I’m doing myself a favour, trying to substitute the term ‘cub’, for ‘connoiseur’!
For some reason, I believe you wouldn’t really object to that;)
Actually, it’s quite odd to see some people finding the whole ‘young man attracted to older girl’ scenario strange.
I understand how some even go as far, as mentioning ‘mommy issues’…
Please allow me to throw a relative argument here!
We’ve been accustomed to the typical stereotype of finding young girls attractive, which is kind of a stereotype thing. Some people would even see some ‘ridicule’ in a man who is attracted to the contrary…Why?
Personally, I’ve had my share of BS from friends, for this, BUT, there’s a couple facts that should be made clear.
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Quality of sex: although I don’t really believe that maturity of age ‘sets’ a higher standard for sex, the chances of having great sex, increase drammatically when your partner is more experienced, and feel comfortable with herself. Age definitely helps.
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Communication: Not a matter of age either, BUT: most girls get easily distracted at younger ages-not because they’re stupid or something-but they usually get more attention than they can handle. Good luck trying to figure out what’s going on, when you’re seriously interested in a popular girl, aged 25 i.e.-it’s hard to settle knowing exactly what you want, when nobody would leave you alone…
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Looks: Hell, I’m going to stick to this one…a beautiful 40+ woman, would combine so many great attributes, that can easily tear young girls to dust! Here, we get a mix of refined beauty, character, intellect, and maturity…
It’s all a matter of personal taste I guess, but hey, it all comes down to asking yourself the following questions:
- Do you like your steak seasoned?
- Do you appreciate high quality old wine?
- Would you wear a Panama hat on the beach?
- Do you find old Ferrari’s more sexy attractive than new ones?
- If you smoke, would you prefer one type of cigarette simply because it’s got a white filter tip?
If it’s a YES to 3 out of 5 of those, it’s done deal-you’re a ‘connoiseur’! You appreciate the fine things life can offer…So yes, you’re probably fond of mature women!
HEY! When I posted this, I never dreamed it would be relevant to my own life. Who knew I’d pick up a 24 year old whatever-he’s-called.
‘connoiseur’…
Or ‘stud’ should work fine, too!
Your username suddenly suggests many things it never has for the past few years… :dubious:
As a thread on sexual preferences progresses, the probability that somebody will show up and say, “I don’t understand this preference, and therefore it doesn’t exist!” approaches 1. There really ought to be a name for this law.
I can’t vouch for what other people have said on other topics.
But I’m quite happy to defend what I have said on this topic (which is quite unlike your paraphrasing).
One thing I asked upthread was whether a person would turned off if a woman looked physically young despite being actually older. I’ve noted some tumbleweeds rolling by, but no responses yet.
This. What’s the big deal about being with an older woman? Maybe he wants to be with someone that he can be sure won’t be knocked up? Maybe she’s a wonderful person and he is genuinely in love with her.
Why do we draw special attention to this when we don’t for an older man/younger woman unless the age difference is over 20 years?
I know the answer of course. It’s a sexist society that needs to find something to gossip about. Pretty sad state of affairs, methinks.
I know several men that prefer older women for reasons that have nothing to do with money. I don’t, and I don’t understand the appeal, but far be it from me to tell them they’re wrong.
An older man who goes after younger women is called a Dingo. I don`t know why it’s not more popular because it’s a fantastic name and every bit as clever as cougar. Sexism, I guess.
Busy.
In some locales, very busy.
Blind.
As near as I can tell you are the only one who has asserted that a cub would be turned off by youthful-looking older women. I have dated one young man who had just turned 26, I was 54.(28 year’s difference,) I do not look half my age and my skin is not flawless. We dated for several months, and are still friends. He dates women his own age and sends me pictures of them, so, yes, he is attracted to younger women as well. He also dates women that are over 45. However, he tells me and I believe him, that he prefers the older women.
It’s a coincidence, really. I swear.
OOOOOOOO, could we call it Cub Mistress’s Law?
Well, it’s less unwieldy than Really Not All That Bright’s Law…
Prune eater?
I didn’t mention money and I didn’t say any behaviour or desire is wrong.
Let’s say you prefer experienced, mature women. Well, fine, but why not say exactly that? Not all older women are experienced, and not all younger women are lacking experience.
I didn’t assert that; I asked a (deliberately leading) question. If you’re asking my opinion, then of course I would say the opposite: I find it very unlikely that a man would be turned off by an older woman because she looks too young.
I am in the same boat as you. I would only want to be with an older woman if she was physically attractive to me, and hence, she would need to look younger than her age. I don’t know why this is.
When in my late teens, I had a relationship with a woman in her thirties. I just thought I was lucky.