My GF and I were talking about this the other night so I wanted to know what other women though.
Would you ever,
Goto a sex shop with a man who was not your SO? (ie one of your co-workers)
If yes would you also buy a new toy while he was there?
Would you ever openly discus your sex life with a man who was not your SO? (this includes things like positions, oral and anal sex, S&M etc.)
If yes to any of these questions would this mean that you are sexually interested in him even though you have a SO? Would that change if you did not have an SO?
My GF said that she would never go to a sex shop with a man who was not her SO, nor would she talk to a guy about her sex life if she was not interested in him. She made it should like no woman would talk to another guy about sex if she wasn’t interested in him.
If I think of any more questions I’ll post them I just wanted some other views.
I would not go to a sex shop with a non SO person. However I would (and have) discussed my sex life with male friends, but only if the topic was started by someone else.
I would feel more comfortable discussing my sex life with someone I’m NOT interested in, unless it was someone I was planning on being intimate with.
It depends on my relationship with the guy. If he’s my brother, then I don’t even want to know what goes on in his sex life. However, if the male in question is a friend of mine, then although I doubt very much that I’d be shopping for sex toys with him, I wouldn’t mind discussing sex with him.
It does not mean that I want to have sex with my friend, just that I am comfortable discussing very personal things with him because of our friendship. It allows me to ask questions or get a “guys” opinion on things before I try them on my SO.
i frequently go to sex shops either by myself or with other people. those other people are sometimes male, sometimes female and usually aren’t current sexual partners. and i’ll buy myself toys regardless of who i happen to have in tow. usually i’ll help them pick out toys, too.
(and i’m a huge fan of feminist sextoy shops. toys in babeland is my favourite.)
i also frequently discuss sexuality-in-general with a large number of people. i’m very direct and open. i’m a sexuality scholar and have considerable interest in sex from evolutionary, behaviourist, political and personal perspectives. my own sex life comes up in conversation on a regular basis and i don’t have the slightest hint of an interest in most of the people with whom i discuss my own sexuality.
i’ve found that a considerable number of people hold beliefs similar to those of girlfriend, edward. i’ve had a few somewhat sticky situations (pun unfortunate, but too amusing to remove) with crestfallen men suddenly realized that i wasn’t flirting but was just frankly discussing something of interest to me. shrug
I might go to a sex shop with a close male friend, but almost certainly not a co-worker or a friend who I wasn’t very close with. If I went to the shop with him, I’d probably buy something if I were so inclined.
I am pretty open about sex, so I have talked about sexual topics in mixed company quite a bit. I generally don’t get into real specific details about my partner and what he and I do together, as I don’t think that’s really appropriate, but I have no problem in talking about those things in more general terms.
It most emphatically does not mean I am interested in him, I just think sex is a part of life, so it’s a fair topic for discussion. If the guy gets the wrong idea, I have no problem correcting him.
I’ve been to sex shops with male friends, both SO and not SO. I never bought toys, though, or anything more sexually explicit than condoms.
The last time I was in one with a (nonSO) guy, though, it was because he wanted to buy me some pornographic playing cards – one male deck, one female deck.
That would definitely depend on the relationship with the guy. Not that he would have to be my signifigant other, but, he’d have to be more than just a co-worker. I have, in fact, gone to a sex shop with men who were not my SO, most notable was the year that I was married, and I was making a sexy Easter basket for my husband, and did not want to(at that time in my life), go alone, so I asked a male friend, who is one on my closest friends, if he’d accompany me. He did.
As for talking about sex in mixed company, I am very open, and really have no problem with it. While I’m a lot more open about that, I think that if I felt that I could not make my intentions clear that it wasn’t out of “interest”(if it’s apparent that he’s interested in me), then I’d more than likely not discuss it. Otherwise, it’s a part of life, it’s fair game for discussion.
As a guy, I have been into sex shops with women friends, and we were not BLATANTLY headed anywhere. And one who was married and I would not go there at all. They never bought any toys though.
I’d be less likely to go to a sex shop and discuss my sex life with a man I actually wanted to have sex with (unless he was someone I actually was having sex with, that is). I’ve never had any problem doing either of the above with men who were just friends, though.
