I actually waited a day before responding to this, since I had-to be honest-Pitted Anth in an angry and infantile way in a thread of my own stupid devising along time ago, and didn’t wish to be accused of being rash again. I’ll attempt to say this as politely and respectfully as possible, even though zero respect is being shown.
Everyone has their own little words and phrases that elicit an upsetting response. Anth, if you wish to insult someone for raising children that they did not gestate inside of their own uterus and then deliver, that is surely your right.
Putting the word “children” in quotation marks is nothing more than a boldfaced insult to anyone who might read that word who is either adopted, or has adopted children. I have two adopted children, so let’s be very clear here- I’m not carrying the flag where I shouldn’t be. I live this every single day.
I for one would like to thank you for saying what you said in this quote. Now we all know exactly where you stand. Your honesty is refreshing. And, since I’m friends with at least one adopted member of this Board, I am a bit curious to see how your remark is taken.
I’m not an adopted child and so I really have no right to request an apology from you. ( I don’t go in for the " I demand you do this -you *&^%)& -stuff, even in the Pit. It’s demeaning and useless.) I wonder if any adopted people who are members also found this suggestion by use of quotation marks to indicate that they are not really her children to be offensive in any way? Because, I am very curious to see what other possible interpretation of the use of the quotation marks there could be. Anthracite?? I’d respectfully ask you to explain what you meant by the use of said marks, if not to indicate that you feel that they are not her children.
Now, it’s entirely possible that Anth has personal knowledge of Ms. O’Donnell and the methods she is using to deal with her children in her home, and is in fact extremely well versed as to whether or not these children should in fact be viewed by outsiders as Her Children. If you do have such knowledge, pray share it with us all.
Nobody here is going out of their way to put quotation marks around anything addressing you or your life or your lifestyle, family or socializing choices. How about if you show the same respect to those of us who have adoption as a part of our family make-up. Or, as you clearly feel, our “family” make-up.
And of course, for the Teeming Millions who defended Anthracite the last time out, I’d beg you to think very hard about the last time someone said something degrading about your son, mother, wife or father…or you. If someone else had posted this, I would be writing the exact same posting here, just using that poster’s name. It’s not an attack on Anth, I simply am curious to see why that wording was used. She’s always been extremely protective of people’s rights to be open-minded and free in their lifestyles here- ideals I too hold dear to my heart. It’s sad to me, and I’m simply curious to see what the explanation is. I’m not threatening, attacking, denigrading, harassing or attempting to in any way make her scared or unnerved. So, save the threats back. I simply am curious.
( As an aside, I pray that Duck Duck Goose is still with us and able to rate this Pit thread. I expect the rating to be pathetically low, but oh man I do so hope she doesn’t leave our hallowed electronic halls.)