Do tell!
I think it’s quite possible that women don’t experience sexual frustration on the same level, or in the same way, that men do. You could as a man and woman “How horny are you?” and both might say “I’m extremely horny!” and yet mean entirely different things. The gal’s “extremely horny” might equate to the guy’s equivalent of, “The post-coital bliss just wore off a few minutes ago.”
The differences in behavior between men and women as far as seeking out sexual experiences in terms of frequency and variety are often ascribed to differences in how society teach men and women to behave sexually, and to different strategies men and women might adopt for maximum evolutionary success.
But I think it possible that the same evolutionary strategies that make men want to have a variety of lovers might also have designed men’s hormonal systems to put more pressure on them to have sex generally, i.e., making them hornier than women, and different social roles are just defacto responses to those differing levels of interest.
It’s really a hard topic to get any definitive results on, given that human women are the only mammals that don’t go into heat periodically, hence we can’t make comparisons with other mammals.
Still, I think men get hornier than women, generally. That doesn’t mean women have any obligation to have sex with men – after all, men are hormonally driven to be more violent than women as well, and nobody thinks that means women should oblige them as victims. Well, not anymore. Not in the U.S. or other Western countries.
Wow. Evil Captor, that is the most technical thing about sex I’ve ever read. Now that’s all that will be in my head the next time I get some sort of drive worked up and it will all be ruined. Thanks.
[sub]Just kidding. Actually, that makes a lot of sense.[/sub]
Hey, I forgot what my sig said. Sorry to rub that in or maybe it’s more support. . .I don’t know. I guess I just think it’s funny that it fits.
**Bricker;**No, my kids are from a previous marriage, 13 & 11. The hormones of which you are thinking kicked into high gear due to a hysterectomy 8 years ago. They have yet to recede. Happy me!!
Dear Davebear, thank you for the offer, darling man. And it isn’t a shotgun. It’s a .357. Or were you offering to Searching? who sounds like she could be my twin.
Evil Captor, for the most part I believe you are correct. With the kinda weird exception of the women in my immediate family, I haven’t met too many contemporaries who just get the urge and can’t seem to focus on anything else for more than a few minutes before the mind just wanders on back (or in my current case, sprints.).
Shirley; thank you, Thankyou, THANKYOU for the offer of your man for alleviation…but Mr. Maureen would spank.
Hey…wait a minute…that’s not necessarily a bad thing…
[sub]And the padding continues. . .[/sub]
And on another, unrelated, note, I finally hit my 300th post.
Well Maureen, you know that old saying…abstinence makes the heart go yonder. Wait. That’s not it.
I think what I’m really trying to say is, if you try to keep your mind from dwelling on it, you will at least find that time passes more quickly. And before you know it… you’ll be back in the saddle. In the meantime, I do empathize. It’s a right case of stiff luck, it is. And I know how hard that can be. Very very hard.
As for helpful suggestions: Try to build card houses…perhaps that kind of erection would help keep your mind from roaming? Maybe go down to the docks and talk to the seamen you find there? Whatever helps to clear the head I say. Or try cooking some asian cuisine! They say that cream of sum yung gai helps to alleviate symptoms such as you are expriencing. If all else fails try humour. 
Sorry… I’ve been working since 6:30am. They asked if I could come early for a change. And I only got off just now. But, this thread turned out to be a great climax to my day.
Feh. Pikers.
The Spouse has an extremely low sex drive for a male. I have a somewhat high one for a female. We have sex whenever he wants it. He gets stressed and cranky when I ask him for it and he’s not in the mood - he says it feels like I’m sexually harassing him if I ask more than once every couple of weeks - so I don’t ask anymore.
We last had sex sometime in the first week in March (I forget the exact date). The time before that was in January, and before that, sometime in September. Before that was a bit of a drought . . . the Spouse wants sex enough to ask for it about 4 to 6 times a year.
My preferred frequency is 3 to 4 times a week, for comparison. It drops down to 1 to 2 times a week if I’m on the Pill.
This is one of the reasons we have an open relationship . . .
Ok, there is simply no injury that I can imagine which would keep me from settling this issue if I were in that situation.
Guy lays on back, as much pillow support as needed in all the right places, girl straddles his face and his tongue does the water weasel impersonation. This is less physical strain than your average butt scratch. Where there’s a will there’s a way. If you’re really concerned about getting overly assertive, its nothing some ropes can’t fix.
White Lightning
. . . Actually, my wife’s fairly low sex drive, and my off the charts high sex drive has been the target of much frustration for both of us.
Most excellent explanation. Speaking from personal experience, after a few days (10 max) without, I am ready to knaw off my own arm just to give myself something else to think about. Once, due to some surgery on my part, I was unable to partake of any sort of sexual act for a month. By the end of that period, my wife was just getting to the “I think I’m about ready to have sex again.” stage; whereas I, on the other hand, distracted myself by slamming my head in the refrigerator door. I have (thankfully?) never met a woman with a sex drive as high as mine. I have no idea what would happen with two such people in one room.
That whole post was the best, most cogent post I’ve seen from you. Well said, Evil Captor.
And, I’d have to agree. IME, most women don’t seem to have anywhere near the sex drive that men have. The only woman I’ve known who did was my first wife who, unfortunately, also had the morals of an alley cat, to go with it. If that’s not being unfair to alley cats.
Mmmmm…twins!
It’s an interesting experience, knowing, in advance, exactly what fantasy will be distracting me from work, later in the day. I just need to work out how to turn the gunplay into foreplay.
Yes, that IS it! At least, it is, now. I may have that printed on a T-shirt.
Great post! Very funny. Evil. But, funny.
And, Maureen, love…I don’t know much about sciatica, but couldn’t Mr. Maureen do the cuddling, kissing, holding, stroking parts of sex, while you wield your toy? I’d think that would help.
Well, I hope Mr. Maureen knows to appreciate you.
Davebear; what part of “toys don’t help” is unclear? Sorry, it was a long night. Toys serve to allow me to sleep, that’s about the extent of it. Same for a guy, or so I’m told. Alleviates some pressure, not as pleasurable as the act itself. I think it has something to do with the emotions that are mixed up with our physical contact during sex.
Priceguy; yes, he does, thanks. He says he married me for two reasons, one of them being my cooking. And the cooking is definitely the secondary of the reasons.
Wow the stereotypes come out in this thread 
I have a 2 year old and am pregnant with the next one (oh and when pregnant I spend 6 months in sciatica hell so I do know how painful it can be) and would be gnawing my own arm off for the distraction as Mastema so eloquently said if I had to go 2 weeks without sex.
And I do agree with Maureen that toys take the edge off but it is not nearly as fulfilling as the whole experience. I think of it a little like cookies… nothing like warm gooey home made cookies right from the oven but sometimes I steal chocolate chips from the cabinet for a quick sweet fix.
My body has a self protect mechanism though when it doesn’t get the sex it wants. Hubby’s has one too… we end up waking up at 3:00am already involved
The worst time will be following my CSection. The last Csection was our last drought. 8 weeks. I was telling him about this thread and we’re amazed at the disparities in some of the couples sex drives.
Oh and the water weasel comment is the funniest thing I’ve read all week Omniscient!!
Unless I missed it, I am disappointed in all of you for failing to notice Maureen actually wrote the above line in this thread.
Well, that’s cause UES Guy was talking about the Seinfeld episode “The Abstinence” … see above.
I hit that point after about a fortnight. A little longer, but not much. I actually have some minor scars I gave myself in a guilt-soaked attempt to distract myself. (Fortunately, toys seem to take a little more of the edge off for me than for some of the other women in this thread, or I’d never get any work done.)
We’d never leave. 
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Originally posted by Maureen
UES Guy; HAH!! I love that episode. No cancer cure yet, but my in-box sure is empty, and I’ve taken care of that paperwork backlog.
I noticed it too Mullinator but you got there before me. I was praying to get to the end of the posts, and for it to be unmentioned. I think, there-in lies the essence of Maureen’s dissatisfaction.
I think the real question is whether the garbage bags are piling up or not.
You don’t, perchance, live anywhere near Cincinnati, Oh do you? 