I discovered on a certain imageboard (where random pictures, sometimes humorous but more often offensive and pornographic, are posted) what appears to be a picture of my SO or someone that very much resembles her in an explicit context. I realize the odds of this are somewhat slim and it’s not clearest shot of the woman’s face, but the likeness is uncanny. I have no idea what to make of this.
I would like to ask her about this but she’s studying abroad right now so I can’t talk to her until she gets online, most likely tomorrow evening.
What would you do if you stumbled onto a similar picture of your SO?
Chalk it up to past experiences, likely. I’d probably ask my SO if they were recent, but the most likely explanation is that it would be something done in the past, be it for fun, profit, or just the hell of it. I would probably vaguely wonder why he’s never told me, but if it happened before me, then frankly, it’s probably none of my business. We know our histories, and have both been tested, so unless it happened after I got together with him, it’s really none of my concern.
Nude pictures/videos of me exist, quite explicit ones… I’ve already warned my husband that he may run into them. I can’t waste my time regretting it, however, it’s already done. He knows, I know, and hey, at least I was in great shape.
I’d ask him about it, but assume they were taken before we were together. How long has she been your SO and how long ago were they posted where ya found 'em?
There are photos of me floating around, so I wouldn’t fly off the handle if I ran into his. I might wonder why he didn’t mention them, though. If they were just of him (flyin’ solo, y’know) then I’d possibly be upset that he didn’t share the fun with me.
We’ve been dating for 2+ years and they were just posted tonight. But that doesn’t really mean the photo would’ve been taken recently. The thing is, she sends me “sexy” photos and none of them are explicit. But it is possible that whoever she’s with in the photo pressured her, maybe. I’m just hoping it’s not her.
From the description of the board it’s quite likely that it’s the Fourth Channel, or one of it’s derivatives. First two rules say I’m not supposed to talk about it.
For me? Being the chicken that I am, I’d probably never mention it. As you say, the picture is quite vague. I’d expect a response along the lines of “WHY would you POSSIBLY think I would do such a thing?” and I don’t really see how that would end well.
Bolding is mine. Be careful here. What if you ask her, “So, when did you have these pictures taken?” and it turns out that it isn’t her at all? She could see this as accusatory and be extremely offended.
Better to approach it lightly. “Hey, honey! Look what I found! She looks sort of like you!” She can then deny it is her or admit it. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that it is not her. That way there are no hard feelings.
OP, even if it is your girlfriend, unless she’d led you to believe that she was a virgin before you came along, I hope you know you’ve no reason to be upset with her about this. I hope your little sad smiley was directed at whatever asshole posted the photo – he deserves your ire. She, however, got frisky, it was documented, and now it’s out there for anyone else to see.
Forget it. It isn’t her. Really what are the odds that you would happen upon your SO’s picture on the net? Surely you see pictures of well known people all the time that you don’t recognise. And don’t you see pictures of people that you think are people you know but it isn’t them?
Funnily enough my ex-neighbor and ex-friend with benefits looks just like this guy whose pictures I ran across on the internet (while doing research for a theology paper, I swear!). The overall appearance matches, right down to the “come-hither” look, which I’m familiar with because it’s how we hooked up in the first place.
The only problem is, as sure as I am that it’s him, I can’t be 100 percent, because a certain “distinguishing mark” from “down there” is missing in the pictures. That could have been photoshopped out, but the legs in the pictures are not hairy like his either.
I would say that if there is not a date/time stamp on the photo that indicates that it was taken after you two got together, you should simply chalk it up to odd coincidences in life, put it out of your mind, and stop worrying about it. (If there is a TV in the background with a photo of Imus and the word “Fired!”, you mioght have a reason to be concerned.)
The odds that the woman in the photo is your SO are miniscule.
If the woman in the photo is your SO and the photo is over three years old, it is really not your business.
In any event, perseverating on the possibilities can only be corrrosive to your relationship.
If it bothers you that much just thinking about the possibility, you might want to disengage before your concerns wind up hurting one or both of you.
Yeah… It wasn’t her. Sorry about the drama over nothing. Luckily, I didn’t directly accuse her of anything but she did get upset and understandably so. Probably the happiest I’ve ever been to hear someone tell me that I’m “certifiably insane” though.
I do have a tendency to get unreasonably jealous, which I am working on. Insecurities, emotional instability and all that fun stuff… But I know my problems shouldn’t spill over onto her.
But in my defense, the resemblance was uncanny I tells ya! They both even have the same little mole above their left eyebrow (that’s what really did me in). But I should have trusted my better judgment and realized the unlikeness of the event. To everyone telling me it’s nothing even if it was her, I don’t think you’d be too thrilled either if you found a similar picture of your SO. Which is moot I guess, since I didn’t.
