In lieu of Dragongirl’s recent thread, I decided to get some questions of my own answered by the lovely ladies of the SDMB. And, much like her’s, this is more about a woman’s perspective on oral sex.
–>How long do women prefer the avereage bj to last?
I’m fairly new to this area of entertainment, and I have to admit, my stamina is rather pathetic. Now, my girlfriend and I have discussed it a bit, so it’s turned more into a general curiosity than a concern (thank’s for the support hon :)), but I’m still kind of curious. I hear some of my girl friends talk about how they get tired after thirty minutes (WTF??), or how after a while their jaws start to lock up and other such complications. So, that makes me wonder, while performing oral sex on your man:
–>Is quicker better? How quick is too quick? How long is too long?
I’m fairly new to the board, so if this has been discussed in the past, please, humor me.
There are guys who tell me that’s their favorite thing in the world, and there are guys who think it’s “okay, I guess.” There’re guys who can climax amazingly from receiving head, and guys who, even though they enjoy it, just can’t.
It’s a question of gauging what your partner likes and wants.
As far as sheer endurance…I dunno. Sometimes I don’t seem to get tired at all, and sometimes I can only go for a few minutes before it’s like, “Dude, I don’t want to take ALL of my meals through a straw for the next two days.” It really depends.
If you’re going to ask the woman’s point of view of (oral) sex as an analog to the “Male point of view” thread , then shouldn’t you be asking their opinions of cunnilingus rather than fellatio?
CalMeacham,
It’s not necessarily an “anolog” to Dragongirl’s post, more like a “Hey, someone else has brought it up, I guess I don’t need to be shy about asking” type of thing. We’ve got the male’s perspective of fellatio, why not get the woman’s?
But, if you’d like to give some input as to a woman’s thoughts on cunnilingus, by all means. It’s just I feel confident enough in my abilities in that field so far, and if I really wanted advice, I’d ask my girlfriend (seeing as how she’s the licky (?) recipient). But hey, I’m sure there’s always something new to learn in that field as well, so why not?
So tell me, what are some of your views of receiving as well? Aside from “Pay attention to the clitoris”, what are some other things to know while performing? What makes it enjoyable? What makes it uncomfortable? Does tongue size matter? Does speed matter? Whatever else you have to offer, I’m sure it would be greatly appreciated by not only myself, but any of the other men who read this and their SOs as well.
I think the least amount of time I spent on a BJ was about 10 minutes. The longest was just over four hours. We were both stoned and enjoying ourselves. Time had no meaning. The only reason I know it was four hours was because the news was coming on when we turned off the TV and the clock in the LR chimed 2 right before the big finish.
I have no preference on length of time devoted to it. I enjoy giving them. A lot. It’s not something I do when we only have half an hour to play. Unless it’s a quick warm up.
Actually, it was the first ex husband and you can make it last that long, even if he hadn’t been stoned at the time. Pay attention to different areas at different times. Move your point of focus around.
Sure, he’s whining like a banshee from time to time, but dammit, being able to make a man do that is part of the reason I enjoy it so much.
And BigDaddyO(love the name), I’m doin’ just fine.
I much prefer giving oral sex than receiving, (the reasons are probably TMI).
I don’t like it to take too long, because of jaw fatigue, but I certainly enjoy it. Sometimes it’s a prelude to further activity and sometimes it’s the activity all by itself. It probably depends on how horny he is, if you know what I mean.
and I know there’s a spit-or-swallow thread way back, so if you need that information, I’m sure a search will turn it up (no pun intended).
I agree, BigDaddyO is a great name. Unfortuneatly, mine is BigDaddyD. It was one of my many nicknames, albeit at short lived one. From the fact that I’m tall and wide (6’9", 295# if you’re wondering), and my name is Dave. I’ve thought about changing to Big Dave or something more clever, but I haven’t thought one up, and now that I’ve gotten a compliment on it (from someone who has given head for four hours) I think I might keep it.
I prefer it to last from 15-20 minutes, because I enjoy giving them too. But, my jaw starts to cramp after a while, and the irregular breathing gets weird after a while. They are a power trip for me, seeing just how much I can make him squirm and moan is all a part of the fun.
Okay, I’ve noticed roughly 465 people have viewed this thread, so why is it only NINE people have posted anything? It’s a valid question, so post something, damnit!!! Thank you
Okie dokie: on blowjobs…they’re difficult to do, but practice makes perfect. Also, I think 10-15 minutes is a good amount of time for one to last. If it lasts longer, I begin to feel my lips getting puffy.
I like 'em as a prelude, as an interlude, or as a lude all to itself. Mr. Bobkitty, however, is hard-wired wrong and can’t… ahem… finish that way (damn pansy-ass prior girlfriends). That said, I’ll go up to and including about half an hour before my jaw starts to lock up, less time if we’re in certain positions. Any point in that time period works for me if it works for the guy. The good thing about a quicker trigger in this situation is you can get away with playing around in all sorts of places… driving to the grocery store, at the movies, in the bathroom at a party… the list goes on.
And HELL yeah I swallow.
And to answer your other question… it depends. No, really. Despite what I yelled out in class that one time [sub]something along the lines of 'you find the little man in the boat and bat him around on the head for a while. How hard is that to figure out??? My classmates were… displeased.[/sub]. I don’t like direct pressure. I do like long, slow licks with the flat of the tongue over the entire area at the beginning, then changing to quick catlicks as one (ONE… I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH!!!) finger is added into play. And please don’t stop just as things are starting to go off. sheesh
Good god… I can’t believe I just wrote this to a bunch of strangers. Ah well.
Now this deserves a highlight. Nothing worse than non-movement and total silence. This is not the time to exhibit your total non-emotional self-control as is sometimes esteemed in the work/business world. Gimme a least a hint that I’m not just makin’ a sandwich for your later enjoyment…
Four minutes would be too quick and four hours would be too long. I can enjoy every moment of half an hour, especially if he is ‘voicing’ appreciation. As for cunnilingus, if he’s not loving it, neither am I. Lots of soft pressure and moisture for me to be a happy, happy girl. And some nuzzly-growly noises can be nice.
I have to stop every so often just to crack my jaw. So yeah, the quicker the better. But too quick is well … a little disappointing. I think I’d be happy with 10 to 20 minutes. Anything more than that and I my jaw would probably lock.
Mr. Bobkitty, however, is hard-wired wrong and can’t… ahem… finish that way (damn pansy-ass prior girlfriends). That said, I’ll go up to and including about half an hour before my jaw starts to lock up, less time if we’re in certain positions. Any point in that time period works for me if it works for the guy. The good thing about a quicker trigger in this situation is you can get away with playing around in all sorts of places… driving to the grocery store, at the movies, in the bathroom at a party… the list goes on. 