I’ll try to keep this one brief. As many of you are probably already know and are tired of hearing about, my wife cheated on me, we’re divorcing, and she immediately went to dating someone else, with whom she’s now happy. If you’re interested in more detail about that, search prior threads or PM me.
My wife and I had been together a long time, and have several mutual friends. Some of them, of course, are very curious about what happened. My wife shared her side of the story with a couple of close friends and family members, but for the most part, she’s a pretty reserved person and not into talking about personal details of her life. I, on the other hand, have no trouble at all talking about what happened, accepting blame for my role in it, and pointing the finger at her where I think it is deserved. I find it somewhat therapeutic.
Now, I’m no longer so foolish as to believe my wife needs any sort of protecting, nor do I wish to provide her with any. But there’s at least one person who is a mutual friend of ours who also is a coworker of my wife’s and hasn’t been told anything about what has happened. Since she is, in fact, my friend, I have no problem sharing the story with her. On the one hand, though, I worry about doing this because she’s prone to gossip, and it might not be long before (at least my version of) the story is floating around my wife’s workplace. On the other hand, I’m not sure why that’s my problem.
So, what am I not thinking of? How would you handle this? Should I be worried about spreading gossip at her workplace? It’s not my intent, but I realize that’s the likely result. Do I have any obligation to keep that from happening, even if it’s a story between friends that gets propagated through no action of mine? Are there other reasons I’m not thinking of that should keep me from sharing with this particular friend?