In general, making a negative comment about a poorly thought out Pitting isn’t “rude” by the standards of the Pit. It’s what people do and is the nature of the beast. However, generalities don’t capture all the vagaries of human interaction, so let’s do a little Pit version of Goofus and Gallant:
GulfDweller123: My house was damaged by a hurricane. I lost almost everything. My place of employment was destroyed. My cat drowned because I left him in the garage while I left for higher ground. FUCKING HURRICANES.
GallantPoster: Why the hell did you lock your cat in the garage during a hurricane? What the fuck is wrong with you?
GoofusPoster: Shut your fucking mouth, you fucking whiner! A few years back people in New Orleans had it WAY WORSE THAN YOU. You think they got on here and whined? NO! You know why? BECAUSE THE CITY WAS UNDER WATER. ZOMG, you inconsiderate asshole.
The first response is typical of Pit responses. The second is a bizarre and insulting non sequitur.
In response to EE, ISTM, he’s responding that it’s not against the rules, and that if someone posts a poorly worded or unpopular position, Pit etiquette does not prevent anyone from firing away. That’s not the same as saying that any response to any OP can be considered OK, not rude, whatever. That’s my read, anyway.
That’s my read as well. I also agree that it’s possible to be rude. My question was whether I should have started a new thread to be the horrible asshole you all are saying my position makes me, not whether we can do whatever we want at any time.
He specifically (and only) talks about poorly-thought-out pit threads and those in which the OP takes an unpopular stand. IMO, neither of those apply here–and most certainly not the latter. Clearly, he hadn’t read the thread in question at the time he posted. If you’d supplied a link his reply might have been different.
Uh…okay, so jayjay tells me I should have started my thread, and you tell me I’m a drama queen for doing so. Are you guys conspiring to make my time on this board as much like a Kafka novel as possible?
The funny thing, to me, is that the pit thread EE started is turning out pretty much like I would have called it had anyone asked me last night “If EE starts a pit thread about this, how will it turn out?”
You really do think tom thinks that it’s only okay to flame if everybody else is likely to do so too, or the OP fails some objective standard of quality? Okay. I’m sure he can let us know if that’s what he meant to say.
I said you should have started your own thread. I didn’t say it would be a walk through the roses for you.
The general reaction to pretty much everything you’ve posted on this subject in the last 24 hours should tell you something about how popular your position on the subject is. Have you found any posters who are on your side and care enough about it to post yet?
Do you ever think before you type? This thread is not the one jayjay suggested you start. You are not lambasting HD, you are whining about the suggestion itself.
Then you at least wouldn’t have been threadshitting. Your new thread would have died a quick death from lack of interest, or you would have been flamed for several pages. My advice, though, is don’t be a rude dickhead in the original thread or in a new thread. Your main offense was not that you shit in that thread, IMO (though you did). The main offense was you were being an asshole. Switching threads would not have changed the fact that you overreacted with a bizarre, angry barely coherent response.
All I care about is whether it’s accepted Pit etiquette to start a new thread to flame someone unless the OP is sufficiently unpopular or badly constructed, jayjay. Can you let the people who told me you don’t believe the above is true that they were incorrect?
I don’t know what tom thinks about this particular case; I only know what he has said thus far. Perhaps he does agree with you; I neither know nor care. I’m simply pointing out to you that he has not, as you claim, agreed with you yet.
Please stop posting so far off the topic of this thread. I understand that you think I was an asshole. You and others have made that clear. There’s no need to keep repeating yourself especially when it’s not the subject at hand. Do you think it’s acceptable Pit etiquette to start a whole new thread Pitting someone for their Pit except for when the original Pitting is unpopular?
Asked whether it was odd or rude to attack an OP in his or her own thread, I noted that if the OP is poorly presented or if the OP is an unpopular opinion, it is pretty common to see the OP attacked in his or her own thread.
The OP of the other thread seems well presented and it certainly does not seem to be unpopular castigating relatives who bring house- and meal-destroying pets to family gatherings. Attacking the OP in this instance is liable to cause more problems for the attacker.
Had the OP to this thread included a link, I’d have realized it was an ongoing fight rather than an etiquette question and stayed out of this thread.
Okay, so to be clear, if everyone within a Pit thread is agreeing, then we should start whole new Pit threads to disagree? That has been my question all along. It was not my understanding that the Pit was meant to be used for threads where the poster could demand only supportive posts, or that it was rude to post an opinion different from the majority on the subject of the OP. Can you clarify that it is rude to do so?
