ago, paraphrased somewhat of course.
Her: “START” promise not to tell anybody, not even my sister?
Me: What is it?
Her: Last night…Oh my God “START” I trust you do not tell anybody, you have to swear…Me and “Blank”… I’m not a virgin anymore, you cannot tell anybody.
Me: Ok Except your mom right?
Her: NO! I’m not playing, please I trust you.
Me: Your on a speaker phone
Her: What!!??
Me: Just Kidding.
Her: Don’t do that to me.
Me: I can’t tell your mom, only your sister?
Her: Not my sister
Me: Just your mom then?
Her: Not my mom or my sister.
Me: You want me to tell both?
Her: I promise I will kill you “START”
Me: Ok I’m just playing with you, I would never tell…are you going out with him now?
Her: Probably not, I doubt it, I will tell you later but let’s just say he’s not…No we won’t be dating.
The conversation continued after that and the only reason I was joking with her is because she is that type of person and by the end of the call she thanked me for talking to her, so I did nothing wrong.
Other than starting a thread on a matter she wants kept private. Yes, the risk of other Dopers tracking her down is negligible. But how many of your friends and relatives know that you post on the SDMB as START? Does this thread contain enough details for them to figure out the identities of the boy and girl involved?
So apparently she liked it enough not to complain about it but also found that he’s not dating material.
On one hand, you were being quite the drama queen about it, but on the other hand, I’d have been the same way when I was your age.
And kudos on the fine Ali G impression!
Apparently, she didn’t want to remain a virgin very much.
One more time- START HOW OLD IS SHE???
So, 3 possibilities:
Holy cow. People who actually do want to wait usually also don’t kiss on the first date, much less fall into bed accidentally on purpose on that first date. What’s the betting that they didn’t use birth control, and she’s going to call START up 6-10 weeks from now hyperventilating about missing her period, and she’s always been rilly pro-life 'cause killing babies is bad, but she needs an abortion 'cause nobody can know she’s had sex, and it’s START’s job to take her to the clinic and never tell anyone?
I’m sorry if you take offense to this, START, but I have little respect for someone who talks the talk without even trying to walk the walk. I take it all back if he forced her.
Can’t have Dr. Deth questioning my reading comprehension…the girl is 16.
As far as people knowing I post on the SDMB as START…no. Not even the guy who used his credit card for me knows or even cares that I post threads under the name START all he cared about was me giving him the cash.
I try to be very vague about certain details of my life, especially where I go to school and what city I live in.
Damn- 16. :smack: I say that because a couple years younger and I would strongly recommend that you at least tell her parents if not the Police- promise or no. A couple years older, and I’d say to “Mind your own business”. :dubious:
But 16 is a tough age- some 16yo’s are mature, others are very childlike.
Eh. Do what you think is right. 
I was right, the evening had nothing to do with watching movies and now she feels bad for giving in but what can I say hormones can be stronger than brain cells sometimes.
Only when the brain cells are weak to begin with.