Cougar hunter?
Oh, don’t be such a bear.
Too true.
My friend told me his “locker room” conversation with a co-worker went something like this:
“You’re 25 and she’s almost 40. Why would you go out with her?!”
“She swallows.”
So I guess he had his priorities straight.
That’s what the Japanese think too (see post above).
This is what I’ve always heard. And there are T-shirts that support it. I can’t figure out why no one knew it until post #41!
I’m 22, my lady will be 29 in a few days, I was 21 when we started dating. I typically prefer women who are in this range (27-30). I’ve only been in a serious relationship with a woman close to my age once, she was 22 is now 23 and we still stay in age. I find I can go on a date or two with women who are close in age to me, maybe even mess around with them but it never gets serious.
Me and my lady often joke about the age difference, and at first it was a “thing” in our relationship but now not so much. Are we at different stages in our life: yes, do we work through it: yes. But really I love dating older women and me and her both are still big kids at heart anyways.
You’re not at different stages in your life; you’re both in your 20s. Different stages in life would be someone who is 29 dating someone who is 48, or someone who is 40 dating someone who is 24, both of which I did. 22 and 29? Puh-leeze.
I’ve always heard cougar hunter or chaser.
If he is in college and she’s settled then yes, they are at different stages.
I disagree. A lot of us make pretty significant transitions in our early twenties, what Erikson called a psychosocial moratorium. Even as late as 22, many people are still trying different senses of identity. At 29, most people have that figured out. It’s a very significant difference in stage of life.
But I’ll admit that it barely qualifies her as a cougar; she’s a bit young for that, unless he were still a teenager. And in just a few years, the age difference would hardly be noticeable.
I always thought it was gigolo.
In the novel Waiting to Exhale, Bernadine takes up with a boy-toy and describes him as a tenderino.
Looking at urban dictionary, it doesn’t appear to have taken off.
Just wondering…why do we assume “mommy issues” (or I suppose “daddy issues” for women) are incompatible with “legitimately [being] attracted” to someone?
Each of us likes what we like, for a complex mix of evolutionary, hormonal, psychological, and cultural factors (and some measure of free choice, I guess). You might be shaped by the experience of an absent parent, and that might shape the kind of person you’re attracted to, but none of that means the attractions aren’t ‘real’ or ‘legitimate’.
I’ve used the term cub, and have seen some dating site screennames that include the word cub (Cutecub, TallCub ) of young men who make it abundantly clear they only wish to meet women over age 40.
Being such a kind of man myself, please allow me to name us ‘connoiseurs’…
I definitely believe that suits the characterization of younger men adoring older women…
So how YOU doin’?
Can I be the one here to express incredulity?
There may be guys who prefer to date older women for various reasons, but to find a woman of 40 more attractive than a woman of 30, say, particularly when the guy is below 30 himself…I doubt that this phenomena exists in any significant number, certainly to justify having a specific label for it.
Sorry for the long sentence, couldn’t see how to chop it up
Mijin maybe more men would be attracted to older women if they didn’t get shamed and laughed at by society for feeling that way.
Well that’s conflating two things: what a given person is attracted to, and how they behave.
FWIW I’m not laughing at anyone for anything, I’m doubting that such a preference exists.
Say we have a hypothetical “cub” who’s 26 years old. He meets a woman who’s 45. They get on great, and she’s attracted to him.
However, she doesn’t look 45 – she has the firm body and flawless skin of a woman half her age.
So, can he find her attractive? If yes, then his attraction works pretty much the same as anyone’s (though he may find it difficult to find women his own age with compatible personalities). If no, then the assertion that some men are attracted preferentially to older women is true, but definitely put me on the list of people that are skeptical that someone would be turned off by youthful features.
Let’s go to the quarry and throw stuff down there! I thought the exact same thing, but then found that you had ninja’d me by three and a half years. :smack: