This past Spring, one of our old neighbors from Cottonfield County died rather unexpectedly. He had a graveside service at 6 AM on a Monday morning, and camo was expected dress. Close to a thousand people showed up, and that would be 10% of that county’s population.
I think for a woman in the summer, capri-length pants walk the line of inappropriate. If they are of a suitable color and paired with a properly somber top, perhaps it would be allowed. Similarly, a sleeveless shirt–for a woman only, I know double-standards suck–at a graveside service in high summer might be acceptable.
But yeah, I would probably wear something approximating a suit, though I would not share it with anybody because my clothes barely fit me in them.
I went to a funeral while on vacation last month. I wore a polo shirt, jeans, & sneaks only because it was the best clothing I brought with me. Very few people were in jackets, let alone suits (& the service was not only SRO but out-the-door in a large church) & one local standing near me was wearing denim shorts & flip-flops. Really???
You know, I almost ammended that one because I considered someone coming back with that response. 
I am glad Mumpers lived up to my expectations. 
I’m tempted to post the transcript of the text message I sent my husband this morning after we got in a fight. But I think that probably wouldn’t be such a good idea in case he found it on the internets. I’m just frustrated about all the time that I’m spending at work and at home helping everybody else, and not having any time to do anything for myself outside of work and being a mom, and took it out on him which wasn’t fair. But you know sometimes it just becomes overwhelming and you hurt the ones you love. Maybe if I spoiler tag it it won’t be searchable via Google or other search engine. What do you think?
Oh, some good news at the end of this month we are traveling on the mother in law’s dime to Washington DC to see my husbands sister get married. Originally we weren’t going to be able to go because he couldn’t afford a plane ticket for four people and infant, and we definitely couldn’t afford living arrangements for 3 days, but she offered to pay for it so we didn’t have any excuses. All we have to foot the bill for is food and travel, so I’m going to rent a minivan. Will be the first time any of my children have ever been on a plane; we’re going to have our 3 month old with us, and two 5 year olds, so this should be very interesting.
Howdy Y’all! N.O.L. is et. Leftover chikin burrito casserole thingy. YUM! Tonight is the return of Evening Prayer over to the church house so the General shall have to go hongry tonight cause Ima go swipe his dindin.
Spidey you dressed for the funeral in the best that you had with you which IMO is just fine. However, I could not imagine showin’ up at a funeral locally or to one I know I’m goin’ to elsewhere in anything but a suit. Somebody would see and tell on me to my mother if I did not wear a suit. :eek: Seriously I grew up with rules such as a suit shall be worn to a funeral or weddin’ because “this is the south, we have rules.” This applied to many, many other occasions as well. Og forbid one even think about takin’ ones suit coat off much less even dare to do so. A combo elbow pinch/“this is the south, we have rules” was sure to follow in such an event.
Apes hope you’re feelin’ better about things. Yay for gettin’ to travel with the family to D.C. I’m sure the twins will have a big ol’ time what with the airplane and all.
Lucky I anxiously await the top 5 signs that your mother has been staying at your place post. 
Morning irk shift is done.
Title company and insurance company have been notified that it is no go and the woman at the title company is very annoyed with the mortgage company because she has been trying to reach them for over a week.
I think she was suggesting without suggesting that next time I should use a different mortgage company.
I’m hungry and thinking about what to eat for lunch.
Then back to irk irk irk.
I have to make up for last week being so sucky.
I’m bad.
I wore flip flops to my uncles funeral. It was either that or tennis shoes, with a skirt and blouse. I picked a dressier pair and coordinated them with my outfit.
I didn’t have time to shop for shoes and it was too hot for boots.
geez you admit to wearing flip flops to a funeral and everybody scatters
they were nice flip flops, they were shiny, new and quiet
I guess I will go crawl back under my rock now
checks mailbox Has my weekend arrived yet?
:mad::mad::mad:
The water main is busted about 4 doors to the north. We have no water, and the job foreman is a real bastard. When I tried to enquire about how long a repair might take, it went downhill fast, to the point of me telling him to his face, “Fuck the lawyers, answer my gawddamned question.”
:mad::mad::rolleyes:
I wore sandals for the last funeral I went to- in fairness, I’m not much of a shoe person, so it was that, hiking boots, or some shoes that looked fairly smart until I tried to walk and they fell off due to being a size too big. It was for my Grandpa, who didn’t own any trousers that weren’t jeans, so it didn’t feel very wrong.
I let the new local chip shop make din-din. It wasn’t very nice. Oh well, maybe I’ll lose some weight without a good local chippy…
I am finally composed enough from the utter shock of sari’s flipflop post to post again. 
When it comes down to it, I feel one should dress as best one can for occasions such as funeral’s and weddin’s. If all ya got is casual, well, as long as it’s nice casual I’m sure it’s fine. Sometimes people come to funerals in uniforms or other types of irk clothes because they may just have gotten off irk or had the opportunity to get off irk long enough to attend. Some people my father supervised at irk before he retired came to dad’s funeral in their irk uniforms as they had just gotten off for the day. Personally, I was touched they liked dad enough to want to pay their respects. Their attendance was waaaaay more important than their attire.
Ok, enough of funereal fashion. Let’s get back to the bidness of silliness.
OYKW is stoppin’ to swipe the General’s dindin on his way out to da cave. Then he’s got paperirk stuff to deal with, poor thing. I shall betake myself to Evenin’ Prayer.
Thus is another excitatin’ day in swampland.
The son of one of the kitchen guys at irk was killed a couple of weeks ago. A lot of the housekeepers went in their UPS brown uniforms. No one thought anything of it since they all went there straight from irk and most were coming right back after the service.
I has a tired. Time for the making and eating of evening food.
The General’s dindin is et with some leftover for N.O.L. tomorrow. Score!
Spaz that’s what I mean. I think’s it’s great they wanted to be there for their co-irker. I’m sure that more to him than anything else they could have done.
OYKW et and left to go deal with stuff. I complain about paperirk but managin’ a home health agency is a never endin’ sea of paperirk, poor baby.
I feels like I should apologize for calling anyone one out on their attire. I did not mean to make anyone feel bad. All that should count is that you attended. I am officially old fashioned and from the dark ages.
To my mind, you need to be presentable and respectful at a funeral. So don’t show up in a tube top and pajama bottoms or cutoffs and a sweaty tank top.
About 8 years ago, my Aunt Clara died. She was one of the sweetest ladies you’d ever want to know - always smiling and just as cute as could be. Her son-in-law of at least 25 years showed up at her funeral in saggy, pilly polyester khaki pants, an ill-fitting polo shirt, and very very worn hush puppies. I know my cousin was embarrassed, but we all knew her husband was an ass. Fortunately, the children took after their mother and not their slob of a sperm donor. Had his clothes been in good condition, I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t have bothered me nearly as much. Heck, it’s not like I’m a fashion plate.
Second day of work is done and it went pretty well, finally. I got my computer, did some training, and just before I left, they installed AutoCAD for me. My email is up and running, and I was able to access the personal info sections where I put in emergency contact info and arranged for direct deposit of pay. So yay!! Tomorrow, I should be able to do my time card. Plus I discovered that leaving 30 minutes earlier got me home in 45 minutes rather than an hour.
Also tomorrow, they’re having a going away/welcome cookout - one guy in our group is retiring, and I’m a n00b, along with a girl who was hired 3 weeks ago. So I don’t have to pack lunch.
It was a good day. I’ll knit the night away. Life is good!
All weekends will arrive in the order they are processed.
לשנה טובה תיכתבו
A Good and Sweet New Year to All
My last one did arrive on time but the quality left a little to be desired(actually it had serious suckage due to my “I do Cocaine” cleint), do I get a refund?
Funerals IMHO should be treated to the Decedents wishes. My Grandfathers was properly formal and people dressed as one would expect. Mine will be clothing optional. To each their own, but in general Lucky you are right. IMHO
Went to Tarjay and stocked up on foodstuffs and bought a massive pkg of TP, so I hope I am no longer on the list.
Band Practice tonight, woot woot
Cheers all
Jim
Happy New Year, to those that celebrate
J