Your first interpretation was by no means inaccurate. 
I didn’t keep detailed records, but the actual figures are something like 200 times over three years. Average that out as you will.
What is your gender?
Male
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
3-4 times
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masturbation doesn’t count.)
Varies a lot between 0 - 4. Totally depends on work, kid, cycle, etc. Some weeks more, some weeks none. Vacations are daily or twice daily…So I have high hopes for retirement!
And why doesn’t masturbation count? Many people here would say that is a supplement, not a detriment.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
I want it cuz it feels good. She wants it cuz it feels good and she wants to give me pleasure.
**And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.? **
Not tired is the main one now. We are both so busy with work and kid that sometimes we both say “Sex or sleep? Yeah, me too. Sleep.”
I’m 35, she’s 33. We actually seem to be just fine with where we are w.r.t. sex. Yeah, I have that common fantasy of her and Angelina Jolie arguing over where my penis goes at that moment, but, that ain’t gonna happen. So we’re cool.
-Tcat
What is your gender?
female
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
about 3
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
about 3
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
no, I think they’re about the same, some combination of affection and love for each other and impersonal physical desire.
**And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.? **
1)I can definitely be too tired at the end of the day and often am. This is the biggest barrier to either of us getting as much sex as we’d like. If he could just come home anytime before school pickup, va va voom, but after the grind that is homework/dinner/bath/story/“I don’t wanna go to bed” I’m often staggering w/ fatigue.
2)kids have to be out of the room and unlikely to enter (need not be asleep)
3)the longer we get from waking up w/o a shower, the less appealing sex (esp. oral sex) is
4)have to not feel the pressing weight of a million undone tasks
I don’t think age is relevant here, because we’re talking about a desire to have sex, not a capacity to have sex, but if you’d like to add it, go right ahead.
36
Oh, I had a boyfriend like that, too. He didn’t actually seem to *like *sex, rather, he treated it as kind of a chore. And don’t get me started on foreplay! (or rather, the lackthereof.)
And we were both 20 at the time. What kind of male doesn’t like sex at age 20?
Oh, and BTW - I am also 30.
Stop being the same person as me. I was 20, he was 18.
What is your gender?
female
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
once at least, maybe twice
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
Once or twice for the past month or so, before that 2-4 times a week since baby was born, before THAT at least twice a day (sigh)… and I probably haven’t masturbated in ten years.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
He wants to have fun and get off, I want to be close and romantic.
And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.?
Ideally when we’re both well rested, in the evening, with Bella ASLEEP instead of wandering around the room or watching Barney (her not us) and my teen daughter gone for the night. Since this happens ohhh…maybe twice in the past year, I have to make do with Barney and the teen sleeping, which means early in the morning-my least favorite time. Hate hate hate morning sex.
What is your gender?
male
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
2-3 times a week
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
about once a month
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
no, not really.
**And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.? **
Well, the kids being gone is a biggie for me. They’re both teenagers, pretty high energy and are awake often longer than we are on weekends. Weekdays are pretty much out due to the family cycle; we’re just too wiped out with work stress, helping with HW, cleaning, etc… .
I don’t think age is relevant here, because we’re talking about a desire to have sex, not a capacity to have sex, but if you’d like to add it, go right ahead.
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What is your gender?
Female
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
5-7 times a week
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
3-7 times a week. Sometimes life intervenes with the best laid plans.
(All puns intended.)
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
Nope. He likes pleasure, he likes giving me pleasure and vice versa.
It’s fun!!
And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex.
Ideally, I prefer long leisurely afternoon sex with no time constraints.
However, I’m not at all adverse to a quickie either.
50
Damn. I’m impressed. My only advice is (like I’m offering you advice? as if you need it…), get it in now, before you have kids. Even if your libido doesn’t wane, it’s just much harder to find the time/privacy/desire. It’s tough to go quickly from wiping your kid’s butt & putting their diaper on, to being ready to dive into the golden palace of the Himalayas.
What is your gender?
Male, 38
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
7-10 (unfortunately, I’m most ready about 2pm, but it doesn’t help when I’m sitting at my desk working and my wife is 30 minutes away tending to our kids)
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
2-3, weekends, first thing in the morning.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
No difference. We both want it more than we can realistically attend to the need, unless of course it’s a solo thing.
**And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.? **
As long as the kids aren’t in the room, and we know they’re occupied for at least 15 minutes. At least one night a week I have insomnia and find myself exploring some of the more… prurient areas of the internet, then when I’m fully charged, I slip into bed, wake my wife, and we rock each other’s world. Which means, every time we have sex at least one of us has just woken up.
What is your gender?
Male, 23
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
7-10 times a week.
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masturbation doesn’t count.)
Currently, not at all. Though the two long term relationships I had were both in the 4-5 times a week catagory.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
Not that I’m a mind reader, but I would say 95% of thetime they were the same. That reason being sex feels good, so let’s have sex.
**And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.? **
I’m not a morning person at all, so that’s out. ALso, not until at least an hour after eating, bloated sex is no fun.
This makes me feel like I’m trying to cross the bridge and get to the Castle of Arrgh.
What is your gender?
Male
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
5-7, I think. Right now it’s hard to say. See below.
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masturbation doesn’t count.)
5 times in 2005
about 25 times in 2004
about once a week in 2003
about 3 times a week in 2002
4-5 times a week from about 1997-2001
I think you can see where this is going. I used to be married.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
Lately, definitely, which is why I’ve had so few encounters. For example “I’m still the man” vs. “He’s cute and I’m horny;” “She’s cute and I’m horny” vs. “He’s a really cool person I’d like to be in a relationship with;” and finally “She’s a really cool person I’d like to be in relationship with” vs. “He’s cute and I’m horny and tipsy.” (alas)
**And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.? **
Obviously I don’t want kids around. Aside from that, only that my partner be someone I actually know and like. Otherwise sex is surprisingly kind of boring, except at the end.
What is your gender?
Female
**
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?**
I actually go in cycles; one week it’s every day, the next it’s every two-to-three days.
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
Unless on of us is sick or extremely tired, 6-7.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
I think both of us want sex because we find the other person desirable.
However, if we’ve had a fight I like to have make-up sex and cuddling more than he does.
**
And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.?**
I find clean, naked skin a turn-on, so usually right after a shower.
No worries. That’s what happens when you begin a new thread late at night after working 16 hours …
I’d love it if a mod would fix that for me.
You’re welcome. 
A simple “I’m horny” would be a motive or a reason.
As in, “Honey, are you coming home for lunch?”
Partner: “Why?”
You: “Cuz I’m horny.”
Blimey! I can’t wait that long between foreplay and the real thing. How do you keep your woman aroused all that time?
My wife is currently 4,500 miles away, but when we’re together (I’m stuck in Europe on military Stop-loss) this is the case, as it’ll be 0 times until May.
What is your gender?
Male
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
10 a week, sometimes less.
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
Usually about once a day or so except during that time of the month. Depending on how tired we are from work, it might be every other or every third day.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
Nope.
**And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.? **
I don’t really have any qualms, as long as I’m alert and in the mood. My wife pretty much has to have us both clean. Not freshly showered clean, but morning sex before brushing the teeth is an extreme rarity. That only happens if we get a bit horny in the middle of the night.
Oh why not?
Female
Daily
Zilch, zip, nada. The life of my last relationship ended romantically on the 20th of June, last year. Og knows I hope I don’t make a friggin’ anniversary out of that date.
In the previous relationship, yeah sometimes. I got the feeling from him that it was some sort of accomplishment in records a lot. Like he was keeping score for his position (heh) in the Sexual Olympic Games or something. For me, it was either because I stay insanely, um, in overdrive or it makes me feel all warm cozy snuggly bunny type.
Nope. I think my only requirement is breathing. If you’re not totally gross sweaty, been munchin’ on a plate of onions or just stank the whole place up, it’s a plus, but even then I’m not turning anything down if I’m in the mood. And I have no children, so that wouldn’t be a problem from this side. So I guess the original answer stands. I’m pretty much good to go if you are.
Almost 38.
What is your gender?
Male.
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
Anywhere from 5 to 14 in a week would be good for me. Every day or 2-3 times every other day would be nice. The most I’ve done in a day is 5, and with no other obligations I could probably do up to 8 or 10 in a day. But not every day.
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
Well, we haven’t gone out for long, and we didn’t first have sex until just before the new year. But we were going at a tack of 1-2 times every two days (about) until she went out of town. I’d like more, and I think she would too, but it’s tough due to our living situations and scheduling issues.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
This relationship is the first time that I’ve ever felt we were both completely on sync in this regard. I think there’s a good combination of (a) love for each other, (b) desire for intimacy, (c) being incredibly turned on by each other, (d) desire to get off and (e) desire to get the other off.
It’s an amazing feeling. Better than heroin.
Really. I should know.
And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex, i.e. only after I’ve had eight hours of sleep and he’s had a shower, when the kids are out of the house, when the day of the week ends in y, etc.?
I’d rather do it when we have hours and hours and hours alone at her place or mine so we can lie in bed naked all day and do it again and again: no worries about keeping an article or two of clothing on, no worries of getting caught (up to this point we’ve done it exclusively in my car due to circumstances), no external obligations for the day. Just all day to cuddle, lick and have sex.
Age: Me 19, her 22.
It’s not true. Trust me.
I’ve always been more than happy (and a half) to do foreplay–don’t ask me why, but I love fingering and eating out–but I had one relationship where I didn’t like to have sex with her because she was really condescending about performance issues I was having at the time. I wasn’t very experienced, and tried really hard to get better for her, and she wasn’t very appreciative. Not to make it sound like it was entirely her fault–I was the one-pump chump, after all. Also not to say that your relationship was like this, because from what I know of you as a Doper you don’t seem like that. But there’s my vaguely related anecdote, anyway.
Oh man, this thread is making me miss my GF 
… I think I’m going to have a nice welcome home present for her when she gets back 
What is your gender?
Male
How many times a week/day would you prefer to have sex?
About 25 per week would be ideal, but I could get by on 7 per week.
How many times a week/day DO you have sex? (No, masterbation doesn’t count.)
About 3-5 times a month.
Do you think your motives or reasons for wanting sex are different from those of your spouse/partner? If so, how?
I don’t think they are the same. My wife is eye-poppingly, mouth-droppingly sexy and I dream of having sex just about every time I see her. She, on the other hand, loves talking and being with me, but the idea of sex doesn’t always occur to her. It’s an occasional thought, about like if you said, “hey, I know, let’s go see a movie!” These kinds of things just take planning and a commitment of time.
And finally, are there ideal “circumstances” or certain conditions that you prefer when it comes to sex?
My ideal is to get the kids off to school in the morning, then take a shower together and have sex when we’re both clean and yummy. Sadly, I absolutely have to be at work by 9 so this never happens. I most dislike sex when it gets to be several weeks and I have to cry and beg for it like some kind of deranged pervert. I would rather relieve myself than have it done under duress.
Age
33