I’ve discussed this with my male friends, and they all seem to agree. Now I bring this to you, the ladies of the dope, because I know you’ll give me a calm, calculated answer without wanting to rip my testicles off.
The question is this: Out of all the women I’ve ever talked to in a romantic sense (either on a date, or on the phone leading up to dating, or in email), about 90% of them spent the entire conversation talking about themselves. After a while, I’ll sometimes try to politely insert myself into the discussion, pretty much always to no avail. Two examples follow.
Case #1: I spent about two hours on the phone with this girl last week. She said I could ask her anything I wanted to; she has nothing to hide. About an hour-and-a-half in, I politely waited for her to catch her breath so I could finally say something.
Me (in a semi-joking tone): Well, now that I’ve given you my barrage of 20 Questions [I really didn’t ask her anything.], what would you like to know about me?
Her: Oh, I don’t ask questions. So anyway, as I was saying…
Case #2: Last night, I was talking to this wonderful woman I knew from work a few years back (we had stayed in touch, but one of us always had an SO until now). She would talk about her family, her pets, her car, her life, etc. I was very interested in hearing about her, but she never once asked about me. I would relate her points to my own life (“Funny, my cat does the exact same thing!”) but all I’d get is a “Huh” or “Hehe” and she’d turn the conversation back onto herself.
Ladies, why do you do this? Is it an effort to hide nervousness? Is it narcissism? What gives?